Illustration: Stills of the TV series "Love in the Fallen City"
Zhang Ailing is deeply influenced by Chinese classical literature and at the same time received a good Western education, so her literary vision is relatively broad. This combination of Chinese and Western thinking makes her work more three-dimensional, full of characters, and more conflicting and thinking value in the plot.
Many people who have read Zhang Ailing’s works say that she has a coldness in her bones, but in fact, she is not born to be like this. This is closely related to her growth environment and it is difficult to change in a warm direction in a short time. . But it is precisely because of the coldness that she always maintains a sense of reason, always able to see the faintness of human nature through the fate of little people.
The novel "Love in the Fallen City" is Zhang Ailing's most classic masterpiece. Unlike "Red Rose and White Rose", the heroines in the two novels have completely opposite endings. It is also a masterpiece, but it represents two different directions, whether it is the former or the latter, it can always give us different enlightenment and influence.
Bai Liusu is the heroine in "Love in the Fallen City". She is a divorced 28-year-old woman. At that time, the 28-year-old is no longer young, so much so that many people think , Bai Liusu has no other possibility in this life, there is really no need to spend too much thought on her.
However, Bai Liusu proved with her actual actions that her life is not over. Later, when she was with Fan Liuyuan, a rich boy who came back from the UK, everyone looked at her with admiration and regretted that she didn't treat her well at the time. She turned around and couldn't get any benefits.
Life is such an irony. You never know how many people treat you when you are proud. Once you are down, you will see everything clearly. Bai Liusu sank to the bottom of the valley for a while, she saw the truth of human nature, and no longer blindly gave her sincerity. For her, it was worth more than anything.
However, what is really worth thinking about in this novel is not only Bai Tausu’s counterattack, but also reflects many different aspects of love, marriage, family, life, interpersonal relations, etc., each of which is very helpful We have different levels of enlightenment, such as: whether a woman should live in her natal family after a divorce.
At that time, people's thinking and concepts were still old-fashioned. Most women abide by the three principles and five perseverances. Marriage was decided by their parents. After marriage, the husband was the priority. They have never lived for themselves, and they have never felt anything wrong, so even if they marry the wrong person, they will choose to admit their fate, and there is no so-called divorce.
But this is exactly where Bai Liusu differs from ordinary women. She is more open-minded. She is always loyal to her heart and refuses to succumb to fate. After getting married, she found her husband committed domestic violence and decisively divorced. Even in the face of various pressures from the outside world, he has never bowed his head.
At that time, Bai Liusu was still young, had not experienced too much, and didn't know much about human nature. She would easily trust others, especially her family. She gave them the money that was allocated at the time of the divorce unreservedly, and she stayed in her natal family for a lifetime.
Who ever thought that the one who hurt her the most was the family she trusted.
When Bai Liusu first got divorced, her life was not too bad, and her family spent her money, so naturally they didn't dare to neglect her. Whether she was sincere or not, she always shouted respectfully when she saw her "Miss Six" or "Miss Six". But there is always a day when the money is spent. When the money is spent, their attitude will change. She always feels that it is not proper for her to live in her natal family. Not only is it useless, but also to eat their food. , Spend their money.
You see, how realistic people are. When Bai Liusu has use value, they treat her very well; if there is no use value, they want to kick her away. So when she learned that her ex-husband had passed away due to illness, the family tried every means to drive her back to the funeral, and then adopted a nephew as a widow. Her ex-husband’s family is a well-known local wealthy gentry, so she can get a lot of money, and then she can continue to help her family.
Their wishful thinking is too good, but Bai Liusu is not stupid anymore. After she saw through their faces, she didn't trust them at all, so she only planned for herself and chose to refuse on the spot. She said: " I was divorced and went to be a widow again, so I don’t want people to laugh out of their teeth.
At the beginning, those legal procedures were foolish? We can’t make trouble with the law.”
Determined,But refusing to go back to be a widow does not mean that she will continue to live in her natal family. She once said "This home is terrible". Her brothers tried their best to drive her away, and the sister-in-laws also changed their ways to ridicule her. Looking down on her, she thought that the old lady of the Bai family, that is, her mother could stand for her. Come out to say a word, who expected her mother to tell her:
"I'm old, and I will leave as soon as I let go, but I don't care about you. There is no permanent banquet in the world, you follow me, it will not last long It’s a serious matter to go back. It’s a serious matter to lead a child to live for more than ten years, and there will always be a day when you are in your early life."
When my mother said this, Bai Liusu was finally discouraged and she no longer depended on anyone. Rather, she seizes every opportunity to go up and changes her destiny on her own. Therefore, when Fan Liuyuan invited her to dance, she did not refuse. Tone, prove to everyone that his life is not over.
Bai Liusu lived in her natal family after her divorce. She suffered all kinds of bullying and cynicism from her brother and sister-in-law. If she didn’t regard her family as her only support at the beginning, she would use the money she allocated to buy real estate and live her own life. , Will never fall into the field later, persevering, too many years ago, I believed in the wrong family affection.
After a woman is divorced, it is best not to live in her natal family.
Marriage means setting up your own family, divorce means the breakdown of a family, even for your natal family, you will always be the daughter of your parents, but your brothers may not think so, especially if they have their own family In the future, you can no longer be treated like family members when you are unmarried. For them, you may be a guest.
It is true that there are some sister-in-laws or sister-in-laws who will treat their sister-in-law as a family, but if your financial independence is not helpful to them, how can they support you willingly?
Everyone has their own pressure, and the life of each family is not easy. If you don't understand these relationships, you will only make your own path narrower and narrower.
Some mothers have the right attitudes and can handle them clearly. Even if their daughters ask to live in their natal family after divorce, they will refuse it immediately.Because she has to consider the views of her son and daughter-in-law, the current home has become their home. This is not patriarchal, but they are loving their children in their own way.
Whether you are married or single, independence is the best protection.
When there is no family, brothers and sisters are the closest to each other, no matter what happens, they can be each other's strongest backing, but after marriage, it is completely different. When you have your own family, your responsibilities and focus will be shifted. You can help you appropriately, but you can't let the parent-child relationship override the husband and wife relationship. Only by always paying attention to the feelings of the other half can the marriage system be healthy and the family can be harmonious.
So as a woman, whether you are single or married, once your brother or younger brother gets married, don’t take your natal family as your only support. They also have their own lives to live on, and we can only rely on ourselves.
Maintaining independence at all times is the best protective color for a woman. As long as you are independent, you don't have to depend on others, and naturally you won't be a burden to others. In this case, even if you go back to your natal home, you don’t need to look at the face of the person. You can raise your head in the crowd because you can pay for your choice and have the ability to hold up your pride.
After a woman is divorced, it is best not to live in her natal family, unless you are strong enough to maintain financial independence, otherwise, forcibly integrating into the marriage of brother-in-law or brother-in-law will inevitably lead to conflicts.
Zhang Ailing’s "Love in the Allure" involves all aspects of marriage and family. It can bring us different levels of thinking and inspiration. Reading it, we can not only understand the best way of life in life, but also see through human nature. The truth, so that you can live more transparently and walk more smoothly.
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