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In "Thirty Only", Gu Jia had actually discovered the signs of Xu Huanshan's cheating, but because of love and trust, she allowed herself to choose to believe it again and again.
It's not that I haven't doubted it, but because I love it so much, I feel that two people have been together for ten years, so many years of ups and downs, how could it be possible?
But for what it’s worth, Xu Huanshan still disappointed Gu Jia, but Gu Jia didn’t expect that Xu Huanshan would cheat so completely.
I have to admire Tong Yao . She plays Gu Jia’s reaction after learning about Xu Huanshan’s cheating. Her acting skills are explosive and she has a strong sense of empathy.
I dare say that many women who have experienced betrayal in marriage can relate to it: worked hard for this family and pursued perfection, but in the end? I feel that all my efforts over the years have gone to waste. I feel unworthy of myself and feel even more sad for myself.
Why is cheating always the bottom line in marriage and unforgivable?
Because the person who cheated on you based his sexual pleasure on your pain, your heart is in pain, your efforts are not worth it, and the home you have been trying to protect has been trampled by others.
Who can swallow this breath?
The more you love, the less you can forgive your partner's betrayal. The moment you learn the truth about the extramarital affair is also the collapse of all the marital trust between the two of you. There is no trust anymore, and there is no way to continue living.
Although the ending of "Thirty Only" made many viewers unhappy, we still have to admire the screenwriter's grasp of the psychology of a woman who has suffered betrayal. In previous dramas, we have seen more women's super strong counterattacks, and it is the first time that we have such a psychological grasp of details.
In "Thirty Only", the scene that touched me the most was: Gu Jia was crying in the bathtub.
When Gu Jia took Xu Huanshan to negotiate with Lin Youyou, and when she saw Lin Youyou's blue fireworks tattoo, Gu Jia suffered severe psychological trauma at that moment. Xu Huanshan once said that every one of his works was given to Gu Jia, but what does that blue fireworks tattoo prove? It proves that Xu Huanshan has completely cheated, and the little beauty he and Gu Jia once had was also shared with another woman.
Gu Jia's heart is broken, as much as the love is deep, the brokenness is as severe.
After returning, Gu Jia soaked herself in the bathtub with her clothes on. She drank wine, and her frustrated appearance made people feel distressed.
"I used to think that every firework Xu Huanshan set off was for me, for this family. I was so damn ridiculous. I just wanted to be his power bank, know more than him, and let him always be with me. Have something to talk about, will what I do become his pressure?"
Gu Jia has been drinking, and she said that if she doesn't drink, the pain will be worse.
A woman who is too obsessed with love and devotes her wholeheartedly to love and marriage will feel that her view of love has collapsed when she is completely betrayed. For a moment, you may feel that your life is like a joke, so what is perfection for, and you start to doubt yourself.
The finale of "Only Thirty": Gu Jia cried bitterly in the bathtub, hurting so many women who had been betrayed, and Gu Jia's pain was a thorn in the hearts of many women.
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It hurts, it hurts, Gu Jia soaked in the bathtub and sank for a while.
Maybe because he thought of Xu Ziyan, Gu Jia still crawled out of the bathtub.
It is difficult for a married woman, especially a woman who becomes a mother. The first thing you think about is your own child. No matter how uncomfortable you are, think about the person you can’t let go of the most. In the end, you have to let yourself go. stand up. Isn't
just hurt a little bit? It's sad, but you can get through it in the end.
After Gu Jia saw off Lin Youyou at the airport, she suddenly wanted to let herself go. She bought a ticket that could take off immediately. No matter which city, for her, as long as she could fly. She wanted to disappear, so she turned off her phone, making it impossible for Xu Huanshan to contact her for the first time.
For a long time, Gu Jia has been serving Xu Huanshan, but this time she really wants to serve herself.
She went to the bar to drink, playing with aromatherapy and lighting candles many times. When someone came to talk to her, she smiled contemptuously. In the hotel, she listened to Xu Huanshan's voice over and over again. For a moment, Gu Jia wanted to forgive Xu Huanshan, but after calming down, she thought again, can she forgive?
