For our cultured nation, any family has its own ethos, which is "family education" and "family tradition".
The Family Instructions of Zhu Zi are well-known. In fact, there are two versions of this family instruction. One is Zhu Bailu's "Guidelines for Family Governance", which can be said to be a family rule written and accumulated by different elders of the Zhu family. The other is "The Family Instructions of Ziyang Zhuzi" by Zhu Xi.
Family motto is easy to understand. Its purpose is to regulate the behavior of everyone in the family. To put it bluntly, it is the code of conduct. If other family members can do things that are explicitly prohibited in the family motto, then those born in this family will be If you can't do it, you will be severely punished and even expelled from the genealogy.
Perhaps for us today, family rules do not have much deterrent effect. Even in our generation, many families no longer have family rules and genealogy, and free, equal and peaceful coexistence has become the mainstream.
But this does not mean that all families respect equality. In some families in certain areas, house rules are still greater than social rules and even greater than human rights.
It’s just that among the many house rules, not every house rule is worth inheriting. Some house rules are the essence and some are dross. Having rules is not a bad thing in itself. If you blindly follow the old ways without discrimination, it is easy to cause bad results.
Liang Hong (pseudonym) couldn't help feeling cold behind his back after seeing the house rules of his fiance's house. While thanking that he had not yet married in, he felt that the world has everything.
Before the holiday of the unit, Liang Hong and her fiance Liu De (pseudonym) had planned to get married during the Spring Festival. It was precisely because the relationship between the two was very close that she would come to Liu's house to spend her new year.
Liu De said that in her hometown, any undocumented daughter-in-law would go to her in-law’s house for the New Year before she got married. Liang Hong said that she had never heard of this custom, just to take care of the face of the prospective mother-in-law’s family. Before going home with Liu De, I won't say whether or not I will celebrate the Spring Festival at the man's house.
The twenty-third of the twelfth lunar month is the new year, Liang Hong and Liu De hurry up and finally get home before 12 noon that day,There is a custom that visits to relatives and friends should not be delayed until the afternoon, otherwise it will be disrespect for the host's family.
This trip was a long way, and the two hurried to Liu's house before dawn. They were exhausted all the way, but found that Liu De's parents had not prepared lunch when they got home.
Fortunately, there are no outsiders at home, and the meals for the four are very well prepared. With the help of Liang Hong, the prospective mother-in-law quickly prepared the meals.
During this period, Liu De and his son waiting in the main house are always chatting. From the bottom of his heart, Liang Hong feels that his fiancé is like a different person. After all, in the normal relationship between the two, Liu De is not diligent, but it is not. Will leave her to do all the housework alone.
Although I was a little dissatisfied in my heart, I thought that Liu De hadn't been home for a long time. It was reasonable to talk to her father at home, but she did not expect that the reason in her heart was actually family tradition.
After the food was put on the table, Liang Hong didn't think much about it. After Liu De washed her hands and sat on the west side of the table, she still pays attention to etiquette in her heart. Normally, the north and east sides have to sit on the elders or Sun Bin, since the prospective father-in-law is already sitting on the north side, and the fiance is sitting opposite him again, the remaining two positions are naturally left to the prospective mother-in-law.
Liang Hong did not feel that there was anything wrong with her behavior after seated, but the momentary silence of the father and son who were chatting made the atmosphere very embarrassing.
She raised her eyes to see that Liu De hadn't waited to speak, she heard the father-to-be next to him fell off the chopsticks in his hand and hummed three words from his nose: "No tutor!"
I heard these three words Liang Hong was stunned, she was still not sure who the father-in-law was talking about, so her fiance Liu De gave her a wink and motioned her out.
Liang Hong immediately reacted after walking out of the main house, and dragged Liu De to ask what was going on. Liu De conclusively explained: "This is the house rule of our Liu family. Women cannot go to the dinner table."
Liang Hong is anxious "Yes, you did tell me that there was such a bad habit before, but now there are no outsiders in the family, so there are only four people in total who have to sit separately between men and women?"
Liu De's answer made Liang Hong decide to give up this marriage completely , Liu De said: "To tell you, as far as I can remember,For meals at home, my father and I were in the main house, and my mother took my sister in the kitchen. Now my sister has been married for several years, and relatives still cannot serve the table when she comes back every year. _P1p
Liang Hong said grimly: "What do you mean, it's my fault today?" What did your dad say? What does it mean to have no tutor? Forgive me for not understanding your tutor. "_P1p
Seeing that Liang Hong lost his temper, Liu De wanted to continue to persuade him, but his father shouted back. Liang Hong showed obvious dissatisfaction, but the prospective parents-in-law didn’t pay much attention to her. Not only was she indifferent to her emotions. He also stopped his son from letting him control.
The development of the matter is not over yet, what made Liang Hong chill behind was hearing his father's call, Liu De hurriedly said to her: "My family Just bear with this rule. "Then she turned around and left without waiting for any more indications.
This situation made Liang Hong, who had been hungry and hungry for the whole morning, suddenly feel chest tightness and stomach bloat, and couldn't eat a bite of food.
is a straightforward person. , Liang Hong turned around and brought the things he had brought and went out. This behavior made Liu De very faceless. He held her in front of his parents and asked: "It's not that you have a delicious meal to get the certificate. doing what? "_P1p
When asked, Liang Hong was also straightforward: "I can't get this certificate. I regret getting married. When I go back, I will return all the things your family gave. The family style is too strict and I dare not climb high. _P1p
The stern father-in-law who was originally stern and unspoken said again: "Let her go, she is all engaged. I see where she can get married. _P1p
She was too lazy to fight back with this sentence, and walked out of Liu De's house with a wave of her hand, and found the town based on the impression she had when she came. It took an afternoon to go back.
Don't think that strange things are away from yourself Very far away, even blindly thinking that what happened in others’ mouths are rare cases. In fact, many things happen unconsciously.
A person’s words and deeds best reflect his thoughts and moral qualities, but there are also different Young people are very good at deceiving each other with deliberately packaged words and deeds.
Because of this, there will be so many scams and regretful people in this society. Don’t just look at how he behaves in front of you. ,It depends on the overall situation. How the two get along is important, as is the attitude of changing the environment.
People who are responsible will not pretend to be the same, and those who are not responsible will be fickle, pretending to have different attitudes and appearances in different environments.
Being a human being, keep your eyes bright and don't make decisions too eagerly, you are right.
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