Children are always concerned about their parents. Many times, this nerve is connected to their parents’ blood vessels, hearts, and brains. Children seem to become everything to their parents. So how can parents slowly treat their children’s nerves as their own? What about training and growing up? For many families, children are the center of the family. I believe the most common thing many parents say to their children is that we make money to support you. Is this really the case? I think there are a lot of issues about educating children mixed in, and as parents they just didn’t discover it in time.
The existence of children can be said to be the happy fruit of a family, and children have become the focus of everyone in the family. However, in some families, what children hear most is the pressure from their parents, and they are under pressure that they should not bear at this age. Children's education issues not only improve parents' self-cultivation, but also accompany their children to grow together. In fact, I think that children’s education should be like a level-clearing game that children and parents work hard to complete together. The time together is happy, and you will get certain rewards for each level you pass. Parents and children grow up together. This is the best. educate.
I have seen a piece of news before about a 12-year-old child who committed suicide. After the death of the child, the desperate parents found the suicide note left by the child. There was only this sentence on it: Mom, I’m sorry, I’m not good enough. Do you think this is a family tragedy? I don’t think so. This is an educational tragedy. Who plays the most roles in a child's life drama? It's parents. Many of children's ideas are also learned from their parents, or are created by their parents. The child chose to commit suicide. Doesn’t she know that death is a terrible thing? Or is she willing to leave her parents behind and leave this world alone?
Children’s ideological education is the key. Parents all understand the truth that a good ideological concept has an impact on their children. If a child chooses to end his life easily, it is due to insufficient ideological awareness. In other words, the parents have not educated them well. Some people may not like to hear it, but this is the truth. If a child can throw away his own life at will, this is the reason why the ideological education is not done well, the communication with parents is not adequate, and the parents fail to discover the abnormality of the child in time. If the above points are achieved, I believe this child will still live happily in this world. So how to prevent such incidents from happening?
First, provide psychological education to children from childhood to adulthood, warn children that they only have one life, accompany them to find the true meaning of life, and let them realize and even feel the preciousness of life; second, observe the behavior of children, after all It’s a child, and no matter how you hide it, it will reveal its flaws, so don’t think it’s a waste of time. Necessary observation is indispensable; thirdly, communicate with your child in a timely manner when you find problems. During the communication process with your child, I believe that parents who observe carefully can also find out. When it comes to your own children’s problems, solve them promptly when you discover them. Don’t use unreasonable means, especially beatings and scoldings. You need to reason with your children. They are obedient and good children at this stage. Finally, don’t doubt your children and give them enough confidence. .
Here I will tell you a story about the real experience of a friend around me. It is a bit long, but I believe many people can relate to it. An unlucky girl lives in a relatively poor family, with a family of five, including her father, mother and two younger sisters. The family was considered harmonious before she went to high school. So where was the turning point that made this girl unlucky? It's the college entrance examination. The girl's grades have been very good since she was a child. When she reached high school, she had the idea of not wanting to study for the first time, so she joked with her parents about it, but her parents didn't ask anything and just scolded her. It's hard to hear. Later, the girl never told her parents about anything that happened at school. Sometimes, even if the school paid for it, the girl would use the money she had saved so hard. She began not to tell her parents anything, and her parents never told her anything. ask.
Later, the college entrance examination was over, and the girl’s grades did not reach the first-tier level. Her parents’ attitude towards her was very bad. Her mother still cried and said, how could I give birth to such a thing as you? Later, every time someone at home asked about her grades, her parents would always sneer at her, and the girl would feel devastated. Because the family background is not good, the girl has to help with a lot of things at home. Once when the girl finished her work, she looked at her mobile phone, and her father said, "I know how to play with mobile phones every day, and I deserve to do poorly in the exam." The girl's long-standing emotional outburst, she replied After saying one sentence, the father took a stick and beat the girl. The place where he was hit was swollen and blue, and the girl's heart died.
Later, the girl refused to go home. When she returned home, she was a transparent person and did not say a word. Her parents used cold violence against her and ignored her. They always told her parents on the phone that she did nothing at home. In fact, the girl had calluses on her hands that no one of her age had, and her parents put her in a weak position. In this position, the girl felt that everything she did was wrong, and she could not feel a trace of warmth at home. The story ends here. To be honest, this girl is the epitome of many native families. Parents of such families should reflect on why their children always have unwanted consequences.
Children are not hard laborers from poor families. In this era of , children are no longer what their parents experienced before. Times have changed and one generation has achieved success. So why should we compare children with their parents? No matter how good or bad their studies are, they are still your children. Don’t treat them day by day. You can't even bear this little bit of hardship and talk about it. As a role model for your children, you can't bear even this. It's okay for your children to do a little bit for you, but it's not necessary. If you have to compare, some children may not be better than you. poor. Children are kind and enthusiastic by nature, so parents should not use cold violence or verbal violence on their children. Such children will grow up to have low self-esteem. For families in need, nurturing children is equivalent to investing in the future. So be sure to choose the right education method.
Everyone must be very concerned about the education methods of the second generation of stars, such as Qi Wei’s daughter Lucky, Huang Lei’s daughter Huang Duoduo, and Tian Liang’s daughter Sendie. These are positive examples of children’s education. They all have one thing in common in educating children. It is free education. Children can live the way they like, choose what they like, and learn what they like. Here we need to let everyone understand what free education is?
Free education is about letting children grow up on their own. Of course, it is not really letting go. It is about giving children enough space and free choice, and it is a kind of freedom that helps them gain correct understanding. But many parents don’t think so. Choose a remedial class for your child that you think is good for her, and pass the ones she likes; choose majors that you think are good, and ignore majors that she thinks she likes. That’s the way it is. The more you interfere, the worse your child’s The road to growth becomes more difficult, and more and more children are unable to do what they like and choose to be rebellious, so parents should learn to educate freely.
Respect children's choices. When she makes a choice, her parents can carefully accompany her to consider it, extract appropriate opinions, and finally reach a consensus. Secondly, don’t hold your children in your hands. Children need to think independently. Don’t make all the decisions for them. This will have a very bad impact on the children and will cause them to lose their ability to think independently and even lose themselves. Finally, support your children, After a child makes a decision that she considers important, she often wants to share it with her parents and gain their approval. Parents must support their children at this time, because it is not easy for them to make a choice. Of course, if you really disagree, you can seriously discuss it with your children, make an agreement, etc.
Children are angels and works of art with emotions. The appearance of the child may change in the future, but the personality, conduct, and thoughts will not change easily. Therefore, parents must put all their efforts and efforts into their children’s education. They are the dragon and phoenix of the future, the pillars of the country, and the pride of your future.I hope you won’t be blinded by the educational problems you are experiencing, and learn to take a long-term view to catch the big fish!
