Crazy Flower is also called "Crazy Flower". Flowers that bloom in accordance with the sequence are a metaphor for their beauty and are common sayings about lies. Flowers that cannot be strong, flowers that bloom.
Girls can be called crazy flowers, but women cannot, because women still have the identity of a mother. Isn’t it ridiculous to lose the power to be a woman when you become a mother?
10 episodes of " Rock and Roll ", and I kept thinking in my heart why Peng Lai was so arrogant, irresponsible, and acted recklessly, because she was a mother. But there is another voice, how could she be so unruly, rebellious, and self-centered. She is very envious and admired. After thinking about it carefully, I realized that women are so diverse and self-reliant, but since they were confined to the halo of "mom", they have never been themselves again.
19 is not a big deal when the sky falls.
If your daughter becomes pregnant at the age of 19, what would you do as a mother?
Beat to death, scolding, aborting, and kicking out of the house. It seems that this is the reaction that a normal mother should have. But afterwards, after beating and scolding, the daughter still had to recognize her, but the inner gap was built very high, so high that the mother and daughter turned against each other and never interacted with each other.
Being pregnant during the day, Peng Lai's first reaction was not to scold his daughter for being indecent and to scold the man for being irresponsible.
It is true that Peng Lai has completely brought her past experience. She was pregnant at the age of 19 and gave birth successfully. She also ran into marriage directly, but she divorced without a few years.
Now, she is pregnant during the day, and suddenly she has something to do in her drunken and dreamy life. She began to buy baby supplies from her few balances carefully. Although she just learned about her pregnancy, she has already started to prepare quietly. The plan to sell the house was also put on hold, and he even thought about saving more money for his daughter and grandson during his lifetime.
However, this is a scam, a bad move to deceive her into agreeing to take a break from school during the day. But Peng Lai's reaction was real and effective, and he slapped a lot of "normal" mothers in the face.
19-year-old daughter is pregnant. Normal mothers will deal with extreme treatment, but abnormal mothers will let the flow. Why?
Because the focus of a normal mother is not on "normal", but on the word "mom". After becoming a mother, you must not only restrain yourself from not being able to do this, but also teach your child to become a good child who is well-behaved, sensible, and abide by the rules and regulations.
This is naturally not wrong, but this is limited to normal events. If an unexpected event like a daughter suddenly becomes a single mother, it will not work if she uses that set of "mother theory". During the graduation season every year, daughters secretly taste the forbidden fruit and get pregnant. Those who force their daughter to death, mother and daughter turn against each other, run away from home, and have a depressed life. Which one is the best result?
19 pregnancy is a big deal when the sky falls?
Yes, surely. Because flowers should bloom infinitely at the age of a flower, rather than being stuck by a child. If you don’t experience the beauty of the world, you will bear the suffering of raising the next generation in advance. But why do "moms" have to play the role of blackface and push their daughter to the extreme of punishment?
Because they are mothers, they have to endure doubts from their families, criticism from the outside world, and regret from the heart, so they turn this "reprimand" into "responsibility" and with a "shamed" heart, even if they "destroy" their biological daughter, they must "turn to justice."
However, who can re-choose what has happened? Instead of scolding her daughter for her faults with heartache, it is better to focus on the present and the future and bear external pressure with her daughter.
Mom is a woman, and her daughter is also a woman. Why force yourself to be an ninja ? In order to comply with the so-called family affection and secular world, and make yourself cold and ruthless, you push your daughter into the abyss with your own hands. In addition to teaching and persuading, mothers can also become friends, scold and take responsibility together, not for anything else, but for the empathy of both women.
Selfishness is human nature.
Peng Lai and Bai Tian are mother and daughter, and they are enemies who have never wanted to meet for 12 years and are particularly jealous as soon as they meet.
Why?
Because they are all selfish enough, the starting point of their actions in their words is themselves.
First meeting Peng Lai during the day, he just beat him up with a basin of cold water and a basin of washbasin. Because Peng Lai drank as soon as he got home, and he took several men home, lying drunkenly. Not to mention Peng Lai, a middle-aged woman, even this unruly girl who just passed 19 years old during the day could not do such a crazy and unscrupulous thing. Are
Peng Lai’s fault? No, because this is the real Penglai.
