"You're so stupid. You still got divorced when you were 40." Wife: Since you dare to betray, you shouldn't be afraid of divorce

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People who are very casual about marriage tend not to take anything in marriage seriously, and do not think that they are wrong when they are wrong. If you are not this kind of person, you will usually be wronged if you marry this kind of person. The best way to avoid this is not to marry such a person.

eliminates the above-mentioned people and talks about marriage. If marriage gives you anything that you care about, you dare not divorce easily. Even though some people seem to be fearless on the surface, they don't take it seriously after betraying their marriage. In fact, they are also afraid of divorce, because divorce means restarting life and the cost is high.

So, why do these people betray their marriage even though they are obviously afraid of divorce? The most fundamental reason for

is: he thinks his partner is easy to bully. For example, some men betray their marriage because they are obviously afraid of divorce. They think that their wives are bullies. They think that even if their affairs are discovered, their wives will have nothing to do with them and dare not divorce. If this is the case, they will not divorce, so there is nothing to be afraid of. .

specifically manifests itself in two aspects: some men think that they are excellent, and that their wives are inseparable from themselves and dare not divorce easily, so they do whatever they want; some men look down on their wives even though they are not good, and think The wife is too ordinary, and she will definitely not be able to marry if she is divorced, so she believes that the wife dare not divorce, so she behaves like a fool.

Based on these two issues, if a woman wants a man to dare not betray you, she must take some actions from these two issues. Let’s talk about it through the following case.

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In a conventional sense, a person’s maturity is directly proportional to age. Therefore, in the inherent concept of many people, as long as a woman reaches a certain age, she can definitely control her husband. In fact, this is not the case. Even when some people reach the age of 40, there are still common problems in marriage.

For example, Axiang, she suffered a betrayal at the age of 40, and divorced at the age of 40. Before that, she didn't know how to control her husband until she got divorced.

The problem she encountered is one of the two situations we mentioned above. Her husband thinks she is too ordinary and doesn’t take her to heart. She thinks she can only live on her own life in this life. Can't count on her. Although divorce would have a great impact on him, he believed that Axiang did not dare to divorce, so he betrayed the marriage unscrupulously.

But Axiang thinks differently from him. Although she is ordinary, she can't stand her husband betraying herself, especially after her husband betrays her marriage, she can't stand up to arrogant words and even utterly hurt others. She feels that living with such a person is very passive and it is good It's boring, so I got divorced.

If her husband is not afraid of divorce, the two can definitely be separated. Judging from what he said when he accused Axiang, he was afraid of divorce because he said, "You are so stupid. You are still getting a divorce when you are 40! You are already this age. Can't you just pretend to be deaf and dumb? You are so ordinary and have no abilities. How do you live after a divorce? Who will marry you? You know how to mess around all day, are you not afraid of regretting yourself?"

At first glance, this is a kind of enlightenment. From a psychological point of view, he is afraid and dare not admit that he is afraid of divorce, so he frightens the other party by denying the other party. The purpose is to make the other party timid and dispel the idea of ​​divorce, so that he will not suffer divorce. Is punished.

However, Axiang did not do what he wanted, but instead said that he broke his mind, "Since you dare to betray your marriage, you shouldn’t be afraid of divorce. Since you think I’m ordinary, think I’m incapable, think I’m a bad life, follow me The divorce is just over, where is so much nonsense? Don’t say as if you are good for me, if you are really good for me, you won’t betray your marriage!"

Although she wants to live for herself through divorce That’s right, although what she said back and forth is reasonable, but if her attitude towards marriage only stays at this level, it won’t work: you don’t make preparations in advance, there is no prevention, and when the betrayal occurs, you will fight, then divorce, and then Repeating the original life will not do anything. Think about how to avoid the problem fundamentally, and that is the most important thing to do.

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The "betrayal" problem experienced by Axiang, I want to fundamentally avoid it,You need to learn to "attack the mind."

Some people say that when a woman encounters betrayal in marriage, it is because she met the wrong person and married the wrong person. Although this statement is true, it is not entirely true, because only the surface of the problem has been seen and the root of the problem has not been touched.

The root causes of betrayal in marriage are actually the two situations we mentioned earlier. Take a man's betrayal of a woman as an example: a man's psychology is either to overestimate himself and think that he is excellent; or to underestimate a woman and think that a woman is too ordinary.

This is not a question of whether a woman is married to a scumbag. Even if a man is not a scumbag, he will also betray the marriage if he has the above two psychology, because he feels that women are afraid to take him.

Conversely speaking, if a woman wants a man not to betray a marriage, she must reverse the man’s psychology and let him know "what do you dare to do with him?" and let him know that betraying a marriage requires a heavy price. effective.

To achieve this, what women should do the most is not to demand, order and scare men, but to strengthen themselves. There is an indisputable fact: to be a "senior" "shrew", a man dare not betray you. The reason why

put the attributive "advanced" before the word "shrew" is because: if you just be a shrew, nothing can be achieved, because a shrew will only bluff, the thunder will be heavy and the rain will be small, and the man will see through you From now on, you won't be a bitch anymore.

"advanced" refers to: you have to work hard to make yourself better than men, you can make more money than men, and you can make all kinds of things that men can do. More importantly, you have to know how to find a "helper", only you I can maintain good relationship between my mother-in-law and the people who know you. When they think you are better than a man, a man's psychology will naturally change, because he knows in his heart that if you betray your marriage, it will not only offend you, but also all around you. people. It's the same level, and a bit more shrew, it's perfect.