For the safety of his family, he sent his wife Ma Peizhang and his two daughters to Hong Kong. During this period, in order to get promoted, adjutant Xu Huisheng actually introduced his fiancée Wang to Bai Chongxi as his lover.

In October 1930, Bai Chongxi led his army to resolve the dangers of Nanning . For the safety of his family, he sent his wife Ma Peizhang and his two daughters to Hong Kong.

During this period, in order to get promoted, adjutant Xu Huisheng actually introduced his fiancée Wang to Bai Chongxi as his lover. In 1931, Wang also gave birth to a son for Bai Chongxi.

You should know that Bai Chongxi was 38 years old at that time, and this was his first son. In that era when the concept of inheriting the family line was very strong, the threat from Wang to his original wife Ma Peizhang was obvious.

Bai Chongxi also wanted to bring her into the door when he saw that Wang gave birth to a son. But Ma Peizhang made Bai Chongxi change his mind with just one sentence and asked Wang to leave automatically. What was going on? Everything has to start from the beginning.

01 Love derived from military transformation: love him, but not rely on him,

Ma Peizhang, born in Guilin in 1903, his father Ma Jianqing was a tribute student in the late Qing Dynasty. He was once the county magistrate of Xin'an County, Guangxi, and is very famous in the local area.

Ma Jianqing has 2 sons and 2 daughters. Ma Peizhang is the eldest daughter in the family, but his elderly grandfather favors her alone. Before she got married, she was in charge of the whole family.

Grandfather favored her because although she is a lady from a family, she is independent, knowledgeable and decisive. Her mind and demeanor are one in a million.

Grandfather had high expectations for Ma Peizhang, which can be seen from his search for Ma Peizhang's husband.

18 years old, Ma Peizhang reached the age of marriage. The threshold of the Ma family was broken by the matchmaker. The reason was very simple. Ma Peizhang was a famous beauty in Guilin. Many wealthy young men hoped to get the favor of the old man and marry her home.

can face a constant stream of homecoming begging, and my grandfather didn't like it alone.

In order to find a proud husband for your granddaughter, the grandfather finally made strict requirements: Islam must be qualified if he is not a disciple and does not intermarry. As soon as the

message came out, there was an uproar because very few people met this requirement. In this way, Ma Peizhang waited until he was 22 years old. This was really an older single woman at that time, but my grandfather did this to be a real benefit for Ma Peizhang.

Because there is a requirement in the Islamic canon, that is, "only marry a wife in your life."

At that time, three wives and four concubines were still standard for wealthy families. The grandfather was able to use this as a standard, which shows his good intentions.

Fortunately, she has waited for this person.

1924, 31-year-old Bai Chongxi finally showed his mark in the battle of the West in troubled times. When his grandfather heard about Bai Chongxi's name, he found that he was also Muslim, so he took the initiative to ask someone to spread news to Bai Chongxi, saying that he was willing to marry his granddaughter as his wife.

When Bai Chongxi heard this news, he was naturally overjoyed. Because for him, this is a real high.

Bai Chongxi's grandfather was originally a well-known local wealthy businessman, but his father suddenly fell seriously ill when he was a few years old. My mother didn't know how to do business. She was plotted by the shopkeeper and took away all her property, which led to her heavy debt.

The young Bai Chongxi experienced a huge change in his family. He relied on the help of his eldest sister who married a wife to go to the military academy. Then he made his mark in constant wars.

To be cautious, my grandfather met Bai Chongxi. The old man who knew how to "prime laws" happily applauded after seeing Bai Chongxi, and he said, "This person has the will of the prime minister." As a result, the marriage between the two families of Baima was decided like this.

Facts have proved that the Ma family’s grandfather’s vision is indeed unique. In the years since then, Bai Chongxi has indeed been promoted all the way, and even once became the Minister of National Defense. More than 0 years later, looking back at the old man's choice, he realized the true meaning behind it: he chose Bai Chongxi because he firmly believed that his granddaughter was "born as a mountain rather than a stream". This choice was not so much a marriage, but rather a "battlefield" for Ma Peizhang to expand territory, because her wisdom and responsibility were enough to support a huge family.

