We all say that women must learn to love themselves, so what is to love yourself? Some people say that they want to love themselves, but in fact they do not love themselves. They still unconsciously sacrifice for others, sacrifice for their families, and unconsciously wrong themselves.
Women who really know how to love themselves will do the following. They will not sacrifice themselves or wronged themselves because of anyone, nor will they lose themselves in marriage. They have their own things to do at all times, and they are independent. thought of.
1 Do not punish yourself for family mistakes
We will find that there is a big difference between a woman before and after marriage. In addition to paying for the family, it is more because of family trivial matters and hysteria due to some contradictions.
Sometimes it’s because the husband did something wrong, or he didn’t understand him too much, and even said something very hurtful. At this time, a woman can easily lose his temper. If the husband doesn’t understand it, he will be anxious to explain. To yell, even scold the other person.
Sometimes it's because the children have poor academic performance, are disobedient, and do not study well. It is useless to say anything. They can only yell and speak hard.
sometimes feels wronged because of in-laws’ incomprehension or embarrassment, and her husband can’t help herself, so it’s easy to get angry because of trivial matters. After
gets married, women always seem to have a strong temper. In fact, it is because there are always so many points that make people angry, and they are always not understood by the family.
Actually knows how to love your own woman, and will not punish yourself because of your family’s mistakes. Many times you are hysterical, yelling, and the other party can’t understand at all, and even annoys you even more, and then gets angry and hurts. Or yourself.
Don’t be incapable of thinking about anything because of your family’s mistakes. This will not only affect your usual work and life, but also your body and family relationships. This is not worth it.
encounters some very difficult problems, especially when the problem occurs in the family. Don't head-on, but find some coping methods, learn to control emotions, deal with them indifferently, and don't always punish yourself for others' mistakes.
2 Don’t over-sacrifice themselves for the sake of their family.
Many women always over-pay and over-sacrifice themselves for the family. They have forgotten who they are, their career, their hobbies, or even their friends. All circles are discarded.
After getting married and giving birth to a child, they put all their energy and time on the family, especially the child. They have no self for a long time. They are reluctant to eat and wear every day, but they are willing to give the child and husband the best. Used to over-sacrificing oneself, wronged oneself
Sophie Marceau once said: "The saddest thing about a woman is not getting old, but the self-lost in marriage and flat life. Women can age, but they must be graceful to death. Don’t let marriage kill a woman.” Z2z
women must always understand that even if they are married and have a family, they must know how to love themselves, how to dress themselves, how to comfort themselves, and how to be nice to themselves instead of being overly for the family. Expenses, excessive sacrifices, are actually not worth it, and unnecessary.
Women who don't over sacrifice for the family can actually make their husbands cherish themselves more. On the contrary, women who have nothing but family are more likely to be abandoned.
Women can contribute to the family, but not excessively. The contribution is mutual and reciprocal. A woman who knows how to love her will not always sacrifice herself for her family, whether it is her husband or children, or other people. It's not the reason you lost yourself.
3 You should eat, drink, enjoy, and be good to yourself
Married women always focus on family children, for they are reluctant to bear anything, reluctant to spend money, reluctant to eat and wear, reluctant to maintain and dress up, Truly turned himself into a yellow face woman with no value.
Women who truly love themselves will not ignore everything because they are married and have a family. They will also know how to enjoy, eat, drink, and always remember to be kind to themselves.
and being kind to yourself is not selfish. This is what it should be. If you want to eat something delicious, eat it, want to buy a beautiful oneJust go to buy the clothes for you, just like watching a movie, and you won’t think it is a sin.
Women must always understand that even if they are married, they can also enjoy the basic rights that a person should have, instead of giving up all rights and sacrificing themselves excessively.
Besides, people who truly love you won’t be respected by men because of your occasional enjoyment and occasionally being good to themselves.
4 Have their own job or something you like
Now we all advocate women to be independent. Many people think that independent women means having independent jobs. In fact, independence includes many kinds, not just work or career, but also independent personality, independent Thought, independent spirit and emotion.
Women have independent jobs, and they can indeed bring some confidence and dignity to themselves. You don’t need to look at the faces of people and don’t have to worry too much. However, in addition to independent jobs or careers, women should also have things they like.
Apart from work, after fulfilling his due responsibilities and obligations, he can still have his own hobbies, have his own things to do, and have his own circle of friends instead of surrounding children’s family members all day long. Will put all energy into the family. The more important thing for
is to be spiritually independent, not to rely on anyone emotionally, and to be one's spiritual support, not someone who cannot be separated from it.
is like the saying: Don’t rely on someone
easily. He will become your habit. When separation comes, what you lose is not someone, but your spiritual pillar. You must learn to be independent whenever and wherever possible. Walking, it will make you walk more calm." Z2z
knows how to love your own women, they will have their own things to do, and they will not make themselves useless and worthless because of the family.
5 know how to cherish their bodies, not Consume yourself endlessly for the sake of the family
After many women get married, their health is getting worse and worse. In addition to the increase in age, it is the consumption of themselves by the family. Every day, there is an endless heart and endless work. Things, and the unending qi, I consume myself every day, of course my body will get worse and worse.
especially when the husband or child has any bad habits, he wants to do everything he can to change it. But in the end, there is no other way but to make the other person hate yourself. Such a woman is very tired. Even if she falls ill, no one will feel distressed. It will only make others think that you are asking for it.
Any family has all kinds of worries and things that cannot be changed. If there are some things that are useless to say, don’t punish yourself for it. A woman always loses her temper, always sad, and doesn’t do much to her body. Women should know how to cherish themselves.
A woman who really knows how to love herself will not consume her body constantly for something that cannot be changed, or for some trivial things. Nor will she always work hard for the family. Do housework, take care of your children, take care of everything at home, and then you will be exhausted, and you will be exhausted.
Rest when you should rest. Besides, housework is not your own business, and the children are not yours alone. My child, if you try your best, you can’t control a lot of things. In this case, why not cherish yourself more? They don’t know how to stop losses in time, and they dare not leave the person who caused their pain.
In fact, these women dare not leave. There are many reasons, some of which are helpless, but they must be endured. For example, they still have illusions about each other. For example, there are too many interests or concerns, or there is no confidence to leave. The writer of
has said that the worst person in a marriage is neither a divorce nor a spouse cheating. It is without the capital and courage to divorce. They also have no strength and are not motivated. Z2z
Some women always regard marriage as the whole of their lives. They overpay for marriage without any value, and they don’t know how to add value to themselves. In the end, they have no confidence to leave.
Women who truly love themselves, once they feel that men don’t know how to love and cherish themselves, or CorrectMarriage is very disappointed and feels painful in the marriage, so you will know how to stop the loss in time and will not continue to consume it in the wrong marriage.
Even if they have nothing in the end, they will have the courage to leave, because they have the courage to face so many unknown challenges, hoping to get rid of the pain and regain a new life.
In fact, in the final analysis, a woman loves herself to be kind to herself, to live as before marriage, not to rely on anyone, nor to sacrifice herself excessively for anyone, including her own children, as long as she does what she should do and has a clear conscience. That's it.
A woman is an independent individual no matter whether she is married or not. This independence must be maintained at all times, must have what she likes, must have her own value, and must give herself confidence and courage at all times.
Have the courage to face the various risks of marriage before marriage, and have the confidence to face various gains and losses and deal with various bad results after marriage. Women who are truly confident are not afraid of losing anything in marriage. Women who truly love themselves are Happiness is everywhere.
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