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My name is Xiao Qiao. I have been with the subject for one year. After the subject was admitted to the civil service, I was rejected by the subject’s mother.
Me and my target family are ordinary families, and neither of my parents have any organization. I didn't expect things to develop like this.
When I met the subject, he was a teacher in a tutoring organization and he was preparing for the civil service exam. I was working as an accountant in a small company.
But in the process of resigning, because I was a bit introverted and had no ambitions, I worked as an accountant for several years and decided to resign as a teacher on the advice of my parents.
The personalities, living habits, preferences and opinions of the two of us are in perfect harmony. We are very sweet and happy when we are together, and then we also feel like learning and fighting together.
My test result was earlier than him, and then I didn’t have an interview. My parents supported me very much and said they wanted to take the test again, but they would still be an accountant.
After he was admitted to the civil service, it felt as if our status was different. His mother started telling him to look for someone with an establishment, saying that our status is very different, so we broke up and started interfering with him to date. When there was a conflict with my mother, he came out to see me without telling my family.
Although my partner has always said that they are serious about me and that I do what I do. They also say that they will communicate well with my mother, but they will also say that I will work hard next time. If I pass the exam this year, there will be no resistance. Heap, it makes me particularly stressed.
I am not a person who studies very well, nor do I have confidence in exams. I am very afraid of exams now, and I often wonder what should I do if I fail to pass the exams.
I'm almost 29 years old. Whether it's work or marriage, it is a problem before me.
I especially want to ask, what other people think of the examination system. In small cities, many people think that the system is a job that can protect and save face. Is the system really so important?
If her mother is so opposed to us, can we go on?
and I just want to do an ordinary job and an ordinary life,Is this kind of thinking really unmotivated?
I’ve never been so anxious in exams before. Maybe it’s because I’m an only child. My parents don’t expect me much, and I didn’t expect to be picky about work now.
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I think the preparation of the test is very funny, it was originally a very good thing, everyone chooses differently, and the person who can be admitted is also willing to have this kind of stable work, which is not good for Hemeimei .
But it’s such a ethos, it’s like taking a test of something terrible (I didn’t say that it’s not a shame to prepare). It feels like except for this, everything else is not working, and I can’t make it through. No need, really It's not necessary.
Of course, it is also possible that the circle is different, and the degree of care is different. Like my family's business, my parents think that they can do anything. As long as they can make money and are motivated, they don’t care much about official career. It is respectable to the scholarly family.
Probably the parents of the generation hope to have a stable job, like the state-owned enterprises in the past can be regarded as iron rice bowls.
Everyone chooses differently. Some people are willing to struggle and have the ability. This is a choice of various professions, there is really no need to be so special.
But to be honest, I think that many older people in the system always have a sense of superiority inexplicably, and always look down on others. I am also convinced, but young people are relatively better.
Everyone is also a worker. What are you doing? Isn’t it all hard to make money?
His mother is narrow-minded, and now she is dissatisfied that you have not been admitted to the civil service. After marriage, she will think that you did not do well, and that did not do well.
This mother-in-law is not good, neither is your boyfriend, because he is secretly seeing you.
If he is really nice to you, he should communicate with his mother and show his attitude.
Seeing him secretly shows that he is not very independent yet.
After that, you have conflicts with his mother,Do you think he can adjust well?
In addition, if you get married, you don't need to live with her after marriage, so you will save a lot of trouble.
The premise is that boys can't think you have no system, I think it depends mainly on the performance of boys.
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It is normal to have anxiety and worries before passing the exam. It is normal to have a calm mind and make psychological hints. Try hard to take the exam for a few years. If you fail to pass the exam, you will have a job. Worry too much.
As for the relationship, it is suitable for you. If you fail to pass the examination, it is suitable for you. If it is not suitable for you, you will have other contradictions and troubles after passing the examination. It is better to think more about yourself. The most important thing is to live happily.
If your monthly income is more than 10,000, the unit is 10,000, she will definitely not talk about the issue of organization. The main reason may be that you have no establishment, no high income, and no money.
To be honest, with this system, her son is not necessarily so good, but the frog at the bottom of the well is proud of it.
Don't be afraid of girls, engage in careers, be financially independent and have independent personalities, and better men are waiting for you.
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