And later facts have proved that Bai Chongxi's achievements are closely related to Ma Peizhang!

Of course, this road is also destined to be full of thorns.

On the 8th day of the wedding, Ma Peizhang ushered in the first life and death disaster in his life!

At that time, Bai Chongxi received the news that Liuzhou was besieged and could only leave his wife to rescue him. But as soon as he left, Guangxi warlord Shen Hongying led a large army to capture Guilin, because this was actually a trick to lure the tiger out of the mountain. Their real target was Ma Peizhang! He made a clear idea of ​​his plan and wanted to use Ma Peizhang to threaten Bai Chongxi.

They rushed directly into the Ma family mansion, and Ma Peizhang's father and others became hostages.

At that time, Ma Peizhang had just left his in-laws' house and as soon as she entered the city, she realized something was wrong. She keenly discovered that these people came for her, and once she was arrested, it would be inevitable that Bai Chongxi would be threatened.

Just as the servants were in a mess, Ma Peizhang calmly came up with his idea. She changed into poor people's clothes, disguised herself as she sneaked into Daosheng Hospital at No. 119 Zhongshan Middle Road.

chose this because Ma Peizhang knew that this hospital was run by Bo Dezhen, a female missionary from the German Anglican Church. Although it is located in the city center and is very conspicuous, she guessed that even if Shen Hongying had the courage, he would not dare to rush into the German-run hospital for search.

. After Bai Chongxi on the other side solved the crisis in Liuzhou, he heard that his wife was in trouble, so he didn't have time to rest and rushed back. Along the way, he was frightened and even made the worst plan.

Shen Hongying's idea of ​​capturing Ma Peizhang failed. Now Bai Chongxi has led a large army to arrive, so he can only let Ma Peizhang's family go in shame and withdraw his troops overnight.

The moment he saw Ma Peizhang at Daosheng Hospital, Bai Chongxi couldn't even say a word. The only thing he could do was to rush up and hug Ma Peizhang tightly.

At that moment, the two of them were in love with their hearts.

You should know that the first time the two met was on the day of their marriage. Although they got married, they only had a few days to get along. So whether it is Ma Peizhang or Bai Chongxi, the other half is unfamiliar.

It can be said that it was this sudden military change that allowed the two to "go together to experience life and death". Bai Chongxi saved Ma Peizhang from water and fire like a god, while Ma Peizhang remained calm in the face of danger, and the general's wife's demeanor was still in front of him.

They tasted love for the first time.

Since then, Bai Chongxi has not only loved Ma Peizhang, but also appreciated him more.

At that time, Ma Peizhang was only 22 years old. Although she was the first marriage, she already understood the taboo of marriage: dependence.

In marriage, the most feared thing is infinite dependence. People have the instinct to pursue stability, and some people are used to throwing everything to others to deal with, but sooner or later they are bored.

So, even when life is difficult, you must have the awareness to take it through yourself.

It can be imagined that if Ma Peizhang blindly relies on her husband to rush for help when facing the chaotic army, what awaits her will be inhumane torture. It is precisely because she did not put her hope on her husband that she chose to save herself without hesitation.

As said in "Jane Eyre":

"Love is a game, and you must always be incompatible with your opponents in order to keep relying on each other for a long time." An opponent who is too strong can easily make people tired, while an opponent who is too weak can easily make people tired.

This is also the point that Ma Peizhang has been implementing throughout his life.

02, two families fled thousands of miles in troubled times: family status determines the degree of the marriage

1929, " Jiang Gui War " broke out. In order to avoid disaster, Bai Chongxi fled to Tianjin alone. Ma Peizhang, who learned the news, hired a car overnight. In the heavy snow, he rushed to Tanggu with his newborn daughter Bai Xianzhi and then took a boat to Hong Kong.

As the domestic situation became increasingly severe, Ma Peizhang accompanied Bai Chongxi to Vietnam to avoid disaster. The road was difficult and dangerous, but Ma Peizhang never complained.

Her tenacity and optimism have always maintained the determination to revive their strength.

