"Goodbye tonight by Mr. Lu Han, but she turned around and burst into tears.
We are not losing or owe it. We like each other when we part.
The affectionate lyrics and moving tunes firmly grasp people's hearts. Behind this song, created in 2020, is a story between a great man and his ordinary wife more than a hundred years ago.
A girl in the neighboring village first grew up, but she didn't know her face before marriage
1 On the night of May 26, 2018, the Sun's house in Cuiheng Village was decorated with lights, and relatives and friends were drinking wedding wine, punching fists, and talking and laughing loudly. The groom drank glasses after glass during the meal, smiling and accepting blessings from his relatives and friends.Today is a happy day called Sun Yixian in Cuiheng Village, and you can also call him Sun Yat-sen. In the bridal chamber of
, the bride wearing a red veil was waiting nervously and expectantly.
I don’t know how long it took, but the groom, who was slightly drunk, finally came to the bridal chamber and gently lifted the veil.
When the eyes met, Lu Muzhen looked at this man who was slightly drunk but still had dizziness in his eyes, and he felt a little confused.
This is the first time they have seen each other.
Faced with the anger of the villagers, Sun Dacheng had no choice but to send his son to the eldest son of Honolulu, Sun Mei 7.
Sun Mei is a traditional and conservative person. When facing such an unruly younger brother, he will naturally be strict in discipline. The stubborn Sun Yat-sen was still young and after a big fight with his elder brother, he went back to his hometown in anger.
Sun Dacheng has no choice but to this stubborn son. After discussing with the eldest son for a long time, he planned to find a wife for this uneasy son, hoping that with a wife, he would be restricted.
So, after being introduced by a matchmaker, Sun Yat-sen's mother, Mrs. Yang, took a fancy to Lu Muzhen, the daughter of Lu Yaoxian's family in the next village.
The Lu family and the Sun family are quite matched in terms of family background and economic conditions. Moreover, Lu Yaoxian studied for several years and later went to Honolulu to do business and make a living. He is an old acquaintance with his elder brother Sun Mei, so both families are familiar with each other.
On May 26 of this year, 19-year-old Sun Yat-sen and 18-year-old Lu Muzhen got married.
On the wedding night that day, when their eyes met, their destiny was also entangled.
Lu Muzhen's father, Lu Yaoxian, worked in Honolulu in his early years, but died very early. Lu Muzhen, who grew up in this family, was like a woman from other families at that time, with a short stature, foot binding, and no education.
The different educations received since childhood have led to the two people's concepts being completely different.
Compared to Sun Yat-sen, who was dissatisfied with the feudal corruption of the Qing government and wanted to change the current social situation, Lu Muzhen just hoped that she could be safe and smooth throughout her life and not go through big twists and turns.
After marriage, there were fewer separations and many more people, the virtuous wife and parents-in-law
Three months after they got married with Lu Muzhen, Sun Yat-sen left his hometown and went to Hong Kong to study again. Not long after he entered school, he began to show that he was different from ordinary people.
He studied hard in school and was a frequent visitor in school libraries. His learning also involves a wide range of studies. He can always quote classics when talking to people in school. His erudition impressed his classmates, and those who have good deeds gave him the title of "Tongtianxiao".
Since Sun Yat-sen went to Hong Kong to study, he has rarely returned to his hometown in Guangdong. Lu Muzhen can only learn about his current situation from the letters sent by her husband.
In the letters sent by her husband, she is mostly about society, but she is rarely mentioned.
She gradually discovered that her husband is not only knowledgeable, but also very excited when talking about politics. He always has his own opinions and wants to express them urgently.When talking about the current social situation, he always acts very disgusted with everything related to feudalism, saying something like "democracy" and "reform".
Lu Muzhen, who has little culture, cannot understand these topics, but just vaguely knows that her husband’s ambition is to benefit the people.
Lu Muzhen thought that must be a great ambition.
. My husband doesn’t care so much about me, and Lu Muzhen doesn’t care so much about me. Because she knew that people who do big things don’t have time to talk about their children’s love. As a wife, she just needs to follow the "Female Te Ching" she learned when she was young and follow the three obediences and four virtues .
In fact, Lu Muzhen did a good job.
Lu Muzhen is also very concerned about her husband who has not returned home for a long time. When she felt that the temperature in her hometown had dropped, she would think about whether it was colder on her husband and whether he would not wear warm enough. I don’t know if I eat well or if I sleep soundly.
When she has nothing to do at home, she will make clothes and shoes for her husband according to the size measured before leaving home.
I don’t know anything either, so I just take good care of my family and don’t let him worry.
Lu Muzhen always thinks like this when she is free to miss her husband.
Lu Muzhen's virtuousness Sun Yat-sen saw it. Sun Yat-sen's feelings for the woman who was just meeting for the first time on this wedding night were getting deeper.
From the beginning, we respect each other as if we were not talking much, and then we talked everything. Although most women with little culture don’t understand it, every time Sun Yat-sen looks at her, she listens very seriously. It seems like you are listening to some famous sayings.
