walked and looked at the phone. He knocked down his son who was walking with the fruit. The fruit was scattered on the ground. I grabbed the phone in a fit of anger. Seeing the content on the phone, I was even more angry and threw the phone directly to the ground. I also fainted...
I am 32 years old, a supermarket owner, 35 years old husband, sales manager, we have been married for 8 years, and my son is 5 years old. Because of his work, he often travels on business and can't take care of his home at all. Moreover, every time he comes back from a business trip, he shouts tired and lies motionless on the sofa. Even if I call it, he can't afford it. Because of this, we don’t quarrel less. I have to take care of the supermarket business and take care of my children. Isn’t I tired? Because of my complaints and unrestrained quarrels, he went home less and less frequently.
During this period of time, my husband came back and didn't shout tired, but he still didn't do anything. Either go online or play on the phone. Once I washed the fruit and asked my son to take it outside. Who knows, my husband ran into the son who was holding the fruit while holding the phone. Playing with a mobile phone unexpectedly knocked my son down. I didn’t control myself at the time. I took away his mobile phone and prepared to fall. I saw his chats. It was all the sweet words of other women and him, as well as the future. Longing.
At that moment, I also fainted to the ground. After the incident, he was so confident that he directly filed for a divorce with me. He also drafted a divorce agreement, prepared to go out, packed a few sets of clothes, and left. He has not been contacted during this time. Teacher Xu Chuan, I don't want to get a divorce, but how should I save my marriage?
Xu Chuan: Madam
, I can understand your current mood. Although this family is very bad, you never thought about getting a divorce. Unexpectedly, your husband actually proposed it, and there are other women out there. This will not be good for anyone. Since you do not want to divorce and want to save this marriage, it is obvious that your choice is correct. Then let's see what happened to your marriage so that we can solve the problem according to the problem.
First of all, you have been married for 8 years, and you have a 5-year-old son. I want to know in this process, apart from frequent conflicts because of his failure to take care of the family, are there other conflicts? What is the basis of your marriage? Do you have good memories together, do you have family building, etc., these directly affect the result of marriage salvation.
Secondly, he often travels on business, he is tired when he comes home, does not help you take care of the children, even housework, so you get angry, quarrel with him, and make him realize that you need him by complaining. Actually do you know? One of the four major accomplices in marriage is complaining. Complaining will make him think that you dislike him and do not love him, and you will feel that he runs away from you and makes you hurt again. And because of complaining, your hearts are getting farther and farther, and you have a new version of understanding of each other. The result of the complaint is that he goes home less often, ignores your existence, and does not communicate with you. This is a big problem. But you didn't realize it.
Once again, he was holding the mobile phone and the child was knocked down, which means that he communicates with that woman all the time, and his focus is on that woman, and you have also seen their chat content. On the whole, your husband and that woman are right there. In the passion period, each other is hot. He knows that he owes you, he chooses to go out of the house, and it is also possible that he will be disconnected from you after he compensates you in this way; it is also possible that he does not know how to face you, so he chooses to escape.
Finally, he is not in a hurry to divorce you. You still have time to see the current situation of your marriage and the way forward. My suggestion is to sort out your emotions first. This incident has brought you a great blow. It is difficult to calm your emotions, and it is difficult to think about the problems of this marriage with emotions. Then stabilize your emotions and slowly save this. Marriage. If there are any problems during this process, you can ask me questions about your difficulties. I will help you to ease your emotions according to your situation, tell you how to manage relationships scientifically, and "clean up" your husband for you, so that he will be willing Reflect on your mistakes and treat you well in the rest of your life!
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