The Paper reporter Zhu Xuan
For Li Jingwei (formerly known as Li Fangfu), who was abducted at the age of 4 and drew a map 33 years later to find his biological mother, "finding his mother" does not mean that the story has come to a perfect end, but that he and his mother Let’s face the beginning of a new life together.
Li Jingwei’s hand-drawn hometown map.
In January this year, Li Jingwei and his biological mother reunited in Kaifeng, Henan Province. After the lively reunion, real problems followed: the dilemma of holding the traffickers accountable, financial embarrassment, and the tragic experiences of the past are still there. It affects him and his mother, and the trauma cannot be eliminated quickly.
Before Mother's Day, Li Jingwei told The Paper (www.thepaper.cn) that in order to be closer to his mother and to support his family, he quit his sales job in Guangdong and worked on a construction site in Zhengzhou, which required him to work at high altitudes. His family objected and were worried about his safety, but he said that this is a job with a relatively better income and that can better take care of his family.
In March this year, he celebrated his mother’s first birthday. He said that this was the first time he said “Happy Birthday” to his mother after being away from her for 34 years. The glory of his mother in his memory is no longer there, but fortunately his mother is still his mother, fortunately the rich kid is still the same rich kid, fortunately everything is in time, fortunately everything is still warm...
Li Jingwei said, There is always a kind of sadness behind the warm and happy birthdays. My mother often recalls her husband who died after being affected by the trafficking incident, and her children who died unexpectedly, and she sheds tears when she thinks about it.
Recently, Li Jingwei also got in touch with his abducted sister-in-law and cousin. When my sister-in-law was 14 years old, she was abducted to Anhui and married to a man who was twenty or thirty years older than her. After the man died, my sister-in-law was able to escape and run back home.
Li Jingwei said that at present, the police are still investigating the above-mentioned situation. He and his sister-in-law hope that the traffickers can be held accountable and that their mother's wish can be fulfilled.
Currently, Li Jingwei is looking for a job working at heights in Zhengzhou.
After resigning, he returned to work at a construction site in Zhengzhou.
"When I saw my mother again, she was no longer in her prime as she remembered."
Li Jingwei said that his mother had suffered too much, her eyesight was bad, and her memory was also very poor. He regards taking care of his mother and family as the most important task. He cherishes the time spent together, but he also faces a series of real problems.
Li Jingwei recalled that since the day he was abducted at the age of 4, he often drew pictures of his hometown on the ground with a stick, for fear that he would forget.
33 years later, when he saw that Guo Gangtang and Sun Haiyang were successful in finding their children, he became more determined to find relatives. He spent 10 minutes drawing a hand-drawn picture of his hometown and posted it online to find relatives. He thought it would take several years to find relatives. Year, unexpectedly, I found information about the suspected biological mother in Zhaotong, Yunnan.
On December 29 last year, Li Jingwei told The Paper that his DNA comparison with his biological mother was successful. When he learned the news, he calmed down for a minute, and then he couldn't sit still anymore. "My mouth was moving, but I couldn't speak."
"I was the most excited when the call was connected. My mother I cried as soon as I got on the phone, and I could hear her voice. After the video call, I recognized her immediately. Her lips were exactly the same as mine, even the teeth were the same," he said.
After that, he lived with his mother in Lankao for a while, and spent the first reunion year after mother and son got together in Zhoukou ; but at the same time, he also found that he could no longer take care of his life in Guangdong. Work.
His original sales job was performance-oriented. During the epidemic, the industry was not in recession. He also took a lot of leave to find relatives and could not keep up with his work. The company transferred him to the e-commerce department, but he was not interested in "sales." The set of "goods" is not very good at playing and cannot be balanced.
On the other hand, my adoptive father was hospitalized some time ago, and something happened at my father-in-law’s house. "I emptied my wallet all of a sudden." He said that these things cannot be ignored. He can only find a job with a higher salary and closer to home. It doesn't matter if it is harder or more tiring.
So, Li Jingwei quit his job in Guangdong and returned to Henan.
Before going into sales, he worked as a line worker for State Grid for seven or eight years. At that time, he had to work at an altitude of 100 meters, and he even broke his bones for this. This time when he returned to Henan, he resumed his job and started laying cables in Zhengzhou.
