In 1906, Lu Xun, who was studying in Japan, received a telegram from home saying that his mother was seriously ill and hoped to return home soon. This year, Lu Xun was only 25 years old, but his fiancée Zhu An was already 28 years old. The two had been engaged for 7 years. Becaus

In 1906, Lu Xun, who was studying in Japan, received a telegram from his family saying that his mother was seriously ill and hoped to return home soon. Lu Xun was so anxious that he returned home in a hurry. After returning home, he found that his mother was very healthy, and he realized that he had been deceived.

This year, Lu Xun was only 25 years old, but his fiancée Zhu An was already 28 years old. The two were engaged for 7 years. Because of Lu Xun's repeated delays, Zhu An became an older unmarried woman who was criticized. Her family Lu Xun's mother repeatedly urged the Zhou family to get the two married as soon as possible, so Lu Xun's mother had to trick her son back to get married. She originally thought that her son would have a dispute with her, but she didn't expect that Lu Xun said nothing and completely allowed his mother to arrange it.

This arranged marriage was a mistake from the beginning. Lu Xun's mother Lu Rui had a very close relationship with the neighbor's grandma Qian. I heard that Lu Rui was looking for a good match for her son, so grandma Qian enthusiastically became a matchmaker. She described Zhu An as a wealthy, virtuous, and dignified person. Everything is good.

Lu Rui had arranged a marriage for Lu Xun before, and the target was a relative's girl Qin. Seeing that a good thing was about to happen, the marriage fell through because of the incompatibility of their horoscopes. Lu Xun's reaction was unknown, but girl Qin was Regret for life.

Whether the horoscopes are compatible is a metaphysics. Zhu An and Lu Xun's horoscopes are very compatible, but they are still a tragic marriage. Lu Xun, who had accepted new ideas, once wanted to cancel the engagement, but his mother refused. This was a huge scandal at the time. Once the engagement was cancelled, the woman's family would be unable to hold their head high for the rest of their lives. Lu Xun wrote another letter telling his mother to let Zhu An go to school and relax.

Zhu An said that she was too old to go to school and it was too late to give up. Zhu An's character is too traditional and cannot accept new ideas, which has become the biggest obstacle between the two.

is also an arranged marriage. Hu Shi wrote a letter asking Jiang Dongxiu to read. Jiang Dongxiu listened to it. Jiang Dongxiu didn't know a few Chinese characters at first, but after studying hard, he was able to read various novels. Although foot binding has been carried out for many years, the effect of foot binding is no longer significant, but it shows that Jiang Dongxiu can keep pace with the times.

After Lu Xun's request was rejected by Zhu An, he no longer had any expectations for marriage, but on the wedding night, when he saw the bride's little feet, he still couldn't help but feel sad. According to Lu Xun's mother's recollection, when the bride's sedan chair passed the door and opened the curtain, a shoe rolled out, leaving everyone at the scene stunned.

It turns out that the Zhu family knew that Lu Xun didn't like small feet, so they asked Zhu An to wear a pair of large-sized shoes and stuffed them with cotton. Zhu An was already of short stature. Sitting in the sedan chair, his shoes could not touch the ground. During the bumps, his shoes flew out uncooperatively, as if he was mercilessly mocking the bride's good intentions.

All the old people present felt that this scene was unlucky. Looking at the groom, there was no smile at all from beginning to end. He always looked aloof, as if he was a reluctant guest who came to collect gifts.

Lu Xun's cousin Zhou Guanwu recalled that Lu Xun was like a puppet on his wedding night, always silent. No matter what the guests said, he seemed not to hear it. After seeing his wife's true appearance, the expression on his face became more gloomy and depressed.

Lu Xun was a decent intellectual and had not publicly commented on his wife's appearance, but according to the evaluation of his two younger brothers, Zhu An's appearance was indeed a little worse. Zhou Zuoren said, "The newcomers are extremely short and appear to be underdeveloped."

On the second day of their wedding, Wang Hezhao, a servant of Lu Xun's family, noticed that Lu Xun's face was stained blue by the indigo on the quilt. He must have buried his head in the quilt and cried.

Three days after his wedding, Lu Xun returned to Japan and continued his studies. Zhu An has been waiting all his life, first for him to come back and get married, and later for him to change his mind.

Her world is very small, and she never leaves or takes a step outside the door all day long. His world is huge, he has ideals in his heart, and he is running around everywhere.