1891 On October 21, 2018, Lu Muzhen gave birth to her and Sun Yat-sen's first child, and the small family of the two became more and more complete.
For Lu Muzhen, this degree called "Doctor" is already a very high-level knowledge.
Yes, gold will always shine wherever it goes, and people with lofty ambitions will never be mediocre no matter where they go.
's experience in studying in Hong Kong has broadened Sun Yat-sen's horizon and allowed him to see the direction he wanted to go.
day so that birds can fly, and the sea is wide and the fish leaps. After all, he is going to "take off with " .
The husband wanted to achieve his ambitions, and his miserable wife was displaced and miserable. During his studies in Hong Kong, Sun Yat-sen often took the initiative to talk to his classmates about the political situation. On this way, he slowly met a group of patriotic young people who were dissatisfied with the Qing government. They discussed current affairs together and criticized the corruption and inaction of the Qing government.
Scholars are enthusiastic, inspiring words, and urging them to the fullest.
In these ten days, he sorted out all the thoughts on social issues at that time that had been brewing in his mind for a long time and wrote a letter of more than 8,000 words "A Letter to Li Hongzhang".
During the days when he returned to his hometown, he didn't care about his love for his children, but just wrote and revised the manuscripts wholeheartedly.
Lu Muzhen also had no complaints. But when it was time to eat, I didn’t forget to pick up the dishes for my husband and put them in. Late at night, I saw that the light in my husband’s room was still on, so I went in and put on a dress for my husband.
After her husband finally completed the first letter to the court in his life, when he hurriedly left home with excitement and excitement, she just silently packed her luggage for her husband, then took the clothes he made for him when he left home, looked at his back, and silently sent him to a long journey.
He is like a boat riding the wind and waves in the distance. No matter how many wind and waves he experiences, as long as he returns to this harbor home, his wife will always heal his scars.
After leaving his hometown, 28-year-old Sun Yat-sen set out north with the hope of awakening the Qing government through this letter.
But history made him a joke.
894 On July 25, , Sino-Japanese Sino-Japanese War of 1895 broke out.Li Hongzhang no longer wants to read this state affairs letter that embodies Sun Yat-sen's hard work. In this way, the ambitious Sun Yat-sen was sent away by Li Hongzhang casually.
disappointed Sun Yat-sen believes that Qing Dynasty has been hopelessly corrupt, and only the revolution can save the country from falling.
The ambition that had been brewing in his heart for a long time finally began to be practiced.
Uprising! The decaying Qing Dynasty will be overthrown directly! Build a democratic country!
895, after repeated discussions with Lu Haodong, Sun Yat-sen finally decided to recruit warriors in Shimen and Nanlang to prepare for an uprising in Guangzhou.It’s a pity that things don’t go as they wish.
1895 On October 26, Zhu Qi's older brother Zhu Xiang, who learned that his younger brother had participated in a head-losing activity in Xingzhonghui, was afraid of being implicated, so he reported the secret to the government. Therefore, the first armed uprising led by Sun Yat-sen, the Guangzhou Uprising, was learned by the Qing government before it was officially launched.
Guangzhou Uprising failed. Due to the Qing government's extensive search, Sun Yat-sen and other revolutionaries had to hide their whereabouts. Because the incident suddenly happened, Sun Yat-sen didn't have time to tell his family, so he boarded the ship to Hong Kong and then went to Japan.
But his wife and mother in his hometown had no idea about this. If the official clerk sent down specially wrote the "Cuiheng Village" in the document "Cuiwei Village" and revealed the news to them in advance, he might have been separated from Sun Yat-sen from now on.
At this time, Lu Muzhen finally knew what the "revolution" her husband was talking about every day, and finally knew what her husband was doing outside every day. At this time of crisis, she was still in confinement and could only escape with her child and mother while praying that her husband was fine.
Fortunately, Lu Can, who is also a member of Xingzhonghui, learned that Lu Muzhen was in a crisis and ignored his safety and took Lu Muzhen's family to Honolulu to join his elder brother.
Lu Muzhen, who was bumping all the way, didn't know that this was just the beginning.
In June of the following year, Sun Yat-sen set out from Japan to Europe to promote his philosophy.
From then on, Lu Muzhen and her husband were separated.
This trip to Europe was not smooth either. A few months after arriving in Europe, under the influence of the Qing government, Sun Yat-sen was imprisoned. Although he was finally released, Sun Yat-sen was still scared.
Not long after, on Sun Yat-sen's 30th birthday, Lu Muzhen brought him a birthday gift to them was their second daughter.
. Sun Yat-sen, who is far away in Europe, is struggling for the future of the country and has no time to go home to meet his newborn daughter. Lu Muzhen could only be happy alone.
A few years later, due to full support for the revolutionary activities of Xingzhonghui, the industry run by his elder brother Sun Mei in Honolulu was declared bankrupt. Lu Muzhen could only leave her son who was studying and took her family and her elder brother back to Hong Kong to live.