Ma Peizhang gave birth to 6 sons and 3 daughters for Bai Chongxi throughout her life. All her life revolved around her children and family. With her own strength, she carried the livelihoods and hopes of the Bai and Ma families. She is the well-deserved leader among the two families.

All of this starts with a life-and-death rush across thousands of miles.

In 1944, the Japanese army began to capture Guilin. The sky-sky artillery bombed the beautiful Guilin City into ruins.

Bai Chongxi led a large army to fight the enemy in the front. He knew that his wife, children, and mother were experiencing life and death, but he could do nothing.

More than 80 people from Bai and Ma families were waiting to die in despair under the enemy's artillery fire. But Ma Peizhang knew that he had to leave Guilin immediately. She forced herself to calm down and arranged for someone to find out that there was a train that was about to leave.

Without saying a word, she took more than 80 people through the chaotic streets, braved the artillery fire, and caught the last train that left. It has become a team in the famous "Hunan and Guangxi Retreat" in history.

Among the more than 80 people, there is Bai Chongxi’s 90-year-old mother above and baby who is still in her infancy. It is hard to imagine how she supported the elderly and the young and squeezed onto this train.

trains were crowded with people and the carriage could not be loaded, so everyone climbed onto the roof. The train was severely overloaded and moved slowly. And behind, the crazy Japanese army was shooting with guns, and people were constantly shot and killed.

Some people finally dodged the enemy's bullets, but when the train was crossing the cave, it was scraped off the car by the rocks in the cave, and its head was different.

The train stops and stops, and stops wherever you go, but you are hungry and dare not get off the car to buy food, because once you get off, you may not be able to squeeze in again.

It was like this. The train drove for more than a month before it arrived in Guiyang. When they appeared in Chongqing in rags, everyone was smelly and their heads were covered with lice.

This great disaster of alien invasion in the 20th century is immeasurable to the loss of life and property of the people of the entire country.

However, Ma Peizhang preserved two families in the midst of war.

That day, when Bai Chongxi saw his unkempt wife and his trembling old mother, he was surprised and happy. He stayed there for a moment, his eyes full of shock.

Bai Chongxi admired his wife from the bottom of his heart!

More importantly, since then, the Bai family’s reliance on this wife has reached its peak. In the entire family, Ma Peizhang's status surpassed Bai Chongxi. What’s more interesting is that this family atmosphere soon affected Bai Chongxi.

From top to bottom, everyone in the Bai family has a tacit understanding. Bai Chongxi's words can be refuted, but Ma Peizhang's decision must be respected.

In that era when a man was still three wives and four concubines, Ma Peizhang understood very well that if he wanted to protect his marriage, he must not only grasp the heart of his husband, but also constantly improve his family status. As long as the Bai family relies on and trusts herself, even if Bai Chongxi has a different intention, she can still protect her marriage steadily.

This is also the most fundamental reason why Ma Peizhang was able to protect his marriage calmly after Bai Chongxi was there.

A woman’s family status determines the degree of solidity of marriage. Because marriage is a game of power, once a woman becomes the core of power in the family, she is fearless.

03. Bai Chongxi fell in love with someone else. Ma Peizhang saved the marriage in one sentence

In October 1930, Bai Chongxi led his army to resolve the danger in Nanning. At that time, in order to ensure the safety of his wife and daughter, Ma Peizhang and his two daughters were arranged to live in Hong Kong.

Dian Army was driven away, Bai Chongxi's army was stationed on the spot.

is the clear and cool autumn, and it was originally the most suitable season for rest, but Bai Chongxi tossed and turned every night, so he often woke up the adjutant late at night to play chess with him.

One of the adjutants named Xu Huisheng is very thoughtful and always wants to find opportunities to climb up. So he began to arrange things around with understanding.

One night, he secretly brought 4 women, but Bai Chongxi only took a look and asked them to leave. Xu Huisheng was very puzzled, but he soon figured it out.

Bai Chongxi is cautious by nature, and with the turbulent domestic situation, he will definitely not have sex with a woman of unknown origin.But who is both beautiful and knows the truth?

