Introduction
The word "marry far away" comes from "Book of Han·Biography of Zhang Yu". There is a sentence in this article: "The old minister has four men and one woman. He loves daughter more than men. He married as the wife of the prefect Xiao Xian from Zhangye . He is unable to defeat the father-son relationship, and his thoughts are similar." Since then, the term "marry far away" has been introduced.
A historian pointed out that although there were also women in ancient times, there were very few people who married far away. Generally speaking, women who married far away were mostly women from official families in ancient times. The reason why women from official families chose to marry far away was mainly for political purposes. They tried to win over each other through "marriage" to maintain peace or stability on the border.
The ancients said that their parents were there and they did not travel far away. It means that parents are old and as children, try not to stay in other places for a long time.
We all know that the ancients paid great attention to "filial piety". The so-called "filial piety" is quoted from "Er Ya". of the Eastern Han Dynasty period explained in " Shuowen Jiezi ": "Those who serve parents follow the old and follow the children, and the children inherit the old." Xu Shen believes that fulfilling "filial piety" is not only a reward for children's love for their parents, but also an ethical consciousness of their respect for their parents. Anyone who is a child in the world "will take filial piety first."
So, how should children be filial?
The ancients believed that "always accompany your parents" is a way to fulfill filial piety. This view should be consistent with today's view of "going home often to see you".
Confucius believes that the purpose of parents giving birth to a son is to keep their children by their side so that they can share the storm for their parents when the storm comes. If the children fly far away and are not by their parents, how can they share the storm for their parents? How can children who cannot share the storm for their parents be filial?
Based on this view of the ancients, the daughters of ordinary people rarely married far away.
With the development of society, population mobility is increasing year by year. Based on this, there are more and more opportunities for men and women in different regions to contact each other. In the process of continuous contact between men and women in different regions, sparks of love may be created.
Some people say that love is a wonderful physiological phenomenon.
Biological research believes that biological factors such as dopamine , oxytocin in the human body regulate love. When a couple get along for a long time, with the "boost" of dopamine and oxytocin, the spark of love may appear. Once a "spark of love" is created between a man and a woman, they may come together regardless of everything. This has led to the occurrence of women marrying far away.
According to statistics, by the end of 2020, there were 7 million women marrying far away nationwide. It should be said that these 7 million women who marry far away choose to marry far away because they are attracted by love or "confused" by love. For most women who marry far away, they are likely to have found their own happiness, but for a very small number of women who marry far away, they may not have found their own happiness!
Just on September 27, something like this happened in Zaoyang, Hubei Province-------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Because the woman was crying very sadly, Hou walked up to ask about the situation. After asking the woman, Hou also cried sadly.
So, what's going on?
Hou said: "The crying woman is named Liu Mouchun. She is 28 years old this year. Her mother's family is from Guizhou. Five years ago, Liu Mouchun met a young man from Zaoyang, Hubei while working in Guangdong. After more than a year of contact, the two confirmed their relationship. After another year of love, Liu Mouchun resolutely married Zhou Mou despite her parents' opposition."
Hou continued: "Zhou lost his father at a young age, and it was his single mother who raised him. It is for this reason that Zhou Mou's family has always been very poor. When Liu Mouchun married Zhou Mou, he didn't even have his own house, and their wedding house was rented.Since Liu Mouchun married Zhou under the opposition of his parents, Zhou Mou did not get a penny of bride price. It should be said that he picked up a wife for nothing. "
Hou continued: "In order to make more money, we will try our best to build our house at home and end the life of renting someone else's house. Liu Mouchun and Zhou Mou agreed not to not have children before the age of 30, and the two of them worked together to build the house first. Finally, last year, my family finally had its own house. So, Liu Mouchun put having children on the agenda. But what she didn't expect was that because she was often hungry and full during her work, Liu Mouchun accidentally suffered from stomach disease . "
Hou continued: "After more than half a year of treatment, Liu Mouchun's stomach disease has not improved. Based on this, Zhou has always suspected that Liu Mouchun had gastric cancer , so Zhou's attitude towards Liu Mouchun was as cold as hell every day. Yesterday morning, Liu Mouchun went to the hospital for gastroscopy alone. When Liu Mouchun returned home, he found that his luggage had been thrown outside the door by Zhou Mou. Zhou said that this home is no longer your home, so you can go wherever you want! So the sad Liu Mouchun sat on the side of the road and started crying. "
According to Hou, although Liu Mouchun has been "married" with Zhou Mou for several years, the two have not received the marriage certificate . At present, the two are still living together.
When many netizens learned about this incident from the Internet, netizens started a heated discussion.
netizen voice
netizen Gu Dao: Liu Mouchun's ending is very sad! A woman who married far away did not receive a marriage certificate with her "husband". Now she has been kicked out of the house. What should I do? I can only say: Liu Mouchun is a silly woman. Even if she wants to sympathize with her, there is no way.
Netizen's innocent years: What about Zhou's conscience? A weak woman who offends her parents and marrys you far away. It's tolerant, but who can't bear it! If Zhou meets me, I must make him a big flip.
Netizen's flowers bloom silently: pitiful! A woman who married far away actually has no home. It's really sad!
In short, netizens have a lot of discussions.
Lao Hu's opinion
As the saying goes: Rely on parents at home, and rely on friends when going out. For a woman who married far away, all she can count on is her husband.
There is another saying that says - a couple has a hundred days of kindness, and a hundred days of love for a couple. As a kind person, this saying is correct, but for a vicious person, this saying is incorrect.
From this matter, whether there are marriage procedures or not, Liu Mouchun is also Zhou Mou's "wife". According to folk customs, both husband and wife have the obligation to help each other. Whether Liu Mouchun has an ordinary stomach disease or cancer, Zhou Mou has the obligation to take care of Liu Mouchun. However, Zhou actually swept Liu Mouchun out. For such a man, it is probably not an exaggeration to describe him as a snake-scorpion heart.
The ancients said, "A good person." Good rewards, bad lives are worrying. Whether from the sociological point of view or from the perspective of ethics and morals of being a human being, Zhou is a "evil person". Then, Zhou, the "evil person", will receive the necessary retribution sooner or later. If Zhou can realize that he has done "evil thing", hurry up and take Liu Mouchun home and treat it well! If Zhou cannot realize that he has done "evil thing", then let Liu Mouchun wander on the street! However, if Liu Mouchun continues to live on the street, according to the ancients, Zhou Mou who has done "evil thing" will inevitably be in trouble and will not be at peace for the rest of his life.
What do you think?
