In order to force Zhu Kaishan to agree to the marriage between his daughter and Chuanwu, Han Laohai tried his best to threaten Zhu Kaishan with "water bubbles" and secretly criticized Zhu Kaishan: You should kiss you, I will let you go, and solve the problem of drought in the Zhu family!
Han Laohai and everyone in the Zhu family know that Chuanwu doesn’t like Xiuer !
Han Laohai feels that these are not important. How much money can the children's love be worth? Since ancient times, marriage has paid attention to the fate of parents and the words of the matchmaker. As long as Zhu Kaishan nods, the marriage will be completed. The two sit on the kang. The child will live forever, and they are afraid that the couple will not be able to get along with each other.
But he never expected that Chuanwu's temperament would be so strong. In order to refuse marriage, he ran away from home and went on a hunger strike. Finally, he eloped directly with Xian'er on the wedding night. Xiu'er could not accept this reality for the time being and went crazy.
Han Laohai was completely angry. In order to seek justice for his daughter, he took crazy revenge on the Zhu family.
originally thought that Chuanwu would elope and the two families would become enemies, and Xiu'er and Chuanwu would come to an end. She would slowly let go of Chuanwu under the careful care of her parents. As time goes by, sooner or later, her new life will begin.
Unexpectedly, when the Zhu family left Yuanbao Town to Qiqihar , Han Laohai personally took Xiu'er to the Zhu family and asked Zhu Kaishan to take Xiu'er away. Han Laohai's meaning is very simple: After that, Xiu'er was born and a member of the Zhu family, and died as a ghost of the Zhu family. The water splashed by the married daughter, Xiu'er had nothing to do with the Han family anymore!
Xiu'er spent 18 years, neither touching Chuanwu nor let Chuanwu fall in love with her over time. Instead, she became an embarrassing existence in the Zhu family, " daughter is not a daughter, and daughter-in-law is not a daughter-in-law ".
I was puzzled at the time, why did Han Laohai be so stubborn and push his daughter into the fire pit again and again? Is there a man who is spreading martial arts in this world? Even though he knew that Chuanwu didn’t like his daughter, he forced him to marry Xiu'er again and again. How could his daughter be happy after getting married like this?
Xiu'er is ignorant because she is young, does not understand marriage, and does not understand life. Her stubbornness in love is only temporary. Han Laohai, as an experienced person, should think about how to guide her daughter at this time, so that she can slowly walk out of the vortex of love, and let time fade the harm she suffered in Chuanwu.
Until I read the original work repeatedly and carefully considered the part of Han Laohai's forced marriage, I understood why Chuanwu refused to marry many times, but Han Laohai still wanted to tell the true secret of him forcing marriage.
In order to get Xiu'er to marry into the Zhu family, Han Laohai did three things to Zhu Kaishan : temptation, coercion, and catch up with the door
temptation
Xiu'er is the only seed of the old Han family, and it is the bead in the palm of Han Laohai who grew up holding in his palm. She likes to pass on martial arts, and Han Laohai says that he should fulfill her.
But everyone can see that Chuanwu doesn't like Xiu'er. He is arrogant and stubborn. As long as he doesn't want to do something, ten cows can't hold him back.
coincides with a severe drought that is rare in one year. The Zhu family's crops were about to die. Zhu Kaishan had to wipe his old face and "borrow water" with Han Laohai. Han Laohai was worried that he could not find an excuse to marry the Zhu family. He was afraid that the woman's family would take the initiative to come in and propose marriage to make Xiu'er look "lowly", so he wanted to take advantage of the "borrow water" to change the "both families' good things".
Zhu Kaishan is also a well-known figure in the world, and he has his own blood and pride. Although he also likes Xiu'er, Han Laohai's blatant calculation made him feel very unhappy, and he didn't want to be criticized for " to change his son's water ", so he repeatedly declined Han Laohai:
This guy has a lot of wits. I heard his words and was trying to beat our second child. After talking for a long time, he just wanted to tell Xiu'er to Chuanwu. I also think Xiu'er is good, but I feel uncomfortable when he uses this for exchange.
