Author | Liu Na 1 In the past few days, college entrance examination results from various places have been released one after another. There is a piece of news that I continue to pay attention to, which makes people very emotional. On June 8, at the end of the college entrance examination, a touching scene happened at the gate of Anhui No. 10 Middle School: A boy in a yellow T-shirt walked out with a light step after finishing the last English test, and strode to his mother who was waiting outside the examination room. before. Before his mother could react, the boy knelt down and said, "Mom, thank you, you have worked hard these years." The mother held the child in her arms, and bursts of applause broke out.
html On June 23, the results of the Anhui College Entrance Examination were announced. This boy who knelt down to his mother scored 635 points, 139 points higher than the top scorer in Anhui Science. Although he was not the top scorer, he was excellent. Even better is the story behind the mother and son. The boy who knelt down was named Wang Hengjie, and he grew up in a single-parent family. He admitted frankly that the moment he knelt down after the college entrance examination was not a plan or a hype, but a gift he would give to his mother regardless of whether he did well or failed in the exam. Over the years, after his parents divorced, his father also cared about him very much, but it was not easy for his mother to bear all the burden of life. What mother Li Shu said during the interview was even more touching and moving. She said that when she was divorced, many people advised her that it would be difficult for a divorced woman to raise a child, but she promised that she would take her son with her even if he was begging for food. Over the years, what she fears most is that she will fall ill from exhaustion and have no one to take care of her son, so she desperately takes care of herself and makes herself healthy and beautiful, so that she can watch her son go to college. No matter how difficult or tiring it was, she never saw her son as a burden, nor did she feel that she was paying for her son. She considered her son to be a friend who would accompany her on her journey.
What is gratifying is that my son is sensible, studious, sunny and healthy, and has very strong empathy. He will always help people who need help. Now that her son is admitted to college, she is single and has to work hard to pursue her own happy life. After reading this, I really think this mother and son are amazing. If Wang Hengjie, who knelt down for his mother and scored 635 points in the test, proved that grateful children will not have bad luck, then Li Shu, a mother with a clear outlook on life, told the truth for mothers all over the world: Divorce and raising children are not easy It's scary, but single-parent families are not scary. As long as the mother is tough and peaceful, the children can grow up bright and strong. Marital status cannot measure the success or failure of a mother. But the mother's mentality is related to the growth form of the child. A good mother never talks about dedication and sacrifice, but wears sunshine and beauty on her body, so that the children radiated by her energy can walk brightly and healthily.
A group photo of mother and son, the mother looks great. In fact, to a certain extent, the child’s views and stance are hidden where the parents stand. If you don’t believe it, take a look at how the husband and his mother in the case of the pregnant woman who fell off a cliff in Thailand demonstrated the truth from the opposite side. 2 Ms. Wang from Jiangsu, who was 3 months pregnant, was pushed off a 34-meter (equivalent to 10-story) cliff by her husband Yu while traveling in Thailand. Fortunately, the sky has eyes. Not only was Ms. Wang saved, but the baby in her belly was also safe.
Injured Ms. Wang After Ms. Wang was sent to the hospital for rescue, her husband Yu warned him not to tell the police that he pushed her, otherwise he would not be able to spare his wife. Therefore, when the Thai police first investigated, Ms. Wang lied that she accidentally fell. As the investigation deepened, Ms. Wang finally admitted that it was not someone else who wanted to kill her and her children, but her husband. The reason why her husband wanted to kill her was because he had incurred a lot of debts from gambling. After killing her, he could monopolize all the property she had worked hard for.
Yu Such an extreme and cruel case is not worth panic. Such crazy and low-end animals cannot represent men. However, in this case that shocked both China and the world, one overlooked detail revealed "how scum is raised" - after Ms. Wang fell off the cliff, her mother-in-law rushed to Thailand from China and asked her daughter-in-law who was lying in the hospital bed , "For the sake of the children and the relationship between the couple", he continued to lie to the Thai police.When Ms. Wang retorted that when her husband killed her, she never thought "for the sake of the children and the relationship between the couple", the mother-in-law who defended the crazy son actually said this: "You are not dead, why are you like this?" Be petty!" These cold words made her completely stop having any illusions about her husband, and she saw clearly what kind of family the person she married had. How can a mother-in-law who only thinks that her son's life is important and her daughter-in-law's life be nothing, educate a responsible son? What kind of distorted views has a husband who always wants to take advantage of nothing, take shortcuts lying down, murder his pregnant wife, and enjoy the bloody inheritance since childhood? Tragedies over and over again remind us that the child's understanding is hidden in the mother's words and deeds. The child's destiny also carries the weight of the mother. Parents' words and deeds contain the disaster and blessing of their children to a certain extent. This cognition has also been emphasized many times by teacher Li Meijin , who has been engaged in research on adolescent psychological problems for a long time. 3. After the Zhang Yingying case, teacher Li Meijin once said this in conjunction with the Yao Jiaxin case and Lin Senhao case: Some children who seem to have high IQs have no basic sense of right and wrong in their minds. They are completely self-centered and regard everyone they dislike as their enemies. Although they are adults and have high test scores, they have never had this understanding in their minds: other people's lives are as precious as mine; hurting or killing others must be paid with life; breaking the law must be punished by law. Many people may wonder, if these 8-year-old children understand the truth, how can those who have received higher education not know it? The answer given by teacher Li Meijin is: I am very sorry, although they have high academic qualifications, they have no correct ideas.
