Introduction:
people should enjoy their old age when they reach a certain age, but accidents do not know when they will happen, so the elderly will wonder if they should let their children know how much money they have and how much savings they have?
Chinese parents are really different from foreign parents. Many Chinese parents live for their children. It doesn't matter no matter how hard or tired they are, as long as their children are happy.
The reason why Chinese parents worry about whether they should make savings to their children in old age is mainly determined by China's national conditions. Chinese people live for their children. Many, many people are accustomed to devoting themselves to their children since they were young, and they develop the habit of thinking that their parents should do it for themselves.
has also raised many children into giant babies. These children have grown up, but are immature in mind. After adulthood, even after marriage and having children, they feel that their parents should leave their savings to themselves, or that their parents are old. , There is no need to spend so much money, to leave their money as an inheritance to their children. For some children, once their parents have money, they will do everything possible to pay from their parents. If parents don’t have money, they will dislike their parents and treat the elderly badly. So how much money the elderly have in their hands is really difficult to decide whether to let their children know. The actions of the following three elderly people are worthy of your reference.
Aunt Zhang, 64-year-old
64-year-old Aunt Zhang lives with his wife. They have two children, a male and a female, who just make up a good word. In the countryside, their families are still envied by many people. Although the conditions are not very good, the couple is hardworking, working day and night for the children, and finally helped their son build a three-story bungalow to marry a wife. Also married her daughter Guangguang.
Son and daughter-in-law gave birth to grandsons, grandsons, and Aunt Zhang worked tirelessly to take care of grandchildren and granddaughters in order to reduce the burden on children. Let the son and daughter-in-law be able to go to work at that time, and have food to eat when they go home, just amuse the children, and life is easy and comfortable.
Aunt Zhang has to take two grandchildren and do housework. She is so tired that her back is sore. However, she feels that it is valuable to help the children. She doesn’t care about these things. At that time, Aunt Zhang and her wife were in good health. Well, the son and daughter-in-law are good to them on the surface.
was demolished in the village one year, and one of their old houses happened to be within the scope of the demolition. The two old men took 200,000 yuan for the demolition, and their son, daughter-in-law, and daughter knew how to ask for money from their parents. The old couple thought that they lived in the countryside and didn't usually need much money, so they gave their son and daughter-in-law 100,000 yuan and their daughters 50,000 yuan. The couple left 50,000 yuan for themselves. The son, daughter-in-law, daughter-in-law and son-in-law are very happy.
son and daughter-in-law bought a house in the town, and later asked Aunt Zhang to take out the 50,000 yuan to cover the house payment. The two old men felt that it was a big deal to help their son. Buying a house was a big deal, so they took out the 50,000 yuan plus their own deposit of 30,000, for a total of 80,000.
did not last long. Two years later, Aunt Wang’s wife suffered a stroke and was admitted to the hospital. Rescue and treatment are said to cost eighty to ninety thousand yuan. Aunt Zhang couldn't help it. She didn't have money in her hands, but she couldn't look at her wife without treatment, so she asked her son to pay. The son said: Mom, as you know, I use all the money you gave to buy a house, and now I pay off the loan every month. Go to my sister and ask for money!
In fact, the house bought by his son has been renovated a long time ago. His house is rented out. There is still a lot of rent every month. Although he bought a house, the house price was not high at that time. In addition to their previous savings, his son’s family There is still money, but he is unwilling to take it out. The
daughter said to her mother: Mom, you’re so strange. I’m a married daughter. Of course, my son is responsible for the treatment of my parents. You should ask my brother for money, and I don’t have any money. It's all used up.
unfilial children, watched the elderly without treatment. Aunt Li had to borrow money from relatives and relatives. The relatives also put pressure on their children. The two women were very unwilling. Each took 20,000 to 30,000, and the remaining 20,000 to 30,000 were reluctantly borrowed by relatives. In the end, his wife's body finally recovered, but the sequelae of hemiplegia remained.
z2Aunt Zhang also regretted it very much. She knew her children would be like this and would never give them the money. Her two old people didn't have any money by their side, and there was a child who was filial and filial, and she didn't care about it. Aunt Zhang said: Parents treat children as treasures, but children treat us as a piece of grass. The elderly have money in their hands. Don't give them all to their children. Money is the safety of the elderly.Uncle Li, 68 years old
Uncle Li did a business when he was young and made a lot of money. He was also very good to his two sons. He told his sons to study hard since he was a child, and then he will be outstanding. However, the two sons rely on Lao Tzu to have a lot of money, and will be raised by Lao Tzu in the future. They were lazy since childhood and didn't study hard. After graduating from junior high school, they took a vocational high school and went out to play together. Haven't worked for a long time.
asked them to help with business, and they did it seriously. They made a group of friends and friends who spent money outside, but didn't take it seriously and really do business well. Before long, Uncle Li's business was defeated by these two ineffective sons.
