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Chapter 01
Daughter-in-law and in-laws have always been the most reconciled relationship in every family.
Many men will have this question: Why do their wives and their parents have a bad relationship?
This is because the wife and parents themselves are strangers, and maybe they have never had the chance to meet each other in their entire lives. If it weren't for the wife to marry a man, there would be a situation of "bow your head and see you up". In addition, the living habits of the wife and parents are completely different. Although men have lived with their parents since they were young, they are familiar with their temperaments and temperaments, so they can naturally get along well.
But the wife doesn't understand, so when a woman lives with her parents, she naturally needs to slowly adapt.
You must know that it is easy to get used to being alone, but it is very difficult for a person to adapt to a family, so it is easy for daughter-in-law to have conflicts with in-laws.
Now, all major social platforms are discussing a hot topic, that is-must the daughter-in-law provide for the elderly care for the in-laws?
brought this question. I talked to many readers. One reader gave me two answers. It can be said that each answer is reasonable and it is worth pondering the truth.
Chapter 02
Huang Can said that she has experienced two marriages and has a deep understanding of the relationship between her in-laws and daughter-in-law. Therefore, the answer she gave to this question is more neutral and preferable.
"If my parents-in-law treats my daughter-in-law badly and don't treat her daughter-in-law as a family, then I will definitely not support them. After all, the law does not force them." Huang Can's first marriage was married and walked from campus with her. As for Du Chen, the man in the wedding dress, the two have always had a good relationship, and rarely quarreled.
And Du Chen has a good temper and a cheerful personality. Even Huang Can's parents are saying: "This young man is good, he will be nice and will not treat Cancan badly."
Therefore, Huang Can's parents agree with their marriage. And their family feels that they can cultivate a son with such a temperament, and they must get along well with their parents.
So, let Huang Can marry to a neighboring city with confidence.
At the beginning, Huang Can and her husband's family were getting along fairly well. After all, they were not familiar with each other, so no matter what they did, both sides were more restrained.
Gradually, the parents-in-law got acquainted with Huang Can, and after understanding her temperament, she no longer restrained the old habits and began to expose her nature.
Among them, what makes Huang Can uncomfortable the most is that his in-laws don't like to throw garbage in the trash can, and Huang Can likes to be clean and often cleans, and finally couldn't help thinking of his in-laws to make suggestions. Z1z
's parents-in-law felt that Huang Can did not respect them, and instead raked in front of Du Chen. But Du Chen has a docile temperament, and he doesn't care if he is caught in the middle.
Du Chen's silence is actually equivalent to "supporting" Huang Can's in-laws even more embarrassment, even during pregnancy, they not only do not take care of the pregnant woman, but also let her take care of all the housework at home.
also asked Huang Can to wash their clothes during confinement, and finally forced Du Chen to divorce Huang Can.
Therefore, Huang Can believes that when encountering such in-laws, she does not treat her daughter-in-law as a family, and even acts in xenophobia, making things difficult at all times. Then she decides that she will not provide for such in-laws.
Chapter 03
"If my in-laws treat me well and treat me as a family, I will definitely raise them when they are old." After Huang Can was forced to divorce, Du Chen cruelly expelled Huang Can and their children. Home.
Huang Can was finally brought home by her parents. The child was usually taken care of by her parents. Huang Can went to work. She also met her current husband Chen Mingtao at work.
Chen Mingtao is a teacher of a training institution, he is kind and independent. He feels very distressed about Huang Can's previous marriage history and treats her even better.
Later, their relationship stabilized, and Chen Mingtao took her home to see her parents, and told them that she must treat Huang Can well.
Chen Mingtao's parents also sympathized with Huang Can's experience and treated them with courtesy when they got along.
After they get married, in order not to disturb the life of the young couple, the in-laws will not live with them at all. Even if they come to live occasionally, the in-laws will follow the young couple’s ideas and will not deliberately provoke trouble.
treats Huang Can's children even more distressed. Every time I meet, I don't buy food or clothes for the children. They return pocket money during the holidays. This makes Huang Can feel great respect.
Once Huang Can fell ill, Chen Mingtao was not home on a business trip, so her mother-in-law came to the hospital to take care of her.
Whether it was the doctor's order or Huang Can's request, the mother-in-law remembered clearly, and even more so with Huang Can, who had worked so hard to run up and down to check, Huang Can was very moved.
Huang Can still remembers her mother-in-law being busy for herself, so from then on, she decided to treat her mother-in-law as her biological parents in the future, and she will do her filial piety no matter if it is for the elderly or companionship.
Chapter 04
"Should my daughter-in-law provide for the elderly care for my in-laws?" For this question, everyone must have their own answers.
It is a sentiment to provide for the old-age of in-laws, and it is a duty not to provide for the old-age of in-laws. No one can force you, everything depends on you.
If a daughter-in-law and a son get married, it means that they are a family. The in-laws should not treat the daughter-in-law as an outsider, take precautions at all times, and give the daughter-in-law due respect so that the daughter-in-law will be filial to the in-laws in future life.
Of course, the relationship between daughter-in-law and in-laws is good or not, the most important thing is whether the man caught in the middle will handle it.
If he knows how to reconcile the relationship between them, the two sides will certainly respect and tolerate each other. Then when the in-laws need it, the daughter-in-law will definitely do her part.
Who doesn't want family harmony and warmth, and family happiness?
In fact, many times the daughter-in-law's filial piety is forced. When they first got married, every woman got along with her in-laws with the utmost kindness. It was only after the disappointment slowly accumulated that she became unfeeling.
If mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can respect each other and treat problems from the perspective of each other, all conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can be easily resolved.
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