In terms of love and marriage, too many people have been hurt by feudal ethics, especially women. Su Shi had three sisters and one brother. The eldest sister, second sister and eldest brother died early.

In terms of love and marriage, too many people have been harmed by feudal ethics, especially women. How did women in the old society have the right to fall in love and choose a spouse? Everything is "the orders of parents and the words of matchmakers." It is really sad that a woman's happiness completely depends on whether her parents have enough enlightened thoughts.

In such a melting pot, no matter you are a lady from a wealthy family or a young girl from a commoner family, you are all shrouded in the shadow of feudal ethics. For example, Su Dongpo's third sister Su Ba Niang, Lu You's ex-wife Tang Wan, and Lu Xun's first wife Zhu An were all eaten by feudal ethics.

1. Su Dongpo’s third sister, Su Baniang

Su Shi’s brothers and sisters, there are six in total. Su Shi had three sisters and one brother. The eldest sister, second sister and eldest brother died early. The third sister Su Baniang, Su Shi, and Su Che are left. When Su Baniang was eighteen years old, she married her uncle's son Cheng Zhengfu, but she died a year after the marriage. The cause of his death is sad and infuriating.

Su Baniang married her cousin and changed her identity from daughter to daughter-in-law. She could not enjoy the pampering of her father Su Xun like she did at home. The former uncle Jinzi has also become her father-in-law and mother-in-law. Once her status changes, there are more rules and more requirements for her daughter-in-law in daily life. The old couple always disliked their pampered daughter-in-law, and were critical of Su Baniang. Sometimes they thought the food she cooked was not to their taste, sometimes they thought their greetings in the morning and evening were not thoughtful, and sometimes they thought their daughter-in-law was not quiet and virtuous enough...

Su Baniang's life in her husband's family was very unhappy. She was trembling with fear when serving her parents-in-law, walking on thin ice, and felt unprecedented pressure. Faced with this situation, he could not easily return to his parents' home to live. No one could express and understand his inner pain, so he could only be depressed and died within a year.

For this reason, the Su family and the Cheng family severed their relationship. Su Xun felt sad about her daughter's unfortunate marriage, but it was too late to regret it.

2. Lu You’s ex-wife

Lu You and his ex-wife Tang Wan are very loving. Lu You and Tang Wan are also cousins. Tang Wan is his cousin and the daughter of his uncle Tang Yi. After Lu You and Tang Wan got married, they became loving and sweet. But for some unknown reason, Lu You's mother just didn't like her biological niece and had to force Lu You and Tang Wan to divorce. Lu You had no choice but to succumb to the "filial piety" of feudal ethics, obey his mother's wishes, and divorce Tang Wan.

After the divorce, Tang Wan married Zhao Shicheng, and Lu You married Wang. Tang Wan has never been able to get out of this relationship. After all, Zhao Shicheng is not the person he likes and falls in love with. As a result, Tang Wan remained depressed for a long time, and soon became depressed and died of illness.

Lu You succumbed to the "filial piety" of feudal ethics and fulfilled his mother, but he "killed" his most beloved woman.

3. Lu Xun’s first wife, Zhu An

(Zhu An’s photo is from the Lu Xun Memorial Museum)

Lu Xun’s marriage was also arranged by his mother. When Zhu An was 21 years old, the Zhou and Zhu families entered into a marriage contract. The Zhu family is a large and family in Shaoxing, and is a good match for the Zhou family. But Lu Xun had no interest in the marriage arranged by his mother. Because Lu Xun was studying in Japan at that time and was full of new ideas and culture, he naturally disagreed with the engagement of the old ethics. But the mother still forced the marriage contract. In that era, once engaged, one could not break off the engagement. Breaking off the engagement would seriously affect the reputation of the family. For a girl, breaking off the engagement was equivalent to being abandoned and it would be difficult for her to get married.

Lu Xun could only find various reasons to delay the marriage until Zhu An became an old girl at the age of 28. Then he returned to China when Lu's mother lied about being seriously ill, and then he married Zhu An. But he returned to Japan a few days after the wedding. From then on, Zhu An's identity was Lu Xun's wife, but in name only, she was just the daughter-in-law who accompanied Lu Xun's mother, and spent her unfortunate life miserably.

This is also a tragedy for Lu Xun. In his own words: "This is a gift from my mother. I can only support it well. Love is something I don't know.""

The greater tragedy is for Zhu An. Zhu An was lonely and helpless all his life. was like an object placed in the Zhou family. Lu Xun had no love for her during his lifetime, and she had no expectations after Lu Xun's death. , in her own words: “I am also a relic of Lu Xun. "

Feudal ethics cannibalize people, not just women.

2022.06.23