文/雪落无尘
Not long ago, Xu Lu and Zhang Mingen broke up, causing a lot of trouble. Recently, Xu Lu appeared at the airport. The colors of the bags and suitcases are confusing. I don't know whether it is a coincidence or an allusion.
Last year was still sweet, but now they broke up suddenly, which caught many people off guard. What is even more unexpected is that the two did not break up peacefully.
On June 6, Zhang Mingen was exploded with Hu Bingqing, who was cooperating with "Insect Totem", and behaved intimately in a certain parking lot. Although the two of them came forward to clarify after the incident, Xu Lu did not make any response. In addition to the current green bag, it seemed that Zhang Mingen had already settled everything.
Some feelings seem to come quickly and go fast-Xu Lu Zhang Mingen: How far a relationship can go depends on one thing: the concept of love.
01
Two people with different love outlooks will eventually part ways
In "Daughters' Love", Xu Lu asked Zhang Mingen: "You didn't have a heart for me, why are you still following Where am I?"
Zhang Mingen answered the question a little bit, and said something irrelevant, and fell into embarrassment and silence.
Subsequently, the two had a disagreement about love and marriage.
Xu Lu said: "If you don't fall in love for the purpose of getting married, is it just for fun?" Zhang Mingen said that he has not yet reached the age for marriage.
Perhaps, at the beginning of this relationship, Xu Lu was on the weak and passive side.
Zhang Mingen did not clearly indicate that he had been moved by Xu Lu, nor did he expressly give Xu Lu a promise to marry her.
So, just when Xu Lu wanted to be with Zhang Mingen and spend the rest of his life, he used a playful mentality to deal with this relationship.
"Age" is never a reason not to get married. Before, Kan Qingzi had not married Ji Lingchen at the age of 30, and later Xu Lu was prevaricated by the age of marriage before marriage.
People who don’t want to marry you will always make up a million reasons. Age is the most irresponsible excuse.
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Falling in love is not just a matter between two people.
In "Daughters' Love", Dad Xu showed that he was not optimistic about Zhang Mingen. But because of Xu Lu, it's hard to say anything.
Xu Lu once mentioned to Zhang Mingen that he hoped to take herself to meet Zhang Mingen's parents, but Zhang Mingen refused. The reason is that falling in love is a matter of two people.
Generally speaking, there are two reasons why the subject is refused to see his parents. One is that he is not ready yet, and this situation is not serious.
Second, I don't want to have further development with the other party, and I don't want to have more involvement. Zhang Mingen's refusal obviously belongs to the latter.
The combination of two people involves more people than two people. In a sense, falling in love is not a matter between two people.
One person can involve many people, and the connection of two people may connect more people together. Only by letting those who are involved in each other know the existence of each other can it be enough to show the importance of each other in this relationship.
This is also a girl, often in the circle of friends of the subject, looking for the reason of security.
Xu Lu proposed to Zhang Mingen the idea of meeting the parents, also to find more sense of security for herself. What is ridiculous is that Zhang Mingen neither offered this sense of security, but also refused Xu Lu's request.
03
To love someone is never cautious
Xu Lu once asked Zhang Mingen: "Will you fall in love with the heroine in a movie?"
Zhang Mingen smiled and said: "It doesn't have to be an emotional drama."
Now, Zhang Mingen is making emotional dramas.The question is, this paragraph contains some prophetic words, which inevitably makes people feel sad.
Xu Lu would ask such a question, perhaps because she was afraid that Zhang Mingen would treat herself just for fun.
She once said: In a relationship, you must learn to connect, or you will become cold.
However, in a relationship, what is needed is two people to maintain a joint connection, and one person's contribution is destined to not last long.
In this relationship, Xu Lu has always been careful to pay. The emotional balance of excessive imbalance will collapse at any time. After the collapse, only the pain of the person who overpaid is left.
If a person really loves you, he will not let you be passive. In this way, a person is overly cautious in the relationship, which shows that she is not loved at all.
Xu Lu For Zhang Mingen, this is probably such an existence.
Many times, in a relationship, the more active you are, the less you can hold a man's heart.
Those who are truly loved are more proud of love.
To love someone is not to lose yourself or give up yourself. All the emotions are controlled by the other person. The so-called love has always been equal to each other. If you want the joy of love, you must find someone who is evenly matched.
The true and lasting love is the tolerance and understanding that I love you, and the tolerance and understanding that you love me.
In this way, we can see each other's shining points, constantly cheer each other up, appreciate each other, and grow with each other. Of course, all of this only exists under the premise that both of them love each other very much.
