Text: Sun Qingyue
Source: The Big World and the Little People (dearqingyue)
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Rewatching Descendants of the Sun at home over the weekend.
I liked this drama a lot when I watched it before. In addition to the high value of the male and female protagonists, which is pleasing to the eye, I like the adult love in it the most.
Because nowadays, I have seen too much hysteria, too much hysteria, in love we test, calculate, pretend, young girls always ask a lot of questions about love.
Love is a luxury in my opinion.
02
Descendants of the Sun is what strikes me most about the show. The characters of the male and female protagonists are two people who are 30+. What is the concept of
30+?
There are many elements in your life. Unlike when you were 20 years old, you only had to go to school in your life. Apart from studying, perhaps the biggest worry was why he didn't call me.
At this age, boy or girl, your world is already established. Your work, career, friends, ideals, your way of life, you have your own judgment on the world, and your understanding of the world, it is difficult for outsiders to shake your worldview.
I remember a senior executive told me, I am a person with a strong world outlook, and ordinary people cannot control my thoughts.
probably means this.
03
adult love,Certainly not pure love.
In English, boys and girls The pure and ignorant love of is called puppy love. Puppy love.
Love between adults is conditional, Jiang Moyan and Yoo Shijin love happens between two young people who are financially independent, independent in personality, and independent in spirit, , that’s why I have always been In fact, love is extravagant, because the conditions for love to happen after growing up are too harsh.
Do conditions like this tarnish love? On the contrary, such love is very charming.
First of all, you must be independent financially, independent in personality, and independent in spirit, so that you can live in such a luxurious love.
Then, how naturally they happened. There is no temptation, no speculation, no refusal to welcome, all the routines you see from the poor love blogger are all useless, because only in this most extravagant love, only the sincerity is pure.
They started off neatly.
Doctor, don't you have a boyfriend? Because you are too busy?
If you are a soldier, has no female friends? Because it's too hard?
is straight to the point.
It won't be like a girl in her early 20s who doesn't know if the male protagonist is married or not, and whether it is available, so she is full of enthusiasm, likes it all the time, and is also called true love.
04
Adult love is not about loving someone more than anyone else, you come and go when you are exhausted. It's not to test how much money your family has, whether you have a house, whether you have an evil mother-in-law full of thoughts.
They broke up in the second episode.
"You kill and you get killed.I am in the operating room twelve hours a day to save people who are dying. It's my job to fight for my life. And Mr. Liu's job is to use death to protect life. "
"I am a doctor, and my life is dignified." I don't think there is any value or idea above life, and it seems that our encounter was not what I expected. "
Well, it's not because of the house, the car, the mother-in-law, the mother-in-law, the third-in-law. After the first acquaintance is attracted, the first comparison is the values. The values are different, sorry, "Our meeting was not what I expected" .
I'm really so handsome at this kind of breakup.
Then look at the bloody breakups in real life, the reasons for the hysterical tears, the hysterical tearing, the ugly pictures, you will understand, this way Comparing values and breaking up cleanly are all so extravagant and precious.
05
In the adult world, love is not the whole of life, and work is the most important part of life. Because Most of the time without love, without boyfriend and girlfriend, we are all working and living alone.
Kang Mo Yeon and Yoo Si Jin are not only in love, they just need to work to supplement the plot.
Theirs Life is real. Jiang Muyan has been living in the operating room for three years, almost living in the operating room. With excellent medical skills, the selection of professors is still squeezed out by the related households who are not at all good. It is only because the father of the related households is the director of the hospital.
know the result On that day, he temporarily threw the manuscript to Jiang Muyan and asked her to recite it overnight, so that she could go to the TV show for her.
Late at night, Jiang Muyan sat alone in the corridor, crying and reciting the manuscript. This is Qianqian Wan Wan is a true portrayal of young women struggling alone. Seeing this, I think that every girl who struggles in a foreign land can have a similar picture in their minds.
To tell the truth, this is the world of adults. That person did not appear At that time, we all went to the battlefield alone like this, working hard, and what if we lost, even if we cried bitterly, we had to memorize tomorrow's manuscript.
At this moment, no Yoo Shi Jin came to comfort her, no sudden ringing of his phone, no sudden affectionate hug from him.
Because they are all in their own lives, there is no screenwriter or prophet in real life, he continues to save the hostages in the hail of bullets, and she memorized the script overnight, and the next day she will go to the show with a bright face.
We have our own battlefields, we just happen to love each other, and no one is obliged to save each other's lives. This is the foundation of adult love.
You look at a young girl in her early twenties and ask a boy if you will love me forever, I will entrust my whole life to you, and I always feel like sweating for the same boy in his early twenties.
Because each other is too young to know that this love needs to be based on each other's independent and real life. It's not that you love me, I love you, we will be able to live forever.
06
"Descendants of the Sun", why we are so fascinated by it, apart from the beauty of Shuang Song, I think we should be fascinated by such a well-matched couple.
This drama is the real world of adults, let us watch an adult love, and see the battle between two adults who are financially independent, independent in personality, and independent in spirit. We had a blast watching it. We want to have that kind of love too.
There is no temptation, no cover, no calculation, Each has their own life and world, they work hard in their own world, have their own firm beliefs, have their own love and struggle for their careers, and strive to live out their own world. The brightest look.
No one wants to save the other's life, and no one owes anyone.
We have our own battlegrounds, we just happen to be in love.
.Sun Qingyue: Media person, former CCTV foreign correspondent, inspirational role model for a new generation of women.The new book "Twenties, No Ten Years" was released online, and the article of the same name brought tears to the eyes of hundreds of millions of people. WeChat public account: big world and little people (dearqingyue), Weibo @Sun Qingyue
