was chatting with several mothers a few days ago. We all set up a WeChat group to share some parenting knowledge or express some complaints. Basically, we were joining the group to keep each other warm and comfort each other!
One of the mothers said: She wrote a self-reflection letter for Dabao. Although her child had not graduated from kindergarten and could not read, she felt it was necessary to say sorry to her child.
So everyone talked about what they had done. Not good, I feel sorry for the child. As I looked at it, I felt sour in my heart and couldn't stop crying.
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The 34-year-old mother of Duobao is a family of one son and one daughter. When Duobao was in senior class, she gave birth to another daughter. In her own words, she fulfilled her dream of becoming a princess. But I encountered difficulties in dealing with the relationship between the two children.
Dear Duobao, I’m sorry!
Mom, I apologize for beating you yesterday. No matter what, you are my child and one of my favorite people. I shouldn't have done anything to you.
But do you know? I was so worried the moment my mother couldn't find you. I was so afraid that I would never see you again.
Maybe you think your parents love your sister more than you, so you want to attract our attention, but there are many ways, but you chose the one that is least acceptable to me.
You hide yourself, go missing, ask your parents to find you, mobilize your friends, relatives and neighbors, and even call the police. You have caused problems in our own family to the point where our relatives and friends cannot live in peace. I can't stand this.
The moment I found you, the stone in my heart was relieved, but I beat you.
I rarely hit you. I don’t advocate that education should rely on sticks or fists, but you have challenged my bottom line. Maybe you are still angry with me now. Maybe when you grow up, you will understand the painstaking efforts of being a parent. Waiting for you If you have your own children, you can understand how I felt at that time.
I will find a better way to love you two brothers and sisters in the future. I don’t prefer my sister, but she is younger and needs more mother’s care. When you were little, I did the same to you.
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Linlin’s mother is a hot mom, and she is also the most open-minded mother I know. She talks about going out together every day, and she feels carefree. While we all still envied her for marrying a good husband, having a mother-in-law to care for, and helping to take care of the children, she also sounded the alarm in terms of childcare.
Mom’s favorite baby Linlin
Yesterday when having dinner, mom asked you to sit on your own dining table and chair and have a good meal, but you acted so petty that you refused to eat and insisted on being fed by grandma. In fact, you are already two years old. If you let your grandma feed you all the time, can you take your grandma with you when you go to kindergarten? Can grandma accompany you for the rest of your life? I know you don't understand any of this, you just like the feeling of being pampered by your grandma.
Yesterday, my mother was a little worried because of work matters, so she didn’t explain or persuade you more. I put the bowl on the dining table: Eat, you must eat by yourself today, otherwise you will be hungry. When you saw me getting angry, you instinctively ran to the kitchen to find grandma. Grandma didn't worry about me and said: Oh, isn't it just for a meal? She made such a mess by herself and I have to clean it up. I'll just feed him later. .
Grandma's pampering and pampering made me angry all of a sudden. I almost yelled and said: OK, then you can follow grandma and let grandma feed you for the rest of your life. Don't look for me as your mother again.
When I saw your frightened eyes, running towards me and hugging my legs and crying, I realized how terrible I was at that time. I actually did such a terrible thing to my daughter.
I wanted to lower my head and comfort you. You, but I don’t know what to say, and I don’t know where to start from apologizing. The concept of intergenerational parenting makes me want to teach you well, but I also have to worry about grandma.
Mom promises that she will not bring the troubles from work home again, and will communicate well with grandma about education, and will not lose her temper with you.
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What happened to Haohao’s mother makes me feel the most distressed. As a woman, she Live like a man. She runs her own micro-business to make money, takes her children to classes, and participates in various interest classes. To me, she seems to be busy all the time.
Hello son,
I think you are already a little man, and we can communicate normally.
An unpleasant thing happened between us recently. You yelled at me: Mom, you don’t love me at all, and I got so angry that I slapped you in the face.
I know you have grown up and I should follow your ideas. But have you ever tried to consider your mother's feelings?
Since you were very young, your mother has taken care of you all by yourself. As a stay-at-home mother, I soon became a yellow-faced woman, living a life like begging with my palms facing up, and my father would still care about me because he felt like me. Angry about spending too much on living expenses.
You know, I haven’t bought any clothes for myself all year round. Skin care products are also rarely used, not to mention expensive jewelry. I don't know how expensive oil and salt are when I'm not a wealthy person. I wish I could break every penny in half and spend it. However, even so, I still couldn't be satisfied, and even my father gradually became disgusted with me.
I have thought about divorce, but what should I do when faced with such a young you? It's definitely impossible to take you with me. I have no financial income and the court won't award it to me. But I don't trust and can't bear to leave you with my father and another woman.
I have endured this kind of life for eight years. During these eight years, I tried my best to make money on my own. Except for major household expenses, I never asked your father for a penny. If nothing else, I want to speak for myself.
Now that you are older, I want to live my own life. I want to live my own life with you, but you say that I don’t love you and you won’t follow me even if I divorce my father.
I suddenly feel that my persistence for the past 8 years has become a joke. I am indeed a foreigner, and you are my relatives.
This time, I want to be selfish. I am almost forty years old, and I want to live for myself in the remaining decades of my life.
I hope you can understand me when you grow up.
Conclusion:
There are joys and troubles on the road to parenting, and there are also interesting things and embarrassing things. But why is it always the mother who is reflecting on herself and apologizing for her actions that are considered wrong every day.
As the children grow up, so does the mother. May every mother not only love her children, but also love herself
