Movie "Chongqing Forest"
Illustration: Movie "Chongqing Forest" still
The movie "Chongqing Forest" was released in 1994 and is directed by Wong Kar Wai, Lin Qingxia, Tony Leung, Jin Cheng Wu, An urban romance film starring Faye Wong and others. The Douban scored 8.7 and won many awards that year.
The film tells the two love stories separately: He Zhiwu, who is broken in love, meets a fugitive female convict; Patrol 633, who is asked to break up by his girlfriend, meets Afei, a fast food restaurant girl.
All emotions in this world are like this. Friendship, love, and family affection are all places to stay when we are lonely and tired. Because of these emotions, we have less time to be alone.
But when you have nothing, you are really lonely at that time, and you are the only one who accompanies you and opens the way for you in front of you.
Even though you have gone through countless landscapes and countless journeys, when you are the most difficult and helpless, there is only loneliness around you, and you can only rely on yourself.
The most advanced way of living alone is to learn high-quality solitude. When we understand it, we can laugh at loneliness.
1: Learn to get along with loneliness, first learn to digest negative emotions
Every time you end a long period of business emotions, you suddenly have no company around you, opinions between friends Disagreement, when lovers get tired of each other, or get fired by their boss, negative emotions will inevitably arise.
After the loss of love, the patrolman 633 in the movie "Chongqing Forest" talks with the toothbrushes, towels and pet bears in the room every day, asking them if they still have to wait for her;
He Zhiwu pretends not to be broken in love and calls Greet the parents of ex-girlfriend Amay, wait for Amay to get off work in front of the snack bar, and wait in front of the pager whether Amay will leave a message for him.
Every time I go to a convenience store, I buy a can of pineapple that will expire before his birthday. May’s favorite canned pineapple.
After breaking up, there is a long lonely company, no matter how unwilling, no matter whether this emotion will break through the mirror or not, since then, negative emotions will only stay for a long time, bringing negative effects to your life and work.
So, to learn to get along with loneliness, you must first learn to digest negative emotions.
He Zhiwu will have a ritual after each break up, which is running. For He Zhiwu, running is a way for him to vent his negative emotions.
Some people like to hide negative emotions, thinking that over time, these emotions will also dissipate, but they do not know that these emotions will radiate for a long time.
Life should continue. First of all, admit these negative emotions and admit that they exist because of you. Next time, learn to avoid similar negative emotions. There is still a long way to go. Repeating the same mistakes will only make you go better. Many detours.
Please be sure to learn, let go of your seemingly impeccable strength, vent these emotions, sports, travel, food, everything is good, as a long-term painstaking management of this emotional reward to yourself.
Sublimate these emotions, put them in your career, and let yourself go forward. After doing all this, you will feel that you have given so much in this relationship and it is not in vain.
2: Learn to get along with loneliness and make good use of the time spent with yourself
Lonely and bitter, loneliness is also rare, it is rare to have time to calm down and think about problems alone , It’s rare to have a real face-to-face conversation with yourself, and it’s rare to run in with your best "partner".
Finally, no one will control your thinking. At this time, you can have more and bolder ideas. Slowly work in your heart and sharpen your character.
The world is impermanent, there are thousands of people in this world, there are thousands of ideas, why do you have one by onePlease, you have to please, only you.
Mr. Yang Jiang has a saying: "This world is yours and has nothing to do with others".
This sentence does not mean that you really have nothing to do with others, but your subjective consciousness, which creates your objective actions. The future depends on yourself. Although the road ahead is bumpy, it is also vast. Who do you expect to walk with you?
It is better to take advantage of the opportunity to be alone with yourself brought by loneliness, to have a better run-in with yourself, to be a tacit understanding of others, and to be an interesting soul out of a million.
After all, you live for yourself, and you have the freedom of joy, anger, sorrow and joy.
First of all, I think about myself, know myself clearly, rationally, and objectively, do what I can do, for the sake of others, don’t force it. Accept yourself quietly and easily, and face everything optimistically.
3: Learn to live with loneliness and make your soul fuller
After He Zhiwu fell in love, he chose to buy himself drunk and called countless people. Find the next partner; Patrol 633 is to leave behind the things of his ex-girlfriend, to pin his miss.
When loneliness strikes, some people are always helpless.
Usually there is the advice of parents, the guidance of teachers, the counsel of friends, and the encouragement of lovers. There are people around, and when thinking about problems, they will always leave this one-third of the land, waiting for others to fill up, and not really thinking about the problem on their own. And loneliness gives you this opportunity.
In other words, "Loneness" is the only way to mature and be alone. In many cases, "Loneness" allows a person to grow up completely. The reason is that some people can grasp the time of being alone and strengthen themselves from beginning to end. , So that your soul is fuller.
When alone is unattended, at this time, only oneself can restrain oneself, which is self-discipline. Start self-discipline from everything, self-discipline for the body, and self-discipline for thinking.
Everything can be done by yourself, truly do not rely on others, control your emotions, and get rid of bad habits. To learn, learn yourself as the field of study, strengthen your abilities, and enrich your soul.
The things that once gave me a headache, and the things that can only be done by relying on others, now have a real opportunity to start and complete independently on their own.
Let yourself blend into yourself, experience the true desires of your soul, and supplement your own needs. Don't be harsh on yourself, and make your soul fuller. Even if loneliness strikes, you are already strong, strong enough to be drunk, strong enough to rely on yourself.
When people come to this world, they are all alone, lonely when they come, and lonely when they go. So you don't have to reject loneliness deliberately, but learn to reconcile with loneliness and learn to enjoy the tranquility and calmness that loneliness brings. When alone, do whatever you want to do, digest the negative emotions that make you feel uncomfortable, and cultivate a tacit understanding with yourself.
The most advanced way to live a person is to learn high-quality loneliness, accept loneliness from the heart, become friends with loneliness, understand loneliness, and finally merge into loneliness.
The road to life is rough, why bother with yourself everywhere, read more books, study more, drink more water, go to bed earlier, complain less, save more hope. Treat yourself better, and the future will be smoother.
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