Recently, I revisited the 1991 version of "Flying Fox in the Snow Mountain" starring Meng Fei and Gong Ci'en. Therefore, on the road of a child's growth, the father's role is irreplaceable. If the child wants to be physically and mentally healthy and grow into an independent pers

Recently, I revisited the 1991 version of "Flying Fox in the Snow Mountain" starring Meng Fei and Gong Ci'en .

Especially when the ending song " Dream Chaser " sounds: Let youth blow your long hair and let it lead your dreams... Oh my God, it is really a childhood memory!

When I was a child, I watched "Flying Fox in the Snow Mountain" and was impressed by Hu Fei's chivalrous tenderness. I envied Cheng Lingsu 's refined wisdom and lamented the death of her feelings.

Now that I am middle-aged, I am watching "Flying Fox in the Snow Mountain" again, only to find that the mystery of parenting is hidden everywhere in the drama.

Hu Fei, Miao Ruolan, Tian Qingwen these characters, their emotional experiences, destiny, and final outcomes are all related to their childhood experiences and original families.

It is difficult for children who have not been loved in childhood to learn to love themselves

The male lead in "Flying Fox in the Snow Mountain", Hu Fei, inherited his fatherHu Yidao's chivalrous personality of "drawing a sword to help when the road is rough". He couldn't practice "Fa" well. In the end, after going through the hardships of life, he finally became the famous "Flying Fox" in the world.

In terms of martial arts, courage, magnanimity, and character, Hu Fei can be called "the best among men", but such a great hero also has his own "weaknesses."

Because his parents died young, Hu Fei became an orphan from the moment he was born. He has never seen his parents' appearance with his own eyes, let alone enjoyed their parents' love. Although Uncle Ping takes care of him, he has been living a homeless and homeless life. The lack of parental love has always been a huge pain in his heart.

When he met Yuan Ziyi, the first object of his love in his life, he fell in love at first sight and couldn't extricate himself. In order to protect the other party, he did not hesitate to fight with Tang Pei for his life. When he was seriously injured, Hu Fei begged Yuan Ziyi not to leave.

In the end, after encountering the blow of the other party's ordination and becoming a monk, he drank all day long, became depressed, and almost ruined his future and his life for a woman.

A bloody man, when faced with the first emotion in his life, will fly to the flames like a moth and be desperate. Such infatuation may seem touching, but it is actually a sign of not knowing how to love himself.

Father Hu Yidao died accidentally due to severe poisoning. Mother Bingxueer could not bear the pain of losing her loved one, so she abandoned the infant Hu Fei, killed herself with a knife, and followed her husband. Such parents are somewhat selfish. They bring a life into this strange world and then choose to abandon him or her, leaving the lonely child longing for love and being loved all his life.

However, this road is by no means smooth. It is doomed to be bumpy and full of hardships. For some people, it is also difficult to learn to love themselves throughout their lives.

In "The Life of the Disliked Songzi", when Songzi was a child, she faced her seriously ill sister and her reserved and unexpressive father. What she experienced in her heart was a strong sense of being ignored. In order to get her father's attention, she He doesn't hesitate to make faces to make his father smile. In Songzi's subconscious, she always believes that the other person is more important than herself, and being able to please others is the most important thing.

So as an adult, when her father took a photo of Matsuko in a kimono, she grimaced again. After leaving home, she lived with a writer, who domestically abused her . She often beat the pine nuts beyond recognition and covered her body with bruises. Then she got involved with a married woman, trying to flatter and please him in every possible way, but in the end she was ruthlessly abandoned by him...

All of Songzi's childhood memories are of her parents' favoritism and indifference. She longs to give love and receive love, but because she has never experienced the most primitive love from her parents, she never learns to love herself, and ends up wasting away in vain. time of his life.

Children have a long way to go, but the time parents can really spend with them is actually very limited. Childhood is a critical period for the formation of a child's personality. Instead of over-satisfying their children's material needs, parents should provide their children with high-quality companionship and nourish their children's hearts with true love.

A father's respect for his mother is the deepest love for his child.

When I was a girl, I still remember the role of Miao Ruolan when I watched "Flying Fox in the Snow Mountain", but at that time I always thought she was the most beautiful girl in the show. Now that I look back and appreciate this character, I seem to have some new thoughts. I can understand both her misfortune and her luck.