On July 19, 1910, Sun Yat-sen's mother passed away at the age of 83. When his mother passed away, Sun Yat-sen was traveling abroad and failed to see his mother for the last time. The only thing that I feel relieved is that Lu Muzhen handled her mother's funeral very well.
However, in December of the same year, the British colonial authorities in the Nanyang cooperated with the Qing government to arrest Sun Yat-sen. Although they did not arrest them, they deported him and his wife and daughter. Lu Muzhen, who had just settled down, wandered around again.
Sun Yat-sen had to set off for Europe and the United States to raise funds for the revolution. The life of Lu Muzhen and her two daughters was not settled. The mother and daughter could only be raised by local overseas Chinese to provide them with barely living. The family's clothes were old and torn and dared not replace them. They could only sew them and repair them, and repair them again and again.
1911, the Xinhai Revolution broke out. After seeing the news, Sun Yat-sen decided to return from overseas, personally lead the revolution and form a republic.After a brief reunion with his wife and daughter on the way back, he set off again.January 1, 1912. Sun Yat-sen took office as the interim president of the Republic of China in Nanjing.
The relatives finally woke up after they passed away and let go and spend the rest of their lives calmly
On February 9, 11912, Lu Muzhen took her two daughters to Nanjing to reunite with Sun Yat-sen.
When he met her husband again, he had become the interim president admired by countless people. During those days of reunion with him, her husband received various visiting Chinese and foreign guests every day to discuss state affairs with them.
She looked at her husband who was energetic and busy with government affairs. She felt as if this man was shining, so brilliant that she could only see her husband in her eyes.
As an old-style woman with small feet and little culture, Lu Muzhen is not used to this eye-catching life. Those respectful eyes have put invisible pressure on Lu Muzhen. She is not good at dealing with the things that show up in public. She just takes care of her husband's daily life as if she is in her hometown.
Not long after, perhaps because of the busy government affairs, or perhaps because of the lobbying of Yuan Shikai, Sun Yat-sen resigned from his post as interim president and returned to his hometown with his two daughters and secretary Song Ailing.
Of course, Lu Muzhen was very happy about her husband's return, and she was not surprised by the woman who came back with her husband. During those days in Nanjing, there were always many women around my husband.
After taking over Sun Yat-sen's position, Yuan Shikai invited Sun Yat-sen to Beijing for inspection and discuss matters related to the construction of China's own railway.
Sun Yat-sen and his family traveled all the way through famous places and historical sites, and Lu Muzhen rarely spent this pleasant time.
However, their lives are doomed to be uneasy. In 1913, the acting chairman of the Kuomintang, Song Jiaoren, was assassinated. After learning about this, Sun Yat-sen was very angry and turned to the struggle against Yuan Shikai. Unfortunately, facing Yuan Shikai who had heavy troops, Sun Yat-sen had no choice but to flee to Japan to make major events.
This time Lu Muzhen was very calm, and she quickly went to Macau to defect to her elder brother Sun Mei.
"Everything seems to have returned to the starting point, but the place is different." Lu Muzhen thought about
However, the 18-year-old Sun Chun died of illness, which gave Lu Muzhen the most painful blow. In February 1915, his elder brother Sun Mei also passed away. From then on, Lu Muzhen had no support in Macau.
After the death of two relatives, Lu Muzhen gradually realized that she was wandering on the way to escape, grinding her little feet; she barely survived with help from others in Nanyang, worried every day whether she would have no food to eat tomorrow; the death of two very important relatives in her life in Macau... These sufferings are all for the revolution! It’s all for the people of the world to live a better life!
So on September 1, 1915, because the revolutionaries Hu Hanming and Zhu Zhixin strongly opposed Sun Yat-sen's idea of divorce from Lu Muzhen, Sun Yat-sen invited Lu Muzhen to Tokyo to discuss the divorce. After talking about it with Sun Yat-sen for a long time, Lu Muzhen signed "Ke" on the divorce agreement .
The next half of his life, Lu Muzhen began the second half of his life in Macau's Sun Mansion.
After the divorce, she often communicated with Sun Yat-sen to tell about what happened recently at home. Sun Yat-sen often sent letters to Lu Muzhen, caring about her life, health and family benefits, and continuing to remit money to her.
1925, Sun Yat-sen passed away. After hearing this, Lu Muzhen was extremely sad. Others advised her to write a mourning article for Sun Yat-sen to relieve her sadness. She was not well educated, so she found someone to write the last article she gave to Sun Yat-sen, in which she praised Sun Yat-sen's glorious achievements throughout her life.
At the end of life, will Lu Muzhen regret divorced from Sun Yat-sen?
, this divorce letter may answer this question.
"I don't have enough common sense and don't understand English. I'm not able to move around with my feet. What can't help me? I hope my husband and I will find a good person. It's true that I love you, but I can't stop you and run towards someone better than me. But I just think no one is worthy of him except me."
Yes, she is such a stubborn but deeply in love with my husband.
