As the saying goes, having an old man in the family is like having a treasure. Having a long-lived old man in the family is a blessing to the family, children and grandchildren. For example, in "Knowledge", Mrs. Sheng is the blessing of the Sheng family and the anchor of the Shen

As the saying goes, having an old man in the family is like having a treasure. Having a long-lived old man in the family is a blessing to the family, children and grandchildren.

For example, in "Do you know and ", Mrs. Sheng and are the blessings of the Sheng family and the talisman of the Sheng family. Not only did she love her children and grandchildren, she personally raised Sheng Hong and Sheng Minglan , and also took care of Sheng Hualan and Sheng Changbai . She was also resourceful, experienced, and had a far-sighted vision. She repeatedly mentioned Sheng Hong and Wang. Avoid Shengjia from going in the wrong direction.

The marriage of the two boys of the Sheng family was arranged by Mrs. Sheng and Sheng Hong together. The Wang family was not involved because the Wang family was short-sighted and always missed the mark at critical moments.

However, the saying that an old man in a family is like a treasure is a bit absolute. Sometimes, he may not be a treasure, but a scourge, just because he is too unclear to handle.

If there are elderly people at home who cannot carry things clearly, it will really distress their children. On the one hand, he is an elder, and we need to be filial and respectful. It is difficult to say no to our elders, and it is also difficult to fall out with unreasonable elders. On the other hand, when facing their children and grandchildren, many elders are very stubborn. They have backward ideas and refuse to listen to persuasion. They have a stubborn temper and insist on their children and grandchildren doing things according to their wrong ideas. They scold their children and grandchildren for being unfilial when they disagree. Communicating with such an unclear old man is like playing the piano to an ox.

How important is it to have elders who can handle things at home? In the original work, faced with things of the same nature, two elders made different choices, which had different impacts on the family.

These two elders are Mr. Yu Ge and Mrs. Wang. The thing they face is of the same nature: what should they do if someone in the family does something wrong and affects the whole family.

01. The daughter-in-law Yu Fangshi offended the powerful and almost harmed the Yu family. Mr. Yu Ge was decisive in killing her and divorced her daughter-in-law;

The person in the Yu family who acted recklessly and affected the whole family was the eldest daughter-in-law of Mr. Yu Ge, Yu Fangshi. .

Let’s sort out the context of the matter. At the beginning, in order to cling to the Ningyuan Marquis Mansion, and knowing that Gu Tingye was notorious, Yu Fang wanted to marry her stepdaughter Yu Yanran to Gu Tingye. They also spread the news around, hoping to ruin Yu Yanran's reputation so that her parents-in-law could not stop the marriage.

Due to Mr. Yu Ge's tough attitude, Yu Yanran was married off to Yunnan. Yu Fang's plan failed, but she refused to let go of the opportunity to clinch the Ningyuan Hou Mansion, and still married her biological daughter.

After Yu Yanhong married Gu Tingye, due to temperament reasons, coupled with Zhu Manniang's deliberate design and other people in the Ningyuan House to sow discord, she soon fell out with Gu Tingye. Gu Tingye ran away from home so angry that Yu Yanhong couldn't bear it. In the loneliness of staying alone in an empty house, Hongxing cheated on her and betrayed Gu Tingye. In order to cover up the scandal, Yu Yanhong drank the medicine, which resulted in two deaths for herself.

Logically speaking, the daughter did something scandalous and made a big mistake in her husband's family. She didn't get immersed in the pig cage and didn't make a big fuss and ruin the reputation of the Yu family. This is already a good ending. Even if the Yu family was just trying to protect their own family. The girl should keep this matter tightly covered and not let anyone know about it.

However, in order to gain more glory and wealth, the Yu Fang family believed Xiao Qin family , thinking that Gu Tingye did not know the true cause of Yu Yanhong's death, so they cooperated with Zhu Manniang, under the banner of celebrating Yu Ge Lao, He went to the Gu family to cause trouble and asked Sheng Minglan to agree to adopt Zhu Manniang's son into Yu Yanhong's name and become the eldest son.

Fortunately, Sheng Minglan stayed calm in the face of danger and guessed the true cause of Yu Yanhong's death, which frightened Yu Fangshi. After giving birth to her son Tuan Geer, the storm was resolved.

Sheng Minglan had overcome the crisis, but the Yu family's crisis came. Her daughter betrayed Gu Tingye, and Yu Fang also went to set up Gu Tingye's new wife. Isn't this a naked humiliation?

"Huh! Do you understand? How do you expect others to understand! Cuckolding others, regardless of past suspicions, is kind enough, but they actually dare to come and defraud!"

The Yu Fang family did not handle this matter well, and the Yu family Yan Zhen is a disaster. Mr. Yu Ge is already old and has become an official. He cannot protect the Yu family for long. However, Gu Tingye is in his prime and is still one of the most valued ministers of the emperor. He is very popular. If Gu Tingye really hates the Yu family, he will wait until Mr. Yu Ge dies. Taking revenge on the Yu family can destroy the Yu family.

"Thousands of miles of river embankments were destroyed by ant nests; the management of a family lies in the children and grandchildren, and the root is in the family." Mr. Yu Ge leaned on the Taishi chair, his body became older and older, and sighed, "If you educate your children well on weekdays, you will be able to shape them." If the character is determined to be righteous, there will be no disaster today. Fortunately, the old lady of the Sheng family and Mrs. Gu Hou have a grudge. "Can you guys stop me?"

