When "Lolita" meets "Uncle Weird", how can he have to love

strange uncle said that

I am 34 years old this year, and my girlfriend is 10 years old. In the early days of our relationship, many people envied my Yanfu and found a young and beautiful girl. At that time, I was quite proud and cherished this feeling. To be honest, she is pretty well-behaved, good to my parents, and the two elders also like her, urging us to get married. However, as I get along longer, I find that the problems are increasing. First of all, I have to say, I love her, but this love is getting tired. Sometimes I even think, is there really a difference in age, maybe I should marry a girl of the same age, is the right way?

Indeed, when she first started working, she needed a stage of adaptation. I think I can understand her temper a little bit. But now I have been working for more than a year, and the interpersonal relationship in the company is still not well coordinated. I suspect that she is useless. She became very complaining. I thought these were the problems of old women, but she had them too. She is always complaining why I don't call her every day and not text her. However, I still have to work, and I am not used to texting for a long time. As for the lingering calls, I am far past that age.

Her mind has such strange ideas every day. She can change her mind 8 times a day. A while ago, she suddenly said not to do it in the company, but to start her own business. But no matter who does what she does, she has to understand the relevant industry knowledge. I found information for her. She didn't look at it. She didn't go to see if she found the relevant person. In the end, she said she should be more stable in the company. I feel like being fooled. I am used to saying that one is one, and when I think about it, I do it actively, not just talking. I like women who are decisive and enterprising. It's not such a lip service, I really don't need it.

In addition, I prefer to be quiet. When I am at home, I read books and drink tea, and I feel very comfortable. But she was upset and couldn't keep quiet. Whenever she was online, she spent a whole day without sleep or food. I think a person who is not responsible for his own body can count on her to be responsible for others? She doesn't understand my daily life. She has been together for two years and still doesn't know my shoe size.

I have socializing and I need her to go to the hall. At least she should be dressed decently, not weird.

tell her every time that she is very wronged. She feels that she is young and looks good in everything she wears without caring about the occasion. Moreover, when talking about marriage recently, some friends said that young girls have little experience after all, and their minds are still immature. Who knows if they can be qualitative. Even if you get married, can you really live together as the youngest? Although my friends said, I smiled and said yes. But when you calm down at night, do you really doubt that she can be a good wife? If

give up this relationship easily, I would not bear it either. I have always hoped that she can change something and become the one who can truly stay in the same boat with me. I also don't want to wrong her, but I want to be together for life, and I can't live like a child after all.

Experts suggest that

is alright, dear Loli, we now have some understanding of the psychology of the strange uncle. So, how can you tell Uncle Wei to have to love you and never give up? Here are some suggestions from experts to Loli:

1. Give, you have to give true love

If you really love him and hope that he can love you, then there are fewer tricks that little girls use. Those tricks are better than you Know more. Just face him with your most natural mind. When you care about him in your heart, naturally show your expressions and movements. Don’t worry, he will be more careful and keenly aware of your right than you think. His love, and repay it twice.

2. When he encounters difficulties, you need to grow up quickly, or close your mouth.

As his lover or his partner, you should understand that he also needs your understanding. When he encounters difficulties and pressures, you need to grow up quickly and give him understanding and care like a mother. Or, if you don't have the ability to grow up quickly, then just shut your mouth, check your naughty behavior, and sit quietly beside him.

3. Dispel the idea of ​​changing him, don't say "love me and change for me".

love is so great that it can change everything. Dream it! Don’t try to change his habits and thoughts,That is tantamount to subverting his values, and in popular terms is "moving his roots." If you live with him, don't expect him to correct his stinking problems. Don't say "love me and change for me".

must remember that whether he changes these habits or not has nothing to do with loving you or not. You only need to use the differences between you and him to bring him fresh blood from time to time, and use your changes to stimulate his life. This is enough.

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