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When a woman falls in love with someone, she is always blind. She only listens to the sweet words of the other person, but ignores his sincerity. In the end, she discovers that he does not really love you, he is in love with your identity, or Other additional conditions. The Wuguli in "Yanyuntai" of
is such an example. She thought Xiyin was close to her because she really liked her, so when Xiyin confessed her heart for the first time, she naturally accepted him, but she didn't watch it. Until now, Xiyin had just confessed her feelings to her eldest sister before her. This is what Xiyin calls love.
Why does he love black bone? Because Wuguli’s father can help him achieve his great cause, he needs the help of their family. He does not like Wuguli as much as he likes the Xiao family. As long as he can use the power of the Xiao family, then it doesn’t matter who you marry. Whether it's Hu Nian or black bone, it makes no difference to him.
And really loving someone is definitely not like this. If you really love her, she will be unique to you. No matter what the conditions, you just want to be with her, even if you have no identity or status, he will still love her. Respect her.
This is the "initial heart" of a man. He loves you, not your identity and background, and the power that may be brought to him. Once you confuse this concept, it is not pure love. To put it bluntly , It's just use.
But I can’t see this from the bones. She only thinks that Xi Yin really loves me. He liked me from the first sight, and I like him very much, so I want to spend my life with him. Together, even if it hurts my family, I don't care.
Maybe until the end, she can see Xiyin's love clearly, and she can understand who loves her most, but at that time, she should have no room for return, how sad.
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Let’s take a look at Han Dejang’s love for Yanyan. It stands to reason that a "southern" like him needs the power of the Xiao family. If he marries Yanyan, his future will be greatly affected by his family. But he didn't think so.
He likes Yanyan, but simply likes her straightforwardness and innocence, not the identity of the prime minister’s little daughter. If he knew her identity early in the morning, he might not dare to like her, because he knew the difference between the two. Individuals may not be able to be together.
Some people will say that Handejean is not brave enough in love, and he obviously likes it, so he should go to propose a marriage as soon as possible, and if it continues, it may be someone else’s Yanyan.
But why does he hesitate, why is he timid? But because I love this person too much, I am afraid that my identity is not enough to match, and I am afraid that others will say that he is clinging to the Xiao family, and I am afraid that he cannot give Yanyan happiness.
In fact, if a man really loves you, he will have concerns, and he will think a lot. Although he doesn’t know whether he thinks is good or bad, but it’s normal. If you don’t love you, you won’t think about it. For your sake.
If Handerang is also like Xiyin, he will do his best to please Yanyan and to please Prime Minister Siwen, but such Handerang is not the brother of Deren that Yanyan likes.
Hande made love's "initial heart" very simple. He just ran into a girl. He felt that she was frank and lively, had seen others, and admired unconsciously. He wanted to be with her, but he was afraid that she would not be able to give her the happiness she wanted.
The simpler the love is, the more innocent it is. This is love without any strings attached. This is the love that retains his original heart.
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Actually, to see if a person really loves you, these "two words" are the best answer: the original intention. The original intention of
is the reason to fall in love with a person in the first place. Do you love her because of her conditions, or you love her because of her, this is an essential difference.
For example, Xiyin in "Yanyuntai", he is more in love with the identity of the black bones, the Xiao family behind her in the past, rather than her, even if she is someone else, as long as he can help him He will still choose her;
and Han Derang is different from Xiyin, his love comes from Xiao Yanyan, even if she is just a commoner woman, he will like her and be with her, Xiao Yanyan who has no identity It will make him easier.
Love doesn't need to be so deliberate, simple is good, just simply like someone, just want to spend the rest of life with her, this is enough.
this makes meThinking of the beautiful love between Tang Yixin and Zhang Ruoyun, the two people had a wonderful meeting, but it happened to be a red light, but the two people’s cars collided, and it sparked, so the eight-year love long-distance race began. Today they are married and have children, and lead a life that many people envy.
When they first met, they didn't know what they would be like in the future. They just met, knew, and fell in love with each other until the end. This is the original intention of love, and this is the best love.
Don’t think that the word “initial intention” is only in your career or other aspects. The same principle applies in feelings. “Don’t forget the original intention, always have to always”. It’s also quite appropriate here. When you understand the original intention of love , I also know how to love.