Mr. Yu Ge knew that he had to give a satisfactory explanation to Ningyuan Hou Mansion. In this way, considering the relationship between Mrs. Yu and Mrs. Sheng and the relationship between Sheng Minglan and Yu Yanran, Gu Tingye would not embarrass the Yu family too much, and this explanation is naturally related to the Yu Fang family.

"If you don't throw away the rotten fruit, then you won't be able to keep any of the other good fruits." This truth is very clear to Mr. Yu Ge. If she doesn't drive away the Yu Fang family, sooner or later, she will instigate her husband to do more serious troubles. Therefore, Mr. Yu Ge decisively accused his daughter-in-law of being unfilial and sent her back to her parents' home with a divorce letter.

How decisive is Mr. Yu Ge? When Mrs. Yu Fang learned that she was going to be divorced and was making trouble, she refused to leave. Mr. Yu Ge didn't even bat an eyelid. He just asked his mother-in-law to tie up the eldest lady and put her in a carriage and send her away, telling her to die. Go outside.

The children of the Yu Fang family wanted to plead for their mother, but Yu Ge's old saying, "Any descendant of the Yu family who fails to abide by family rules or disobeys their elders will be kicked out of the house together" gave them no choice.

Yu Fang’s husband still wanted to defend his mother-in-law, but Yu Ge’s family tried to do it. In order to completely eliminate the possibility of Yu Fang’s return, Yu Ge decided to live with his eldest son, and then choose a virtuous man for his eldest son. daughter in law.

After throwing away this rotten fruit, Mr. Yu Ge got his wish and saved the Yu family. Gu Tingye did not cause any trouble to the Yu family. As for the Yu Fang family, after she was divorced, she hated the Xiao Qin family and killed her two children. , but that has nothing to do with the Yu family.

02. Mrs. Wang protected her daughter until the end. Not only could she no longer be able to save her daughter, she also cheated other children.

Let’s talk about Mrs. Wang, she also has a rotten fruit in her family, and that is her precious daughter Aunt Kang.

Aunt Kang is a troublemaker. She doesn't want anyone to live a better life than her. Once you live a better life than her, even if it has no direct relationship with her, she will still think of ways to harm you, such as Mrs. Sheng and Sheng Minglan.

Aunt Kang is a deceiver and scheming person, so cruel that she doesn't even spare her relatives. Her sister-in-law, Aunt Wang, and her younger sister, Ms. Wang, were all tricked by her.

The reason why Aunt Kang can be so rampant, harming so many people, and not being punished even though her hands are covered in blood, is because she is protected by an indistinct person like Mrs. Wang.

As soon as Aunt Kang got into trouble, she went home to ask for help from Mrs. Wang. Then, while scolding her daughter, Mrs. Wang went to her son, Uncle Wang, for help, forcing Uncle Wang to clean up the mess for her sister, and went to Uncle Kang to intercede, forcing her son-in-law to let her go. Daughter, then, the matter was settled, nothing happened to Aunt Kang, and she was more confident to get into trouble next time.

"I have to give it away!" Changbai said decisively, "My aunt refused to change despite repeated admonitions. In the past, she only did evil in the inner house behind closed doors. Now she is becoming more and more courageous. Even if she does not count her in-laws, the Sheng family is also a respectable official family. She She actually dared to pull her own sister to take the blame, and she was so confident! Her aunt was sure that her grandmother would save her.If I don't act ruthlessly this time, I'm afraid the trouble will be even worse next time. "

Old Mrs. Wang couldn't understand, and in the end, her three children suffered a lot.

First of all, her beloved eldest daughter Aunt Kang was spoiled by her. She was lawless and did whatever she wanted. She was so arrogant that she deceived her own sister Wang, The extent of poisoning Old Mrs. Sheng completely angered Sheng Changbai and Sheng Minglan. At the insistence of Sheng Changbai and Sheng Minglan, Old Mrs. Wang could no longer protect Aunt Kang, and had to tearfully agree to put her beloved daughter in caution. The other daughter, Wang, was also cheated and was charged with disrespecting her mother-in-law. After not going to the temple in Yuyang's hometown to pray for her mother-in-law for ten years, Wang was also heartbroken by her mother's partiality. Mrs. Wang's daughter was lost.

Her son, Uncle Wang, was not much better. In order to provide for his sister. Cleaning up the mess cost countless money, and it also affected his career. The career of the son of the dignified Mrs. Wang was not as good as that of Sheng Hong. What's more, because his son, Mrs. Wang's only grandson, married. Aunt Kang's daughter is dead, and the family has no heirs.

If you don't throw away the rotten fruits, you won't be able to keep the ones that are intact. This is the same principle in life. If he, then, the city gate is on fire, it will definitely affect Chiyu.

However, if there are elders in the family who are blindly protecting this scourge, it will be difficult for others to stay away from it. In the end, the scourge will break out and the whole family will be affected. Everyone is finished.

As an elder, you must be clear-minded and not harm the whole family for your own selfishness. Otherwise, you will not deserve the respect of your children and grandchildren, and you will have a miserable life at your own fault.

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