He said that although his mother and family members were very opposed to it, fearing that it would be unsafe for him and that his body would not be able to handle it as he was no longer young, he still insisted on doing it.
"I used to sit in an office without exerting any effort, but I had to play with data and use my brain. I couldn't do it. If the performance was not enough, I didn't explain it to the boss." Li Jingwei said that working at a construction site can earn more money, but even if you are exposed to the wind and sun every day, it is still dangerous. a little. "This is just a matter of effort, no need to use my brain. I can calm down."
At the same time, he is still posting videos on the Douyin platform to help other abducted families find their relatives. He has witnessed many families find their children or parents. Sincerely pleased.
At present, Li Jingwei’s short video account has more than 120,000 fans. However, he said that the popularity of the Internet will not last forever. After the traffic peak, short videos can play a limited role and he will not use this account to bring goods. , nor are they engaged in professional operations. "It's more reliable for me to work on a construction site. I have to support my family first," he said.
Li Jingwei and his mother
His mother still sheds tears when recalling those years, hoping to hold the traffickers accountable
In March this year, Li Jingwei spent his first birthday with his mother after their reunion.
He wrote on Douyin: It has been 34 years since I left my mother, and this is the first time since my birth that I have said "Happy Birthday" to my mother. Fortunately, my mother is still my mother, fortunately the rich baby is still the same rich baby as before, fortunately everything is in time, fortunately everything is still warm...
At the same time, he also said that it should be warm and happy Birthday, but still sad. The abduction incident that year caused great harm to Li Jingwei's parents, especially his biological mother, who still has lingering fears.
Li Jingwei said that before she recognized her relatives, her mother gradually let go of a series of events from that year. "In the past, when people saw how hard it was for my mother to find her, they would lie to her and tell her that I might have been run over by a car, or that my organs had been harvested, and they wanted her to give up." Li Jingwei said that his mother couldn't find her, so she thought Li Jingwei was gone. The thoughts slowly faded away.
But now that he is back, his mother's memories of those years have been brought back to her, and she often cries.
Li Jingwei’s mother once said in an interview with the media that she has never given up looking for Li Jingwei, but she has no clue at all. She carried Li Jingwei's brother on her back and went to Yunnan, Sichuan and other places to look for him, and later ran to Zhoukou, Henan. At that time, she had no money in her pocket, so she worked as a cook in a local sheep factory.
After that, she settled in Henan and remarried. Her eldest daughter, second son, and second daughter-in-law died in accidents one after another. Once, her youngest daughter was almost abducted by human traffickers, but fortunately, her colleagues found out in time and snatched her back. Last year, her 11-year-old grandson also died in an accident. Li Jingwei said that these regrets have become an indelible knot in his mother's heart, especially that his father was beaten and injured while looking for him and later died.
Recently, Li Jingwei established contact with his cousin and sister-in-law who were abducted to Anhui. He said that his cousin and sister-in-law were abducted when they were 14 and 13 years old respectively, and they already remembered the incident. After my sister-in-law came back, she saw Li Jingwei trying to hold the trafficker accountable, and she also wanted to hold him accountable, and told him everything about her abduction experience.
Li Jingwei said that his 14-year-old sister-in-law was abducted and married to a man who was twenty or thirty years older than her. After the man died, her sister-in-law was free and ran back home. "She said that only she knew how much suffering she had suffered and how much inhuman treatment she had received."
During this period, Li Jingwei expressed the hope of returning to his hometown in Yunnan to visit, but this plan was delayed again and again due to the epidemic. On the other hand, his family rarely mentioned the matter and did not want him to return to his hometown in Yunnan. "They are still haunted by what happened back then and are still afraid of retaliation."
Li Jingwei said that his family was too poor at that time, and his mother and family suffered too much. He also suffered a lot of bullying after being abducted from home, but they did not He will bully others, but he must hold him accountable for being kidnapped. He firmly believes that human traffickers will be severely punished and more families looking for relatives will be reunited.
Editor in charge: Cui Xuan Picture editor: Hu Mengqi
Proofreading: Luan Meng