Han Laohai tempted each other with temptation. He forgot that Zhu Kaishan was a bloody true hero. He acted openly throughout his life, so how could he do such a shameful thing as "changing his son for water".
force
Seeing that the big crops were about to be harvested due to drought, Zhu Kaishan became extremely ill. In order to please Chuanwu, Xiu'er dug up her own bubbles and released water to the Zhu family.
Han Laohai wanted to force Zhu Kaishan to surrender and agreed to the marriage between the two families, so he let out a message and said he would report to the official to deal with it.
I didn't expect Zhu Kaishan but refused to accept the move. He tied Chuanwu directly to the Han family and performed a bitter plan. He killed his relatives in front of the villagers:
Today I tied up my rebellious son and sent him to the Han family to apologize for his crimes. He beat him when he should be beaten, punish him when he should be punished, and send him when he should be sent to the official. I, Zhu Kaishan, will never protect me.
Han Laohai took advantage of the situation and wanted to take the opportunity to confirm the relationship between the two families: Lao Zhu Big brother, they are actually all their own family, why bother so nervous!
A sentence "his own family" made Zhu Kaishan feel Han Laohai's plot and coercion again. He remembered that back then, he had never been so passive and cowardly when he was in trouble with Yihetang, killed foreigners, and broke into the golden field. Zhu Kaishan, who felt that he could not hold his face, beat Chuanwu up and ended the "water-for-marriage" transaction with a bitter plan.
catch up with the door
After Zhu Kaishan took Chuanwu away, Han Laohai realized that he had fallen into Zhu Kaishan's bitter plan:
I didn't take it seriously, but I just wanted to force him to agree to the marriage between Chuanwu and Xiu'er. When he came like this, he caught me off guard and caught him off guard. I let him go in a mess. Am I doing my job in vain?
The regretful Han Laohai decided to let go and take the "sincerity" route. He personally caught up with Zhu Kaishan with gifts to apologize to Zhu Kaishan. This time he no longer took turns and directly said that he wanted to "get a relative" with Zhu Kaishan.
Zhu Kaishan and Wen's mother were very satisfied with Xiu'er, but Zhu Kaishan was forced by Han Laohai to "shui" and could not bear to face her. He sincerely asked for a marriage, and they no longer entrusted her, so they also agreed to the marriage.
got Zhu Kaishan's approval of this marriage. Han Laohai couldn't wait for the man's family to propose marriage, so he couldn't wait for the Zhu family to make a decision. In the original work, Han Laohai said to Zhu Kaishan:
Logically speaking, if you marry us, you should first matchmakers and then propose marriage, your children will go on blind dates, and then make a marriage decision after the courtesy, and finally choose a date to marry. These are all certain rules, but we are neighbors, so if we can avoid these mobs, we will be exempted. We are trying to deal with you in this marriage, so we have to take the initiative in some places.
This twists and turns of "forced marriage" came to an end with Zhu Kaishan's words "I should kiss you, you can let the water go".
Han Laohaiwan could not have imagined that his original intention was to find a reliable family for his daughter, so that he would not let his daughter suffer from the in-laws' grievances. In the end, he caused his daughter to live for 18 years, 18 years of youth, and 18 years of cold nights, turning her from a lively and innocent girl to a woman with empty and sad eyes.
Han Laohai, who forced her to marry, hid the sadness of eating a family in the past
Han Laohai once said this to Xiu'er's mother:
We Xiu'er is in love with Chuanwu, why didn't I stop me? I am optimistic that this child has a heroic spirit in Zhu Kaishan. Our family is not prosperous, so Xiu'er is just like a daughter. If our daughter follows Chuanwu, it would be like setting a gate post for the Han family. I must do this with him.
