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If you can choose, do you want to be a man or a woman?
Lemont once said:
Everything in the world must be put in place according to certain rules and orders.
Whether men and women are the same, they will be bound by some conventional "rules", such as getting married and having children. At the age of marriageable age, if you do not choose to get married, you will have to bear more pressure. For men, before and after marriage does not have much impact, but women are different. Once a woman enters a marriage, the issue of childbirth is ensued. Therefore, a woman has to sacrifice many things for the happiness of her marriage.
Women have given so much, what will they gain in the end? After getting old, who is more reliable with his children and husband? Let us listen to the truth of these three people who came over.
61-year-old Aunt Zhang
Aunt Zhang is a very gentle person, her wife is a gentle man, six years older than her. Although the marriage was ordered by the parents, the couple hardly quarreled after they got married.
My husband is half a doctor, and he runs a plaster shop, handed down from generation to generation. After getting married, Aunt Zhang was responsible for hitting her husband and collecting money.
After having a child, the husband stopped asking her to help in the pharmacy and concentrated on taking care of the child at home. They have two children in total, one son and one daughter. Both of them are more competitive and have excellent academic performance since childhood, ranking among the best. Neighbors in the neighbourhood are very envious of their couple, and often come to ask how to educate their children.
Time flies. In a blink of an eye, the children are all grown-ups and have their own jobs and families.Because of work, I rarely go home. As I get older and older, there are fewer and fewer people around me.
Birth, old age, sickness and death is an inevitable process for everyone. Aunt Zhang suffers from diabetes. As she gets older and worse, she needs to go to the hospital for infusion regularly. The children are not around, and the burden of taking care of her falls on his wife.
My wife often joked: When I was young, I wanted to marry a young one, but when I am old, I can take care of me. Who knows that I will take care of you when I am here.
Aunt Zhang didn't feel annoyed, and said with a smile: You must have done something sorry for me in your previous life. In this life, you are specially asked to pay off the debt. After looking at his wife affectionately, he said: Thank you, thank you so much for taking care of me over the years.
In Aunt Zhang's heart, his wife is the person she loves the most, and the person she relies on most.
63-year-old Aunt Li
Aunt Li is a straight-hearted person, and her husband is a stubborn person, both of the same age. After the couple got married, they spent almost every day in noisy and noisy situations.
Every time you quarrel, no one will let anyone, and no one will just do it, and the quarrel will blush. After the quarrel, Aunt Li is like a okay person, what should I do.
The husband and wife have four sons in total. The eldest son has been doing business in the city. The second and third sons have gone out to work all year round. The fourth son is admitted to the university and is now a teacher.
Just a few days ago, two people went through the divorce procedures, saying that the two people have never met each other .
When I was young, I quarreled, and I was fine after the quarrel, because I was poor and there were so many children. Even eating was a problem, so I didn’t have the mind to reason.
Now the children have grown up and have their own families,The standard of living has also improved, and the two people no longer have any burdens. I should have enjoyed my old life, but things backfired, and the two people quarreled even more.
The two began to live apart. Aunt Li lives with her second son and her wife lives with them. Even so, the anger of the two could not be calmed, and finally it was useless to persuade the two to divorce.
The children said, no matter they are away, no one can control the other two people, and no one has to worry about it.
Aunt Li said: "I knew that after the divorce was so quiet, I would have divorced a long time ago. Men are unreliable, and finally rely on their own son."
62-year-old Aunt Hao
Aunt Hao is a cowardly person. Her husband is a typical macho, who is two years younger than her. After the husband and wife got married, Aunt Hao worked hard at home and worked hard, and she swallowed all the grievances she suffered.
No matter how big or small things are in the family, her husband alone has the final say. He never discusses with her. The same goes for her in-laws, who always point fingers at her.
After having children, the children do not respect her under the influence of this family atmosphere. Because a little thing will make her angry, and will complain to her father.
is that people have their own dignity and bottom line. Facing such a marriage and family, Aunt Hao didn’t think about divorce, but she was helpless at the time. She didn’t know where to go after the divorce, and she couldn’t bear to have children. In this way, he stayed in his old age.
The last reason she decided to leave was that she was injured and hospitalized. One day, she accidentally sprained her foot while watching her granddaughter. The first reaction of her daughter-in-law was not to care about her injury, but to put her down, saying that she was not good at seeing a child.
Later, the ambulance drove her to the hospital. She called her husband, who said that she was busy, and let her son go later. Finally, she limped back home in a cast without seeing her son.
After the son returns home,She asked her son why he didn't go to the hospital to pick her up. The son said that he got a kick when he heard from his daughter-in-law. He didn't go there if it was not a big deal.
Since that day, Aunt Hao has never smiled again. After the injury, she packed up her few luggage and left.
She rented a house in the city, got a job as a cleaner, consulted a lawyer about the divorce procedures, and applied for a divorce.
Although Aunt Hao is not rich now, she lives freely, and she no longer has to look at other people's faces and harsh words. She said: Women, it is better to rely on yourself than on others.
Conclusion:
The experience of these three people is only part of the experience, and their answers are also different. But this tells us a truth: people are mutual, and emotions are the same.
Regarding love, it only makes sense to go in both directions. Regarding family relationships, you must understand your position and adhere to your own principles so that you can be respected. We must remember that we are the protagonist of our own life and we must live out our own splendor.
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