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When we were young, we squandered our time, thinking that when we were young, we should live freely and freely.
When we are 30 years old, we will be urged to get married by relatives and friends around us, as if there is nothing missing without marriage and children.
And in life, there is a kind of women who are independent in their thinking and feel that they are living well by themselves. Faced with family urges to marry, they can procrastinate if they do not want to marry.
My cousin is like that. She is in her early thirties this year. She is fair and beautiful. When she was young, there were many matchmakers who were rejected by her cousin. The reason for her rejection was that she wanted to stay at home for another two years. I don’t think it’s too much. After all, my cousin is good-looking and well-educated. If I stay for a few years, I might meet someone better.
is just this. I have waited until now. Although today’s cousin is still well maintained, in the eyes of many people, she is already an older leftover girl, and the conditions are naturally inferior to a little girl. My aunt is anxious. My cousin arranged a few blind dates, but there were no results later.
This time, the matchmaker arranged for her cousin to meet with a 48-year-old local tyrant. The other party has its own factory and demolished households. But the cousin didn’t want to go when she heard there was a teenage gap, but at the request of her aunt Next, she went anyway.
On that day, the cousin dressed very ordinary, but still looked very temperamental. The other party saw that the cousin looked good and spoke politely, and was full of affection for her. The two exchanged contact information. Cousin
has been dating each other for half a year, and one day she came back crying. After asking questions for a long time, she told the truth.
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It turned out that after getting along for so long, the cousin also had feelings with each other, and felt that she was almost married.
She proposed to meet the parents of the other party, and the family members would feel relieved to settle down the marriage earlier. Who knows
, the other party was silent for a while, and said to his cousin: "I just want to fall in love, I never thought about getting married." Cousin
asked him why, and the man told her that no matter whether it is education or appearance, the cousin is excellent , But there are a lot of people like this. Someone is younger and better than her. He wants to wait and choose better. The implication of
is that he prefers young and beautiful people. The age is not a problem. He still cares in the other party's heart. He doesn't want to break up or get married, so he wants to drag her first, and then it depends on the situation. Cousin
never thought that she would study so hard, and the career would be smooth, she would still be the other person's choice. She didn't dislike the other person so much older than herself, but now it's the other person's turn to dislike herself.
all say that men have 41 flowers. Why do women in their thirties become older leftover women?
Actually, the cousin is just a microcosm of life, she represents an independent woman in life.
Most of them are not going to get married, they have very high requirements for school and career, even if they are late in love, they don't want to get married easily, and they become older single youths.
give up love in order to pursue what I want. I think this is normal, but people around me don’t understand it, which makes people feel sorry.
03.
Today, our attitude towards life has changed a lot.
women are not as dependent as before, they can also use their hands to create their own piece of sky.
Some people may say that no matter how capable a woman is, she needs to go home to get married and have children. A stable home is important.
But I believe that women can also take care of both career and love.
Some people say on the Internet that it is not easy for girls with too high a degree to get married.
I don't know what the basis of these people is. I only know that girls also have ambitions and also have the right to pursue their dreams. Is there anything wrong with
high education?
no! What
is wrong is the perception of this matter, excellence should not be questioned, but like-minded people need to be found.
It is the wish of many parents for their children to get married soon, but as a parent, you can’t use your own ideas to demand your children, you need to listen to her inner voice.
The thinking of young people is not the same as that of old people. Parents like to lie down, this is not a bad thing, butBut if this switch comes with reluctance and makes the child's marriage full of regrets, then the gain will not be worth the loss.
Marriage is not afraid of late, as long as it comes, it will be just right.
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