Han Laohai gave birth to a daughter like Xiu'er in his life. He has a wealthy family but no one inherits it. What he fears most is not that his daughter cannot love her, but that he promised that everyone's wealth would be scavengered and that women would not be protected by others.
In that era, people were not as open-minded as they are now. If a person does not have a son in his family, he would be poked at the back of his back. After the man in this family passed away, a woman may face the tragedy of being "scattered in ".
In the feudal era, men were respected, and women had to live with them. If a man, as the pillar of the family, died, had no son to inherit, or his son was still young and had no ability to resist, could only watch as the clan and relatives divided all the valuable things in the family and were finally driven out of the house and forced into a dead end. This kind of forced and robbed behavior is called "eating the house with no means of being a robbery."
The reason why Han Laohai knew that Chuanwu didn't like Xiu'er, and even knew that Chuanwu ran away from home to resist marriage and protested, he insisted on forcing Zhu Kaishan to "force marriage" many times.
He just knew that the Zhu family was a kind family, and Zhu Kaishan was famous for his righteousness. As long as he got married, he didn't have to worry that he would swallow his property, nor was he afraid that his daughter would be bullied and unprotected in a hundred years. As long as Zhu Kaishan's signature is here, no one dared to touch Xiu'er.
And Chuanwu also inherited Zhu Kaishan's "bloodiness" and loyalty. Xiu'er followed him, which was tantamount to finding the most reliable backer for the Han family. Of course, in private, he also had another layer of Xiaojiujiu: wants to recruit Chuanwu as his son-in-law.
When he got married, he once joked with Zhu Kaishan:
I am happy to get married, but when I think about it, I feel very uncomfortable. You said that I have worked hard all my life to endure this family business. By the day of kicking my legs, this business will become your Zhu family, and your elder brother Zhu will become the leader of Yuanbao Town.
Zhu Kaishan smiled and said:
You have to make a big deal about the marriage of children. This is not a business, don’t you think you have lost? Then in two years, I will let the couple go to your house and pass on the martial arts to be your retirement son-in-law.
Han Laohai said unintentionally: is good, but his surname is not Han!
This sentence is somewhat tempted. The Zhu family has three sons. They live in Yuanbao Town together, and the two families are not far away. It is said that if Wu could marry into the Han family, it would be convenient for him to move around normally, and it would not seem that the Zhu family would be greatly affected.
But when he heard Zhu Kaishan say, " is even if his surname is Han, you don't know anything when you kick your legs ", he knew that Zhu Kaishan was unwilling, so he also stopped thinking.
Later, Chuanwu elopes and the village was robbed by bandits. The Han family's foundation was destroyed for many years. He entrusted Xiu'er to the Zhu family again because he was afraid. In that era of chaos and war, their bodies became older and could no longer make a family business for Xiu'er. Zhu Kaishan's family was kind-hearted. He was confident that they would not treat Xiu'er badly. Chuanwu would return to the Zhu family sooner or later. As long as she stayed in the Zhu family for one day, she would have a backer for her life.
In fact, in modern society, the phenomenon of "eating out of households" still exists. A few years ago, there was a news that "three sisters in Guangxi encountered relatives and neighbors who "eating out of households" to protect their rights". The three girls died unfortunately because of their parents and younger brother. Because there was no more men in their family, their land was occupied by their uncles and relatives. Later, the land was expropriated, and the uncle and relatives directly embezzled the expropriation and resettlement land of the three sisters.
In today's society, women can still use legal weapons to protect their rights, but in the feudal era, even if they are from famous families like Lin Daiyu, after both parents died, they had to give all their property to the Jia family in exchange for a little bit of peace.
Han Laohai forced the Zhu family to marry many times. Although he knew that Chuanwu was not his daughter's good friend, he sent Xiu'er to the Zhu family twice. This deeply lies Han Laohai's most helpless sadness and his deepest love for Xiu'er.
The so-called parents love their children, so they have far-reaching plans for it, probably referring to parents like Han Laohai!