Peng Lai is an outdated female singer in rock. Although she has not rocked for many years, she has the genes of rock in her bones. She speaks just swear words, and she has never left her hands. She smokes one by one. She lives a mess and lives a life of drunkenness and dreams.
She returned to China to die in the daytime. Is there no one to take care of her?
is not. She does love her daughter because if she hadn't insisted on her, she might not have had any daytime existence. When she divorced, she also wanted to live with her daughter. She hadn't seen her for 12 years, but her daughter was also her biggest concern.
has maternal love but not much. Once I didn’t see my daughter home, I went to find someone to drink. I never thought about going to my daughter’s school to wait, and I never thought about making something delicious for my daughter. There was not even a single thing in her luggage that was brought to her daughter as a souvenir. This has nothing to do with her life being unhappy, because all she can think of is herself from beginning to end.
Is Peng Lai a qualified mother?
is naturally impossible. Even if the daughter is awarded to her ex-husband, she is in the United States, this is not the reason that blocks family affection. If you want to love, no matter how unsatisfactory she lives in the United States, you can always send messages and videos. Because "the dog does not choose a poor family, and the child does not dislike the mother's ugly", I am afraid that she will not have children in her heart.
The same experience, normal mothers will save money and try every means to supply their children. No matter whether the child wants it or not, or whether he will take it, but mothers always have to think about the child; when they meet, they will be filled with children's things, from small food and clothing, to the most popular limited editions. Whether they like it or not is the same, but they must have it.
But the real reality is not like this. Mom is just a person, without three heads and six arms, and not magic. She can only rely on labor and follow the trend of society. It is not easy to support herself. Where can I save money in front of my children? How can I pretend to be light?
people will not do anything for themselves, and they will be punished by heaven and earth. I can’t even live well, who else do I want to take care of? The pretentiousness in front of children is too easy to see through. Instead of trying to pretend, it is better to reveal the true side. In these few decades, I will be kind to myself and live in equality with my children. If it is better, I will help each other. If it is worse, I will be well. Only by not overtaking or clinging to one's life can one benefit those around you.
Revenge is the essence of people getting along with each other.
During the day, in order to drive Peng Lai away, the keys of the house were changed, Peng Lai's clothes were thrown away, the room was set on fire, and the door was removed. For this reason, the two of them entered the police station more than once. What's too much is that on the way home from the police station, he pushed Penglai directly to the road. Fortunately, it was just an electric car. If it were replaced with a car, the murder might have been successful.
Peng Lai is also a mother. If you change the lock, I will apply 502 in the keyhole; if you throw my clothes, I will throw your clothes too; if you set fire, I will call the police directly, throw them together, get scolded together, and even if you die, I will take a cushion.
What is even more surprising is that these are just the superficial skills of Peng Lai’s counterattack during the day, because her focus is on selling houses. If you sell a house within the Third Ring Road in Beijing, you can make a lot of money by selling it. What’s wrong with taking the money? In order to cheat Baitian's handprints, Peng Lai sneaked to the room. He coaxed Baitian to drink when he got the handprints. When he got it, he quickly sold the house. If he had not been reminded by the person who came to see the house during the day, the house might have changed hands.
How did Peng Lai develop a vengeful personality?
Because vengeance is her innate way of being with others.
When he was six and a half years old, his parents divorced and threw them to his aunt who had never married for life, but he suffered all the favors and warmth. He was beaten even more than he got. After finally growing up until he became an adult, the first thing he did was to leave home and become a drifter in Beijing. After becoming famous overnight, he became a mother at the age of 19, and divorced at the age of 26 and wandered in the United States again. He lived to the age of 38, suffered from serious illness and returned to China without any success.
If she was a submissive person, she might have died long ago by her aunt's beating and scolding; if she had not come to Beijing by rebellion, she might have died long ago in a corner where no one cares about it; if she was not satisfied with her edges, she might have lost the idea of living after committing suicide.
Peng Lai really wanted to treat Bai Tian well, and even fantasized about the scene of a mother and a filial daughter. However, in order to get angry with her, she did everything too much, and she also exhausted her remaining motherhood and just wanted to sell the house and leave. At first I went back to the United States to retire, and then for the rock dream. In short, the love for the daytime is far less than what I plan for myself in my heart.