After thinking about it, Xu Huisheng thought of a candidate, that is his fiancée, Wang. Wang and he are childhood sweethearts, with a clean family background, and most importantly, she is beautiful enough. Although it was a bit embarrassing to spread

, for his own future, he decided to give it his best.

Late at night the next day, when Bai Chongxi called Xu Huisheng again, Xu Huisheng did not appear. What appeared was a graceful young woman, namely Wang.

That night, Bai Chongxi lived with Wang.

In order to make Bai Chongxi have no worries, Xu Huisheng specially found another yard with beautiful scenery and secluded and undisturbed, so that the two can hang out.

That's it, Bai Chongxi is energetic every day. Xu Huisheng also got his wish and was transferred by Bai Chongxi to serve as the commander of the border guard.

But Wang here has been kept in the dark. She even thought that she was just serving an adjutant.

Until the feast was held in the gymnasium in the south of the city, Wang saw that Bai Chongxi, whom she had been serving, was invited to deliver a speech. Only then did she realize that Bai Chongxi was actually the famous commander.

Therefore, Wang made up his mind to stay with Bai Chongxi.

How many months have you lived together, and Wang became pregnant. Bai Chongxi was feeling complicated at this time. On the one hand, he felt deeply guilty about Ma Peizhang and dared not speak out; on the other hand, the new momentum of Wang's family had not yet passed.

just dragged on this until after Wang successfully gave birth to a son, Bai Chongxi's guilt disappeared, and replaced by the joy of having a son.

It turned out that Bai Chongxi was 38 years old at that time, but had only 2 daughters. Under the influence of the idea of ​​inheriting the family line, the arrival of this son naturally made him ecstatic.

Until this time, Na Wang's determination was decided and no one could change it.

When this news reached Ma Peizhang's ears, everyone was stunned. She said nothing and sat quietly in the room all night.

At dawn the next day, Ma Peizhang took his eldest daughter straight to Bai Chongxi's temporary residence.

Facing his wife who appeared in front of him without saying a word, Bai Chongxi's previous confidence was instantly destroyed.

Looking at his wife and daughter, guilt was lingering in Bai Chongxi's heart, and for a moment he didn't know how to speak.

Finally, he decided to wait for Ma Peizhang to lose his temper first. After his temper was over, he followed the situation and decided to decide what happened to Wang.

, Ma Peizhang is so smart. She sat in front of Bai Chongxi without frowning her eyebrows. Her calm and leisurely look made Bai Chongxi feel a little confused.

Just when Bai Chongxi was confused, Ma Peizhang said, "This woman must be sent away, she will ruin your reputation!"

only said this, Bai Chongxi swallowed it back. He suddenly realized that he really couldn't make any decision on this matter.

had to sit in the seat dejectedly. Ma Peizhang glanced at him and knew that he was caring for the child. He patted his shoulder and said, "Don't worry, I will handle it."

then turned around and went to Wang's room. Wang relied on giving birth to a son and was about to cheat and wanted to join the general's mansion, and from then on he became rich and prosperous.

Ko Ma Peizhang looked her up and down, and the momentum made Wang feel relieved. Ma Peizhang spoke softly, but every sentence made people feel uncomfortable and breathless:

"Sister, look at your beauty, it is really heartbreaking. My sister also has to thank you for your care for the general these days."

"I know, you want to find a good place, but the general is not suitable for you. Now I will give you a clear way and keep the child. I will raise him as my own son, and I will not lose a single loss. You can also get a lot of money, live a worry-free life from now on, and go to find the happiness you want."

"General and I will think that this has not happened before, and we will not cause trouble for you again in the future."

After hearing this, Wang understood that Bai Chongxi had abandoned her. If you insist on making trouble, you will definitely not be able to get it.

Taking advantage of the night that day, Wang left with his money.

Ma Peizhang's marital crisis was cleverly resolved by her.

On one side is a young and beautiful lover who has just given birth to a son, and on the other side is a wife who is old and has only given birth to two daughters. Why did Bai Chongxi choose the latter and abandon the former? In fact, this is all related to what Ma Peizhang said.