Miao Renfeng, known as the "Golden Faced Buddha" in the world, raised his daughter by himself after his wife betrayed him. He has never slandered his wife in front of his daughter, nor has he said a bad word about his wife in front of others.

He silently endured all the pain, gave all his love to his daughter, and always respected and treated his wife who betrayed him with a benevolent heart.

From the initial quarrel between the husband and wife to the time when his wife was deceived into returning the land to farmers and did not hesitate to "abandon her husband and daughter", Miao Renfeng never had any cruel words or deeds towards his wife.

Even during the Battle of Merchant Fort, he met Tian Guinong who fled in a hurry with his wife. Facing his young daughter, who was crying and begging her mother to hug him, his wife never stretched out her hands. Miao Renfeng was in front of everyone. He always remained silent and did not say anything about anyone's rights and wrongs. In the end, he reluctantly hugged his daughter and left alone.

Tian Guinong, who had ulterior motives, persecuted Miao Renfeng several times. He never complained about his betrayal of his wife because of these things. Not only did he not hurt her in words or deeds, but he protected his wife's face and body in secret, openly and secretly. Safety.

I once heard a saying, A father's attitude towards his mother determines the future of his daughter's marriage .

It is precisely because of such a generous and forbearing father that Miao Ruolan will experience the power of father's love and be fully nourished on the road of growth.

She did not become distorted and insecure because of the lack of mother's love. Instead, she had a gentle personality and was full of goodwill and confidence in others, herself, and the world.

Therefore, the last person who was destined to spend a lifetime with Hu Fei was none other than Miao Ruolan.

Psychologist Eric Fromm once said: "Love without respect is control." A father is a mirror in front of his children, and respecting his wife is a kind of upbringing and an education for the children.

Therefore, if a father wants to give his children true love, he must learn to respect his wife and become a role model for his children to learn from.

Behind a rebellious child, there is usually an absent father

After talking about the male and female protagonists, let’s talk about the daughter who returns to the farm.

Although Tian Qingwen is not the female lead in the play, she has a lot of roles. She grew up with her mother in the countryside. After her mother passed away, she was left alone and alone, and then she took refuge with her father.

Qingwen has never enjoyed his father's love since he was a child, and lacks his father's discipline, so Qingwen is lonely and has an indifferent personality. Even though Tian Guinong is by his daughter's side, he rarely really cares about her. He is busy fighting for power and gain every day.

As a result, Qingwen's character became more and more stubborn and rebellious. He was self-centered in everything. When he saw his senior brother, he would say a few good words and he would easily have a relationship with his senior brother behind his father's back.

After the unexpected pregnancy, she fell in love with Tao Zian. Under the pressure of marrying him, she was worried that the matter would be exposed, so she had an abortion and killed the child in her belly.

Psychologist Meg Meeker said: "The biggest danger that girls face is that fathers do not have time to accompany their daughters as they grow up. It is also the biggest danger that fathers face. Because they are not with their daughters, fathers lose "

In the past, Jackie Chan, Wu Qili and "小龙女" Wu Zhuolin had been in constant negative news.

From the initial revelation that Wu Qili was hiding drugs, to being fired from the radio station and living in embarrassment, to Wu Zhuolin calling the police on her mother for domestic violence, each one of them was frightening.

Even though Wu Zhuolin publicly came out as gay and started living together with his thirty-year-old girlfriend, Jackie Chan, who has always been silent, only responded in public with only five words - "As long as she is happy."

Jackie Chan never regarded Wu Zhuolin as his own flesh and blood, and failed to fulfill his responsibilities as a father. Instead, Wu Zhuolin lived in the deep hatred between his parents.

A child who seriously lacks father's love is destined to find ways to fill the black hole in his heart, and rebellious behavior is just another way of expression for them to seek love and call for love.

The famous British writer Harbert once said: "A father is worth 100 principals."

Therefore, on the road of a child's growth, the father's role is irreplaceable. If you want your child to be physically and mentally healthy, he must grow into a child. For a person with an independent personality, the father must be like a mountain, standing behind his children and giving them support and strength.

A TV series adapted from a martial arts novel has evoked the memories of countless people born in the 70s and 80s when they were young.

In the play, every vivid character is also a reflection of characters in real life.

Whether in the martial arts world or the real world, as parents, the best way for us to love our children is to give them a good native family and give them enough love during their childhood.

Written by: kapok