"Should you give gifts to teachers?" This is a common topic.
What is a cliché? No matter when and where this topic is raised, people will definitely sit on the bench and talk about it for thousands of miles ~ [Small applause]
Where does the sensitivity come from? (This article has been pushed for 20 hours and has only 400 impressions, which is a record low. It makes me think of something) I have seen similar articles on the headlines, especially around Teacher’s Day. As the “receiver of gifts” "I looked upset, and even though I was suffering a lot, I didn't dare to say a single word. Teacher, if you say you won't accept the gift, who will believe it? It is true that some people are implicitly and explicitly asking for it.
I just started working at a public school in an urban area of a second-tier city, twenty years ago.
The principal is a middle-aged strong woman [admiration] , who is resolute and resolute, not too wordy!
At the freshman parent-teacher meeting, she took a microphone and spoke in the auditorium: The parent-teacher meeting is coming soon. I advise parents not to think about whether to give gifts. The female teachers in our school have happy family lives and the teachers’ salaries are stable. Sheng, the husband you are looking for is very capable. Even if you are not here, all of you are rich or noble, but you are still not as good as the ones above, but more than the ones below. So, don’t give gifts to our teachers, don’t fall out with the teacher over trivial matters afterwards, settle old scores, come to me to reason, I will ignore them...
In my first year of work, I sat down and listened to sweating , the master told me: , don’t be afraid, Dong School brainwashes the parents of new students every year! Lest they mess around...
A strong general has no weak soldiers, and parents are also clear about it. The work in those years was peaceful [rose] [rose], and the relationship between home and school was clear and refreshing. Your child's grades are not good, The teacher volunteered to help the baby with tutoring after get off work. There was no WeChat. The grandparents were waiting at the door. After receiving the baby, they nodded and thanked the teacher. Everyone treated each other respectfully and did their own thing~[666][666]
In the past few years, I have been working hard. We have changed to a new environment, but what remains unchanged is always remembering the meaning of Mr. Dong’s crisp words: Only by grasping the right balance can we control the relationship well.
As a teacher, I don't like parents giving gifts . The scene in the video of visiting relatives in the countryside where one party gives gifts and the other party pushes them around is very shocking. Isn't it shocking? It's not worth getting all messed up over some scraps! ! ! !
In today's information age, I don't communicate anything in writing, for fear of taking it out of context and taking screenshots to tell the world about you. Later, my colleagues told me that the audio was not reliable, and later said that the phone calls might be recorded, which scared me so much that I didn’t dare to speak for several days! When did
start and we have become so humble? This humility can only be felt by the person involved. Accidentally, I entered a high-risk profession!
You said that with our status, why do we dare to think about other people's things? I really don’t dare, I really don’t dare.
Secondly, let’s be honest. Teachers’ salaries are not low. In addition, in my husband’s words, teachers are generally conservative in their thinking and don’t have much greed and desire. , he looked into my eyes and said, I Believe what he said is true. The implication is that I am relatively cheap and don’t spend much! It’s enough, why should I bother with that?
Let’s talk about a real incident. My colleague received a gift box from a parent in his class. Will it hurt the parents’ self-esteem ? How can be so natural? I felt sorry for her when I saw how worried she was during those days. "Teachers don't accept gifts" has long been known to the world. Who would be willing to commit crimes .
Finally, would it be good for your child to give a gift as a parent? Wrong, wrong, wrong! Your child is a treasure, and the teacher will naturally value it. What does the teacher like the most? He is a good student! Good students are the teacher’s face and the teacher’s pride! If your child is not good enough, even three melons and two dates cannot help him climb the wall. If he really climbs the wall, what will other parents say?
In addition to students with good conduct and good grades, what else does the teacher like? Of course, he is a meddlesome parent . It's enough for parents who don't do much to trust their teachers, take good care of their children, guide their children to be grateful, and don't make extra demands on the teacher. If you do these things, the teacher will like you before it's too late. Take the initiative to like you!
As a parent, I never give gifts to my children’s teachers. When I was in kindergarten, my silly child still needed diapers in middle class. This undoubtedly caused a lot of trouble for the teacher, but I adhere to the principle of "no gifts" to guide my children. Learn to be grateful. Over the past four years, I have gotten along well with the kindergarten teachers. We are still friends today. When I was in elementary school, when my children were in their own school, it was more polite to give gifts among colleagues. When you go to middle school, it is important for your children to have good grades or good conduct! But there is one thing, if the teacher asks me for help, I will be happy to help within the normal range, and I feel it is an honor in my heart, hahaha!
Something happened that made me feel the awkwardness between teachers and parents.
Xiaoding is my child from a long time ago. He is well-behaved and sensible. He has now gone to Australia to study. His parents came to see me a few years ago, but there was nothing they could do! Xiaoding's younger brother, Xiaodouding, got average grades and was causing trouble at school. The teacher asked Xiaoding's mother to report the situation. Ding's mother believed Xiaodouding's words and had a conflict with the teacher, and the talk broke down on the spot.
Afterwards, Ding’s mother found out that she had been deceived by Douding, and her intestines were damaged. I feel that the teacher must be unhappy: a bad boy who lies, and a stupid mother who protects her baby. After thinking about it, I felt that the teacher was starting to target Douding, so I took advantage of the Mid-Autumn Festival to send the teacher a card. Unexpectedly, I found it in the child's book that afternoon, and the teacher returned it.
Now Douding's mother was even more confused, so she came to me: Teacher Xiangxiang, I am in trouble. Douding will not have a good life in elementary school for the next four years.
I couldn't help but laugh when I saw Ding's mother, who was all-powerful in the business world, in a dilemma.
The two of us came to a conclusion: seek truth from facts and ask the teacher to admit your mistakes, and you can no longer protect your calf.
I believe everyone has guessed the ending: perfect!
Again, empathize with others, we are all mortals, and it is easy to be moved by true feelings.
Last year, Ding’s mother and her family had immigrated to Australia. Because of the twists and turns of the epidemic, last time I asked a friend to send me a box of Australian red wine. She took the initiative and said: It has been seven years since Xiao Ding graduated. I am not giving a gift. It’s just something shared between good friends. I also brought a copy of Little Douding’s Yanzi Teacher!
Such a gift fills my heart with joy.
Summary: If it’s not out of genuine gratitude, don’t give it away; if you don’t really need the money, don’t accept it!
Everyone understands! Refreshing and refreshing!
