Sun Li's parenting view is praised by many people.
Although Huang Lei's teacher-student relationship with Sun Li has always been controversial, they have never defended anything for it, and just used their real life to fight against the controversial voices from the outside world.
Of course, the division of labor between the two is the male lead and the female lead. Huang Lei takes on the important task of making money to support his family, and Sun Li carries on the daily life of the children at home. I have to say that Sun Li is taking good care of herself.
Huang Lei’s wife posted the paintings of her eldest daughter, 16 years old Duoduo’s exquisite and beautiful
Anyone who has followed Sun Li for a long time knows that Sun Li’s daily updates are basically related to family, such as showing off her children, showing off her food, and showing off her scenery. Among them, Duoduo, the eldest daughter, has the highest appearance rate, and even gives us an illusion that the person who belongs to this account is Duoduo.
In Duoma's sharing, we all witnessed Duoduo's maturity and growth just like cloud raising children, from a young girl to a 16-year-old graceful flower girl. Moreover, in terms of height and appearance, she has surpassed her mother Sun Li.
It’s like in Sun Li’s sharing that we realized Duoduo’s new skill - drawing. Although the works drawn are not copied works in our cognition, they contain our own thoughts and connotations. Although they are abstract, they are rich in profound meanings.
Therefore, every time we see Sun Li’s update, we will naturally feel envious. How can we raise our daughter so well? Is this the advantages and privileges of celebrities? After all, Sun Li’s main task is to teach her children, which she cannot achieve. But are you really confident to educate your children well if you really stay at home?
Sun Li's view of parenting is the core
The nature of children needs to respect
Under the guidance of Sun Li, the Duoduo presents us with versatility, playing piano, painting, dancing, and cooking, but at the same time, they often do abnormal behaviors, such as wearing clothes that children of this age should wear, perming, dyeing, and doing manicures, etc.
Also tell us that if you want to accept the goodness of your children, you cannot refuse to accept the little rebellion in them, which is the so-called nature? Indeed, in the process of Sun Li leading Daduoduo, she adhered to this concept. Children's nature really needs respect, because most of the time, children do some behaviors to satisfy their curiosity. After seeing that friends or adults around me have done this behavior, I also want to try and explore.
In this process, even if the parents do not interfere, they will consciously end this behavior after trying. On the contrary, parents impose obstacles, and they will increase their behavior frequency due to rebellion, and maybe they will develop bad habits!
So, it’s better to let go just like Sun Li, and return the right to choose to the child. The child will do whatever he wants. After all, the child’s growth is in constant trial and error and attempts. Who can completely define the right and wrong and good or bad of each behavior?
Do not use your own subjective to define the right or wrong of your child
In life, many parents will define the nature of their children's behavior based on their own experience. If they meet their expectations and achieve the goals they set for him, they will be considered to be doing it right. Otherwise, they are wrong behaviors that must be explicitly prohibited.
But, are parents so confident that they feel that their judgments are correct? Wouldn't you have any mistakes or mistakes? Think from the perspective of others, if your parents treat you like this, can you really accept it naturally?
of course not! This is an unfair treatment in itself. Parents do not correct their relationship with their children in their hearts. They always feel that they are superior to their children and are older than their children. They ask them to give up the so-called fearless attempt and must follow the shortcuts they set for them.
Slowly, parents will find that not only have their children lost their basic living ability, but their relationship with them is getting worse and worse, and they are not as intimate as other parents and children. I can't do anything except envy. Isn’t this the parents themselves? Didn’t they push the child away by themselves? In turn, we have to turn the tables.
Today’s summary:
Will you properly imitate Sun Li’s parenting view? Or do you have any better solutions? Welcome to share your thoughts with us!
