For the older generation of revolutionaries, most of their family life is very simple and monotonous. Because has devoted its experience to people's liberation cause all the year round, it is often not enough to take care of the family. At this time, as the wife of their revolutionary partner, the contribution to the family played a very important role.
In fact, women have been the weaker party in marriage since ancient times. Therefore, there is a folk saying that the male is the main and the female is the main. If a wife is a good helper at home, then the family will be extraordinarily harmonious. The great man had such a good wife before the revolution.
This woman is the first wife of the great man, but for various reasons has not been recognized by the great man. However, by virtue of her virtue and virtue, she made great men admire her, and even after the founding of the People's Republic of China, the chairman made an exception for her.
1. The rebellious country boy
The great man was born in the last years of the Qing Dynasty and lived in a small mountain village in Shaoshan, Hunan since he was a child. Although his parents were both farmers, they attached great importance to their children's education. Young great men were sent to local private schools for enlightenment in traditional Chinese education.
The parents of great people not only attach importance to their children's school education, but they are also very strict with family education. , especially the father of the great man, is known for his strictness towards the great man. The great man in his childhood was very well-behaved and sensible under the strict stewardship of his father. But as his education increased, so did his own thinking.
The father of the great man was a man who was deeply influenced by traditional etiquette. He believed that children should obey the arrangements of their families before they were minors. , especially the father of the head of the family, should be obedient to his words, as long as there is a little rebellious behavior, it is a sign of disobedience.But this traditional thought of his aroused strong dissatisfaction with the young man.
I have been educated to think that as long as you are human, you will make mistakes, so what your father said and done may not always be right. So whenever he felt that his father said something wrong, he would act rebelliously. This kind of performance is obviously a challenge to his father's authority, so the human father often beats and ridicules him in front of everyone. This practice of
's father further deepened the rebellious heart of the great man. But the reason why the great man's father was so strict with him was so that he could grow up as soon as possible and be able to take over his role as the pillar of the family. After all, he knows his son Mo Ruofu, and the great man is very similar to his father in some aspects, so the father of the great man also hopes that his children can surpass himself and become a better person.
Although the great man resented many of his father's practices, he was more submissive in most cases. On the one hand, is to reduce the suffering of flesh and blood, and on the other hand, he also knows that what his father does is restricted by his education level and life experience. Therefore, the actions of the father do not fully represent the true thoughts in his heart.
This is exemplified in the great man's first marriage story. The great man who was in adolescence had friction with his father. The traditional concept of fathers was that he would become more family-friendly and obedient if he had a woman in charge of his son. So, he chose a kiss-on-marriage marriage for the great man.
Second, the marriage of kissing and kissing.
The fourteen-year-old great man was in adolescence, and his rebellious behavior became more and more frequent. In order to make him take care of his family more at ease, does not engage in some crooked ways. His father chose a knowledgeable, gentle and virtuous woman as his wife among his relatives.This woman is Luo Yixiu, the daughter of the Luo family, a distant relative of the great man.
Luo Yixiu and the great man are from the same town. Her grandmother and the great man's grandfather are siblings, so she and the great man are actually cousins. Luo Yixiu grew up in a very good family and received good traditional etiquette. She has no other ideas about the marriage arranged by her parents. In her opinion, women must follow the rules of three obedience and four virtues.
After becoming the great man's wife, she took good care of the great man on the one hand, and filial piety to the great man's parents on the other hand. In , everything inside and outside the family is well organized by her, and even the more sensitive relationship between sisters-in-law is handled very well by her. Therefore, she was loved by the whole family of the great man. But the only thing that has not been recognized by the greats.
Because it was a marriage ordered by the parents, the rebellious great man always refused to admit this marriage. He even made it clear to Luo Yixiu that he would not live with Luo Yixiu. Sooner or later he will leave this home and live the life he wants. The kind Luo Yixiu did not feel sad after hearing these words, but took care of her little husband more carefully.
Luo Yixiu's forbearance and carefulness gradually influenced the great man. Actually, the great man knew in his heart that he did not have any distaste for Luo Yixiu, he just vented his dissatisfaction with the traditional etiquette on this honest woman. Luo Yixiu spent the last few years of her life in such a marriage. After three years of marriage, Luo Yixiu left the personnel because of bacterial malaria.
Third, the best affirmation
Luo Yixiu's sudden death did not give the great man any relief. Instead, he began to examine the short marriage, his relationship with the poor woman.Both of them are victims of traditional etiquette, and his attitude towards Luo Yixiu is also due to his dissatisfaction with traditional etiquette. If the two of them weren't united in this way, maybe he'd treat the woman kindly.
Later, the great man started his revolutionary career and met his first beloved wife, Yang Kaihui, through free love. After all, he chose the marriage method he wanted. After 's remarriage, the great man has always kept in touch with Luo Yixiu's family. After all, that kind woman brought him a lot of love and warmth during his ignorant youth.
The Luo family was very happy to see that the great man had a new happy life. When the great man Yu Yang Kaihui had a child, he often brought it to the Luo family to play. The great man of also tried his best to help the Luo family to do things that they were able to. On the one hand, it was because the two families were already related, and on the other hand, it might be to make up for some debts to Luo Yixiu.
Although Luo Yixiu, the first wife of the great man, has never been recognized by the great man from beginning to end. But after the founding of New China, the great man still showed his affirmation of Luo Yixiu's actions towards the Luo family. After the founding of the People's Republic of China, all the people in his hometown wanted to visit the great people in Beijing, but they were all rejected by him one by one. Only the Luo family made an exception and got his reference.
Summary
Many feudal traditional etiquettes in our country in the old society period have a certain backwardness. , such as the traditional marriage system, seems to be an extremely ignorant rule today. The kind of marriage arranged by parents often hinders the true feelings of married men and women, making the marriage unhappy.
The unfortunate marriage between Luo Yixiu and the great man was born under such traditional etiquette. Luo Yixiu could have lived a normal married life, but she was bound by traditional rules. In the end, her tragic marriage ended.Therefore, immediately after the founding of the People's Republic of China, the system of traditional arranged marriages was abolished, allowing men and women of the right age to pursue marriages born of love.
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