The son is not up to date, but Uncle Li and his wife cannot ignore them and marry them a wife. The son
married a daughter-in-law and gave birth to a grandson, and he often gnawed at home. Uncle Li and his wife's savings were almost eaten by them. A few years ago, his wife fell ill and died, but the two sons stopped coming to see Uncle Li.
Uncle Li felt that he was abandoned by his two sons. He told his son: Can you also ignore me? Is this not even a little filial? The eldest son of
said: Dad, I can’t help it. Our family is poor now and we don’t have a lot of income. You have to spend a lot of money when you come back to see me. The eldest son of
said: My father-in-law is helping with the baby, and the child is small, so I can’t always come back to see, and the father-in-law is also sick. You are fine, so we won’t come back much.
Uncle Li thought for a while. He still has nearly 1,000 yuan in pension every month. Although it is not much, it is still enough in the countryside.
He does not expect to spend his son's money, but such days are always lonely. Shan, it’s too lonely to be alone, but I still want my son and bring my grandchildren to come back to see myself, and get together often.
Uncle Li remembered that he still had an insurance policy that had been insured for nearly 30 years. Now if he takes it out, he still has nearly 300,000 in deposit. So he told his two sons that he still has an insurance and money in his hands. If you can bring your grandchildren to visit me, I will give your grandchildren 1,000 yuan every time.
Now, the two sons will bring their grandchildren to visit the old man every one or two weeks. The kind of coaxing is to coax the old man’s money.
Uncle Li also summed up his experience, he has money in his hands, really can't give it to his children. When you are old and want your children to be filial, if they have money in their hands, they will listen to you, and they will do what they think of him. Money is the protection in the hands of the elderly, or it is safer to catch them in their own hands.
Granny Jiang, 68 years old,
The 68-year-old grandma Jiang and her wife have three children. Both the eldest son and the second daughter work in the city and have settled in the city. The younger son still stays with him. Although he is in the countryside, the younger son is also hardworking and hardworking. He is an electrician and has a lot of annual income. .
The three children are sensible and filial. The eldest son, the eldest daughter-in-law, and the daughter often bring their grandchildren to visit the elderly. Every time they bring a large bag of things, they will also give money to the two elderly people during the holidays. The old people say that they live in the countryside and have nothing to spend. They also have money in their hands and don't need their money, but they still say that it is their filial piety. The old people's money belongs to the old people, and their own money expresses their own hearts. The youngest son usually takes the old man to see a doctor as soon as he has a sickness or something. The old man has never paid for the medical expenses himself, and he will take the old man out for fun during the holidays.
elderly people are not usually big-handed people, they have savings in their hands. They have all asked their children whether they need to allocate a little of their money to them, but their children all say that money is their pension money. The elderly have more money in their hands and are confident, so don’t divide the money. CentsI won't want it.
Aunt Jiang and Uncle Jiang both feel that whether to tell their children about their savings, the key is to see that their three children are very filial, and they know that telling them the savings is no problem at all. Because they know that their parents are not easy in their lives. Now that they are old, it is more comfortable to have money in their hands. They do not use the money of the elderly to let their parents spend their old age.
Conclusion: Whether
old people should tell their children their savings, the key is to see whether the children are filial and whether they are of good character. Generally speaking, no matter what, your own money is safest in your own hands. It’s okay for your children to be filial and tell them your money deposits, but if you don’t have much confidence, it’s safest to keep the money in your own hands. After all, people are old and have no ability to make money. In case one day they are sick and need money, even if they are filial children, put the money in their hands. Money is still difficult.
Should you tell or give to your children about the savings of the elderly? What do you think? Welcome to leave a message to express your opinion.
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