"The sequelae of extramarital affairs" are huge. Even if you forgive with your mouth, can you get over the hurdle in your heart?
Gu Jia finally let herself choose divorce. At that moment, she completely let herself go and let Xu Huanshan go.
Maybe many people are complaining about Gu Jia, why are you so useless? You have been cheated on, they hurt you, why do you have to be generous and decent?
I think it’s Gu Jia’s reason. There are many ways for women to deal with betrayal: You can be hysterical, or you can choose to let go?
But which way is better? When will we retaliate? Plus you have children, it seems that only letting go can be the real relief and liberation.
When Gu Jia chose to divorce, she had already thought it through: She and Xu Huanshan just didn't love each other. Marriage can start or end. As an adult, you have to choose to accept it. It's no big deal. If you break up with dignity and let the other person go, you also let yourself go. She didn't forgive Xu Huanshan, but she didn't want to cause herself so much pain.
Letting go is a new life.
Xu Huanshan should cry because he completely lost Gu Jia.
Gu Jia's ending is quite real, and it's a pretty good ending. After solving all the troubles, she took Xu Ziyan to run a tea factory with her father, and she can live a happy life. Besides, with Gu Jia's ability, The tea factory can definitely be run better and better, and it will be a matter of time before it makes a comeback.
As for Xu Huanshan? Even after being released from prison many years later, is he still the same as he used to be? At that time, he was really down and out, and Gu Jia would not be in the same world as him. Even if we can chat quietly, when we meet again, we will be the most familiar strangers.
Not all injuries require revenge, there are some things you don't need to do, just live well.
Can extramarital affairs be forgiven?
Frankly speaking, just look at the scene of Gu Jia crying bitterly in the bathtub, and you will know why extramarital affairs cannot be forgiven.
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I once received a letter from a reader, she said that her mother just forgave her father's extramarital affairs, she thought "it will be fine if you forgive", but after many years, when she grew up, she realized that her mother has lived these years How bitter it is. In the end, she still persuaded her parents to divorce, thinking that the time is not long, and the two of them should let themselves go. Since they are suffering, there is no need to continue living under the same roof.
"My parents are born in the 70s, they married freely, but my father betrayed the marriage when my mother was still pregnant with me. When I was four years old, I still remember that an aunt came to my house to quarrel with my mother , It was only later that I found out that the aunt was my dad's woman outside. My mother didn't say a word at the time, but I went to bite that aunt's hand. My dad found out about Xiaosan's visit, and he apologized to my mother. Even refused to divorce, my mother considered me and chose to forgive.
I always thought that my father and my mother reconciled, but since then my mother has become very sensible, and she doesn’t make trouble or quarrel. I really want to Everything is indifferent. My mother cares less and less about my father because she doesn't want to spend her time loving someone again. It wasn't until I grew up that I saw my mother hiding in the car and crying at that moment. The so-called thorn in the past has never been eliminated, and it has always been in her heart. Over the years, I have seen her smile more forcefully than really happy."
How to forgive extramarital affairs, even if I forgive, I will not Does it hurt?
It's better to choose a way that makes you comfortable, don't embarrass yourself too much.
No woman can really feel relieved about an extramarital affair, unless it is not loving, the more you love, the more painful it is, and if you want to not be painful, you have to let yourself not love.When you are relieved of your relationship, you will also be relieved of his betrayal.
So after being betrayed, does a woman want revenge?
In the Korean drama "The World of the Married", Ji Shanyu took revenge on her ex-husband, but in the end it was herself and her son who were tortured, and revenge came and went, and their children were the victims; in "Only Thirty", Gu Jia chose a dignified divorce, not hysterical, but accepting the hurt.
Gu Jia's choice would be better. Chi Shanyu felt happy for a while, but he tortured himself repeatedly and hurt the child; Gu Jia hurt himself, but it was good for the child after all.
encountered betrayal, which is a thorn in the heart that cannot be removed. It hurts, but after the pain, you have to love yourself well.
Let it go, no one deserves to be hated for the rest of your life, especially someone who hurts you.
Let oneself live well, which is the most powerful punishment for them.
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★Author: YIBAO; an original emotional author who writes warm emotional things in this world.