Lu Xun returned from studying in Japan and taught in a school in his hometown. He would rather live in school than stay at home.

Zhu An's hopes were once again frustrated. The more she wanted to please her husband, the more she lost her sense of proportion.

Lu Xun once inadvertently mentioned that a pastry he had eaten in Japan was delicious. After hearing this, Zhu An casually agreed that she had eaten it too and it was indeed delicious.

Lu Xun felt speechless about this, because this kind of pastry is only sold in Japan. When the two of them are at home, they have nothing to talk about. The literature and current situation that Lu Xun cared about were beyond Zhu An's ability to understand.

After all, they are not the same people. Yue Lao pulled the wrong red thread and tied their lives together.

Lu Xun can escape, but Zhu An cannot escape. This is the difference between men and women in arranged marriages. Too many men marry wives arranged by their families, and soon have new loves outside, and free love partners.

What’s at home becomes a decoration, what’s outside becomes true love.

Relatively speaking, Lu Xun was very restrained. Although he doesn't like Zhu An, he also knows that Zhu An is not easy and is a victim of an arranged marriage.

"But women were not guilty in the first place, but now they have made sacrifices to old habits."

"Since we are conscious of human morality and conscientiously refuse to commit the sins of young and old, we cannot blame the opposite sex. , I had no choice but to make a lifelong sacrifice to settle the four-thousand-year-old debt."

He was ready to sacrifice his whole life and put all his energy into his work. There is a kind of person who is born for writing. Lu Xun, who gave up medicine and turned to literature, had such a talent. His articles saved many people's souls and brought strength to many people in troubled times.

Lu Xun had no intention of chasing love. If he hadn't met Xu Guangping who actively pursued him many years later, Lu Xun would be a person who could enjoy loneliness safely.

It was precisely because Lu Xun did not develop a relationship outside that Zhu An had the illusion that as long as he was good to Lu Xun, he would be able to impress him one day.

When I lived in Xisantiao Hutong in Beijing, that was when Lu Xun and Zhu An were closest to each other. At that time, Lu Xun and his younger brother Zhou Zuoren broke up, and the two brothers separated. Lu Rui stayed at his second son's house, and Zhu An moved here with Lu Xun. It felt somewhat like a couple in need.

Zhu An was very considerate of Lu Xun. Lu Xun didn't like to talk. In order to figure out Lu Xun's taste, Zhu An would observe which dishes Lu Xun liked and disliked every time he ate. If there is little left on the plate after eating, you can make more next time.

When Lu Xun was writing in his room, Zhu An would tell the neighbors passing by in the yard not to make any noise, saying that Mr. Da was writing an article. She was illiterate and could not read Lu Xun's articles, but she knew that her husband was a great writer.

Zhu An's fantasy about this marriage was completely shattered after Xu Guangping appeared. Xu Guangping admired his teacher and launched a passionate offensive of love letters. Women chase men, but there is a veil between them. This saying is very applicable to Xu Guangping and Lu Xun.

Lu Xun, who was over forty, fell in love.

After hearing the news, Zhu An reacted very depressedly and said to his neighbor: "I am like a snail, crawling up from the bottom of the wall little by little. Although I climb slowly, I will climb to the top of the wall one day. But. Now I can't help it, I don't have the strength to climb, it's useless no matter how nice I treat him."

After Lu Xun took Xu Guangping south, the two completely lost contact. Lu Xun's letters were all written to his mother.

recognized the reality, and Zhu An accepted his fate. Fortunately, her mother-in-law Lu Rui was kind to Zhu An, and the two lived together and kept each other company.

Although Lu Xun never wrote to Zhu An, he always supported Zhu An and never forgot to send money every month for many years. Compared to the romantic talent Guo Moruo who ran away for most of his life and completely left his original wife behind, it is much better.

Arranged marriage is certainly not what talented people want, but once they get married, they have to bear the responsibilities.

When Lu Xun and Lu Rui passed away one after another, Zhu An felt lonely, and because of financial constraints, his life was very difficult.

Until the last day of life, the outcome is always undetermined. There are those who make a comeback, and there are those who sink. The second half of Zhu An's life is more miserable than the first half. A woman who is unable to support herself is very pitiful once she loses her support.

In 1947, Zhu An was seriously ill and told a visiting reporter: "Mr. Zhou was not bad to me. We had no quarrels and each had his own life. I should forgive him."

Both of them were not wrong. It's time.