Since ancient times, heroes love beauty, and the hero of a generation is the same as Cao Cao . The heroic deeds about Cao Cao have spread all over the world, but few mentions about Cao Cao’s women. In fact, like many kings, Cao Cao loved the country and the beauty. There is no detailed record of how many women Cao Cao had in his life, but there are more than a dozen of them who have recorded in history.
When Cao Cao died, he was still worried about Mrs. Ding, who was born in poverty. It can be seen that this Mrs. Ding is the love that Cao Cao has loved from the bottom of his heart, and she is also a woman that Cao Cao feels guilty. So, what kind of story is there between Mrs. Ding and Cao Cao?
Mrs. Liu asked her to entrust her orphan
The story of Mrs. Ding and Cao Cao must start with Cao Cao's eldest concubine, Mrs. Liu.
Mrs. Liu is Cao Cao's eldest concubine and gave birth to three children for Cao Cao, among which Cao Cao's eldest son Cao Ang was born to Mrs. Liu. But Mrs. Liu was not blessed and passed away very early. Mrs. Liu knew about Mrs. Ding’s kindness and lenientness while spending time together, but Mrs. Ding was not having children. So when she was dying, Mrs. Liu slowly said to Mrs. Ding, "Mrs. Ding, the one I can't let go of the most are these three children. Can you help me take care of them in the future?"
Mrs. Ding looked at the three children and agreed to Mrs. Liu's request for reassurance. Since then, Mrs. Ding took good care of them and treated them like her own children, especially her eldest son Cao Ang.
The eldest son Cao Ang is pretty and smart. He has followed Cao Cao since he was a child and has become a young general in the military camp at a young age. Mrs. Ding likes this child very much and treats Cao Ang like her own son, and loves Cao Ang in all kinds of love.
However, a sudden incident, Cao Ang died in battle, and Mrs. Ding was heartbroken by this. Logically speaking, in that era of war, death in battle was common, but Mrs. Ding ignored Cao Cao because of this incident. Could it be that this incident was caused by Cao Cao?
Beauty causes trouble
This incident was indeed caused by Cao Cao, and the matter has to start with Cao Cao's eyes on a beauty.
In the second year of Jian'an, Cao Cao fell in love with Zhang Ji's wife Zou, which is the aunt of Zhang Xiu . Cao Cao took Zou as his own and took it as his concubine. Zhang Xiu was particularly angry about this. He was already reluctant to surrender after losing to Cao Cao last time. Now he even has to take over his aunt, which is simply a shame. So, Zhang Xiu sneaked into Cao Cao.
Facing Zhang Xiu's sneak attack, Cao Cao was caught off guard. In the panic, Cao Cao's army was defeated, and Cao Cao's eldest son Cao Ang died in a bad life. The news came, Mrs. Ding was in a state of pain. She did not blame the war caused by Zhang Xiu, but Cao Cao was obsessed with beauty and caused this change.
Since then, Mrs. Ding has hated Cao Cao. At first, Cao Cao felt guilty when he saw Mrs. Ding's neglect, but Cao Cao was a man of temper and he could not tolerate his wife to treat him like this. Finally, he was still angry and sent Cao Cao back to his parents' home.
Cao Cao originally wanted to send Mrs. Ding home to suck her arrogance, but Cao Cao still underestimated Mrs. Ding's arrogance, and Cao Cao could only whisper to beg his wife to go home. So, how did Cao Cao, a generation of heroes, try to exchange for Mrs. Ding?
Cao Cao retreated step by step
Mrs. Ding was born poor and her family was poor. However, when she was dealing with Cao Cao's resignation, Mrs. Ding happily accepted it. Therefore, after returning home, Mrs. Ding lived a life of not fighting or robbing the common people. She weaved cloth every day, took everything lightly, and seemed to have no nostalgia for Cao Cao.
Is Mrs. Ding disappointed Cao Cao? In that era, it was normal for men to have three wives and four concubines, not to mention that it was Cao Cao. Mrs. Ding had long been used to it, but what Mrs. Ding could not tolerate was that Cao Cao was obsessed with it, causing Cao Ang to die in battle. This was the pain in her heart.
After Mrs. Ding left Cao Cao, Cao Cao did not miss Mrs. Ding in particular. After that, Cao Cao's manly nature gave him a new favorite - Mrs. Bian. This Mrs. Bian is the mother of Cao Pi and Cao Zhi . Although Cao Cao favored Mrs. Bian, Mrs. Bian's personality was completely different from Mrs. Ding. Over time, Cao Cao remembered Mrs. Ding, who was neglected by him.
One day, Cao Cao happened to pass by Mrs. Ding's house. Cao Cao stopped. When he pushed open the wooden door, he saw Mrs. Ding wearing plain clothes weaving cloth seriously. Her fair face and beautiful face were charming. Cao Cao felt pity. However, when Mrs. Ding saw Cao Cao coming, she ignored it and still buried herself in weaving the cloth. Cao Cao was not angry at this moment. Facing such a gentle lady, he seemed to be defeated by this tenderness.
Then, Cao Cao's servant was afraid that Cao Cao would be too embarrassed, so he walked forward and whispered to Mrs. Ding, "Mrs. Ding, Cao Cao is here." Mrs. Ding did not answer.
Seeing this, Cao Cao walked forward, stroked Mrs. Ding's back, and said, "Madam, come back to the palace with me." Mrs. Ding still did not respond, just caring about weaving.
Cao Cao saw that Mrs. Ding was determined, so he shook his head and smiled bitterly, and then left quietly. Afterwards, Cao Cao also came to Mrs. Ding's residence several times, but his enthusiasm was extinguished by Mrs. Ding. Seeing that Mrs. Ding had no intention of reconciliation, Cao Cao was also desperate. He later asked someone to pass on a message to Mrs. Ding and allow Mrs. Ding to remarry.
4. Cao Cao could not let go of Mrs. Ding
Although Cao Cao allowed to remarry, Mrs. Ding did not do so.
Cao Cao saw that Mrs. Ding had not remarried, and thought that Mrs. Ding still had some thoughts about him, and he could not let go of Mrs. Ding, so Cao Cao forced Mrs. Ding to take her back to the palace.
Cao Cao held a banquet for Mrs. Ding alone, but Mrs. Ding only cared about eating and ignored Cao Cao. After the meal, Mrs. Ding still asked Cao Cao to send her back to her parents' home. Seeing that Mrs. Ding was so persistent, Cao Cao had to rely on her. Cao Cao invited such a banquet many times, but every time, Mrs. Ding was unwilling to stay in the palace.
Finally, Mrs. Ding directly told Cao Cao that she refused anyone's invitation and would not return to the palace.
From then on, Cao Cao and Mrs. Ding no longer met. Not long after, Mrs. Ding died of illness, and Cao Cao was heartbroken.
When Cao Cao was dying, he still couldn't let go of Mrs. Ding. He said, "I think about Mrs. Ding in my heart, I favored her, and never let her down. But after my death, Cao Ang asked me, where is my mother, and how should I answer?"
Perhaps, the woman who made Cao Cao worry and feel guilty all his life is Mrs. Ding.