Teacher Li Meijin Where do righteous ideas come from? From books? From the teacher? From society? Teacher Li Meijin, who has interviewed hundreds of teenagers, said: The concept of righteousness comes from the words and deeds of parents and family. She gave an example. For example, if they witness a murder, the parents of most families will warn their children: "We can't do this. If we kill others, we will go to jail." However, parents of some families will also say, "They deserve to be punished." "Kill" to acquiesce in atrocities. Never underestimate this contrast. Small things like this, in the influence year after year, will form two completely different kingdoms of concepts in the inner world of children: every time parents queue up quietly or maliciously block traffic, forcefully run a red light or walk in an orderly manner, be considerate of others or add insult to injury, Respect for life or cruelty and indifference ultimately affects every detail of a child's consciousness, determining whether they will become a pure and beautiful person or a murderous maniac at important moments.
A family demonstrates lining up for their children because, when the weather is calm, there are not many differences between people. In critical moments of inner conflict, a person's subconscious actions come from his accumulated ideas. Parents and tutors are the starting point and source of this concept, and to some extent they also determine the life, death, honor and disgrace of their children. Sometimes, the development of bad ideas or good ideas only needs to start with a pineapple that cannot speak. 4 I watched a Thai video that was of great benefit. My mother, who never went to school, was a fruit vendor in a slum. After giving birth to her daughter, she had no noble and decent principles to teach her children. Seeing her packing the fruits, her young daughter also came to help, chopping the pineapple with a knife, but she couldn't cut it properly. She wanted to cut the pineapple for her daughter, but after thinking about it, she picked up another pineapple and started cutting it in front of her daughter silently. After my daughter saw it, she smiled knowingly and learned to cut it in a decent manner.
My daughter saw the neighbor’s children taking money to buy ice cream, and she stood at the intersection and drooled with greed. The mother who had been selling fruit for a day looked at the handful of change in the money jar and wanted to tell her children about her family's poverty and hardship. But she didn't. At night, after her daughter fell asleep, she cut the unsold pineapples into cubes and froze them in the freezer. The next day, after the scorching sun rose, she let her daughter taste it.The daughter happily ate her mother's pineapple ice cream and suddenly thought: "Mom, we should take it out and sell it!"
The mother actually made a simple ice box for her daughter, with three pineapple popsicles in it for her daughter Go and have a look. As a result, my daughter sold none for a day. Seeing her daughter return home frustrated, her mother wanted to accuse her: "How do you sell things like this?" But she just reminded her daughter: "You should go to the market and see how others sell things." The daughter went to the market After a lap, he quickly ran home, drew an illustration on the ice box, and wrote eye-catching "Pineapple ice cream, 5 yuan a piece, 3 pieces for 10 yuan", and hawked it loudly, and soon became the most popular ice cream around. Popular pineapple ice cream seller.
"I don't have much education, but I'm very happy to see her learn from practice. She can try to solve problems by herself. One day I won't be with her anymore, and I believe she can live a good life." This mother explain. This video is based on the true story of Poonsowat, a girl who received the Sarnrak Scholarship in Thailand, and her mother. It tells us: Mother’s words and deeds are better than any high-sounding preaching. Family tradition and tutoring, which are concerned with trivial matters, are the magic weapon for children to become adults. 5 Education scholar Teacher Yin Jianli said: "A good mother is better than a good teacher." In fact, a mother who truly knows how to love and educate is sometimes better than 100 teachers. As mothers, no matter whether we are married or divorced, poor or rich, literate or uneducated, accomplished or ordinary... Only when we abandon the prejudice, arrogance and rules in our minds, put down our dignity and lean down, Only when you abandon preaching and lead your children with actions can true love flow. True love is not doting and pampering, nor coercion and control, but loving yourself deeply and loving your children deeply, and seeing yourself when you see your children. It is we who tirelessly sow the seeds of full acquaintance in the children's hearts day after day, and then, slowly and steadily over the long ordinary years, watch it grow into a tree in the wind and rain, and inadvertently bloom. One tree after another produces flowers and fruits. Disclaimer: This article is reprinted for the purpose of conveying more information. If there is an error in the source annotation or infringement of your legitimate rights and interests, please contact the author with proof of ownership and we will promptly correct and delete it. Thank you. (Article source: Lan Li)