According to Maslow's hierarchy of needs , Wang met Bai Chongxi's third level of love and belonging, that is, Wang provided Bai Chongxi with love and sexual intimacy.

If a person’s needs at a certain level are relatively satisfied, they will develop to the higher level. After the third level of needs was met, Bai Chongxi began to pursue the fourth level of needs - self-respect and respect by others.

At this time, it happened to be the most critical period for Bai Chongxi's career to rise. He could not be affected by anything, so Ma Peizhang's words "This woman will ruin you" made Bai Chongxi "a prodigal son turn back."

In addition, Ma Peizhang also understood Wang's needs very well. She did not love Bai Chongxi at first, but decided to stay after knowing Bai Chongxi's status. What she wanted was fame and fortune. Since that's the case, Ma Peizhang gave Wang a lot of money to meet her needs, and Wang would naturally leave with satisfaction.

Management and protecting marriages are the most important thing to constantly understand the other party’s needs and provide corresponding value. I have to say that Ma Peizhang really understands this.

04. In his later years, he became Bai Chongxi's spiritual pillar: a firm woman is the best blessing for a family

1949, Bai Chongxi escaped to Taiwan under the temptation of Chiang Kai-shek. He was soon isolated by Chiang Kai-shek. His whole family was arranged to the border area of ​​Taipei and lived in a temporary official dormitory No. 127 on Songjiang Road.

At that time, Bai Chongxi was very excluded and he was depressed for a time.

Especially when there was a typhoon, the house was leaking everywhere. When I saw the whole family holding a basin to collect water, I felt even more sad that I couldn't do it myself.

However, Ma Peizhang didn't care. She laughed sly and chased and fought with the children. Bai Chongxi felt a little calm when he heard his wife's hearty laughter.

Later Ma Peizhang advised him to "defense and good fortune depend on each other." Although your career is hindered, this is a rare time for reunion and stability in our life. Why not cherish it?

Bai Chongxi suddenly realized. After that, I went to the yard with my wife, planting flowers and chatting together, and my life was so comfortable.

Later, Bai Chongxi's old partner Li Zongren made remarks abroad, angering Chiang Kai-shek. Chiang Kai-shek exhaled all his anger on Bai Chongxi and sent people to secretly monitor the whole family's every move every day.

Once, Ma Peizhang and Bai Chongxi took the children to watch Zhang Zhengfen's "Matchmaker". After getting off the car, Ma Peizhang keenly discovered a familiar license plate in the cold wind, which was the car that had always been responsible for tracking her family.

So he asked his son Bai Xianyong to buy 3 more tickets and asked him to give them to the three people in the car, saying, "You guys are working very hard, go in and watch the show!"

made the three people at a loss for a moment!

Ma Peizhang's open-minded and optimistic attitude towards everything makes the whole family always have the courage to have joy in suffering in desperate situations. She is not only a wife and mother, but also a spiritual leader to continue the family.

1963, while treating a hospital in Taipei, Ma Peizhang passed away on the operating table due to excessive blood loss.

, a former powerful general, Bai Chongxi is famous for being calm in the face of danger and not being surprised when changes are happening. However, when he heard the bad news, his whole body trembled and his blood pressure soared to more than 200.

Since his wife passed away, Bai Chongxi's tears have not stopped. He overcomes all difficulties and buried his wife in accordance with the Hui tribe etiquette. For the next 49 days, he took his children to her grave to recite scriptures and condolences every day at dawn.

Whenever Bai Chongxi saw his wife's brand new tombstone, he would always feel sad and cry. The sound broke the listener's heart.

Later, his son Bai Xianyong wrote a sentence in his book, which is enough to show that Ma Peizhang's death had a huge impact on everyone:

Mother has always been the pillar of the White Horse family, but suddenly passed away. The two families felt that the sky collapsed and the earth was broken, and the road was destroyed!

Ma Peizhang is actually just an insignificant existence among the countless people. But her life was full of ups and downs and extraordinary. This is not because she was born noble, but because she is firm in her heart. In her life, she only did one thing steadily, that is, "take care of her husband and children", but she engraved her "female character" in her family's family matters!