Perhaps Peng Lai has too many sharp things, so sharp that it is a bit out of place and a little unacceptable, so she becomes a vengeful person. But who is not like this?
When facing unfair things, resistance is an instinct. Even if you can't resist, you will have your own attitude. It is natural to still talk if you hear ugly words, because no one is willing to be cowardly. Especially for the children you gave birth to, one look and one back, all challenging the bottom line of your heart.
However, many mothers always advise themselves to give birth, but they cannot stuff them back. If the child is young, don’t worry. But as a result, the child's temperament is difficult to take back, but he is full of anger. Children are angry when they are young, but they are still angry when they grow up. Some people summarize that children are just debt collection.
There is no such thing as collecting debts and repaying debts. It’s just that the mother is used to being tolerant and not talking about it. She always thinks that the child is going to be better when he grows up. When you are three years old, it is easy to change your country and nature is difficult to change. You will be like when you grow up, unless you have the opportunity to reshape your muscles and bones. But why bother? How high is the chance of becoming a child who cannot educate himself and rely on the outside world?
The relationship between the two generations of people cannot escape the relationship between people. The extra layer of family affection is not used to indulge in waste. Instead of hoping that children can understand family affection after hitting a nail in the outside world, it is better to start from yourself and let children understand that no one gives in to anyone or holds anyone. Only by confronting one's tit-for-tat can one create sparks, and only by retaliating one's vengeance can one have a memory.
The woman who is a mother is not a ninja turtle.
In China, mother is a very sacred and almost worshipped profession.
Because she became a mother's woman, she was almost a god. She could not only make money to satisfy her children's desire for abundance, but also transform magic into acclimatization to meet her desire for fullness, and she could also hold her on her head and dote on her for a lifetime. But behind it is endless grievances and pain, as well as fatigue and pain.
Of course, being a mother is a wonderful thing, and that kind of joy and comfort are also irreplaceable.
However, mothers are also individuals, a woman who needs to be understood, tolerated and cared for by others. The appearance of the "Tethnic Ninja Turtles" they show is given by the mother's halo and is the self-set after becoming a mother, but it does not mean that they are willing.
Peng Lai in "Rock Flowers" is not a qualified mother, or she strictly means not even a mother. Because her unruly, free and easy, nonsensical, and unrestrained, all surpassed her daughter, let alone let her contribute selflessly to her daughter.
But there are a group of people around her who are willing to roam for her. Even at the trough, even if she is already drunk and dreaming, she is always that dazzling woman. It seems like the unruly rock and roll that made her successful. But I would rather understand it as rock and roll having an excuse for her to be herself. Because rock is not defined, she is not defined either. Not to mention a woman, she is a woman who is a mother. As long as she is still in rock, she has no boundaries.
Why is such a bad mother liked by women who are also mothers?
Because there is no woman who is willing to take off the cloak of being spoiled and loved by others and tolerate another person infinitely, even if this life is born by oneself.
Sucen said that what is more difficult than financial freedom is emotional freedom. You can cry when you want to cry, laugh when you want to laugh, you can yell out when you are unhappy, and you can say happiness without any scruples. Since going to school, almost no one has been able to release his emotions so freely. If you want to laugh, you have to take into account the occasion, and if you want to cry, you have to take into account the occasion. We are becoming more and more polite. However, politeness is precisely the product obtained after being handed over to the freedom of emotions.
If a person loses emotional freedom after going to school, then a woman loses freedom after becoming a mother. You don’t cry or laugh for yourself, and you can’t even spend the money you earn hard-earned on yourself, and you don’t even have freedom in life and death. Children, children, children have become the only criterion for mothers to speak and do things. Even if the child has already flapped his wings, the mother's imprisonment is still effective.
It’s so sad to be a mother. The child crawled out of his own belly. No matter who you care. Love whoever you want. Children who don’t bother so much can grow up, and women who don’t sacrifice so many will still be mothers. The hurdle that we have to overcome has always been not the woman himself. Let her go and leave some space, even a little bit.
