"Husband, let's pay for my sister's college tuition and her living expenses. As you know, my parents are too old to support a college student. I am a sister again, and I have the responsibility to take care of my sister."
When his wife Lin Lili said these things, Gong Yuan was reading. He had expected that his wife would tell him this question today. He also figured out how to answer it. He put down the book and said, "It's okay, but I have one. Conditions, wife, our family’s money is not brought by the wind, we must let her write an IOU, and wait until one day in the future she graduates and can make money before repaying it. We don’t need her interest."
Gong Yuan thinks he answers. It's perfect, it kills three birds with one stone. This can not only solve the urgency of the sister-in-law, but also meet the requirements of the wife, and also reduce the burden of the wife and parents.
But after listening to Gong Yuan's words, his wife Lin Lili stared at Gong Yuan for a full minute, then turned and went to the guest bedroom. For the next month, Gong Yuan was ignored.
Gong Yuan didn't know what he did wrong. But a man’s reason and sense of responsibility as a husband drove him to ask clearly. Therefore, he prepared his wife’s favorite bag, bought his wife’s favorite snacks, and prepared to coax his wife before asking the reason. Before
waited for his plan to be implemented, his wife said he wanted to talk to him.
Gong Yuan readily agreed. During the conversation, my wife said something like this: "First of all, we are a family. I have a blood relationship with my sister. The tuition fee is 12,000 yuan a year, plus my living expenses are 20,000 yuan. I can afford to let her write an IOU. I can't afford to lose this person. I think this is an insult to sisterhood. Z2z
Furthermore, when we got married, our family did not ask for your betrothal, nor did we require me to be written on the real estate certificate. Not only that, I also gave out a dowry of 50,000 yuan. Our family is so generous, how come you are so stingy now? Finally, you see how my parents treat you these years, they Treat you as your own son.
When you don’t work well and don’t make so much money, my parents give us vegetables, rice, and noodles every week. Our children can’t spend hundreds of dollars a month? They The second elder’s pension is all spent on our son. How can you be so ungrateful. I decided to pay for my sister’s four-year college expenses. Today you have to agree or disagree. If you have to be honest with me, let’s Divorce, I can afford it myself." After hearing these words, Gong Yuan was stunned. He didn't expect his wife to talk to himself about this matter like this. This is not the Lin Lili in his mind. He admits that what his wife said are facts, and he also knows that his wife's natal family treats him well, but this does not mean that he is obligated to pay for his sister-in-law's four-year college expenses.
He thought it was a moral kidnapping by his wife, but it was a family after all, and he had no real divorce plans, so he could only agree to follow his wife's words.
This time, Gong Yuan had a deep understanding of what "helping the brother demon" means. Fortunately, his wife has a younger sister, not a younger brother. Otherwise, in the future, they are likely to have to pay for their brother to buy a house or even marry a wife. Then he will be too tired in his life, and he will shudder when he thinks about it.
In fact, Gong Yuan’s wife has a monthly salary of nearly 20,000, and it is entirely possible that she will have a younger sister. This is not terrible. What is really terrible is the "parasite" women who are obviously capable but have to bear the so-called responsibilities.
Gong Yuan knew one. He has a colleague, Xiao Huang, who is from a rural area and has two younger brothers in the family. His parents did not favor sons over daughters, and worked hard to provide for Xiao Huang to go to university, but Xiao Huang did not disappoint, was admitted to a university, and got a stable job after graduation.
But Xiao Huang has not been free, whether it is spiritual or material.
According to Xiaohuang, her first salary was 1,800 yuan, she only kept 800 yuan for herself, and the remaining 1,000 were sent to her parents. In the first two years of work, she would send two-thirds of 4500 yuan per month to her home, leaving only one-third for herself. Later, after working longer hours, she began to fall in love and increased her expenses. She would send one-half to her family every month.
Xiao Huang thanked her parents from the bottom of her heart, and wanted to take part of the responsibility for her parents, so she was willing to send money home. After
got married, she still kept this habit. Originally, her husband didn’t know that Xiao Huang had been sending money home, but later learned that Xiao Huang had this habit.The two of them quarreled. Husband and Xiao Huang yelled: "I worked hard to make money to support my family. I wrote your name on the house. I was outside in the wind and sun for our future consideration, for our children, and desperately saving money, but what about you? What are you doing? Not only do you not pay for this family, but you also give most of your salary to your natal family. Have you considered my feelings?"
This is the first time Xiao Huang and her husband quarrel. But even when her husband questioned her like this, she did not waver in her decision to send money home. In her heart, two younger brothers are more important than her children.
And Xiao Huang's husband can't laugh or cry when facing Xiao Huang's attitude. But his friend analyzed it for him, he understood a lot of things, and finally decided to divorce. A friend of
said: "The reason Xiaohuang has this attitude is because of her native family. She knows how hard her parents are, and she can’t wait to raise her two younger brothers as sons. The same blood. The question is what do you think. Xiao Huang’s salary is not high, and the family still has such conditions. If you love her enough and love her too much, then you must be prepared to raise their family. If you think you If you can’t do it yourself, get divorced as soon as possible. This will be good to Xiao Huang.” After listening to her friend, Xiao Huang’s husband understood, and the friend spoke very tactfully. He knew that he didn't have the ability to make Xiao Huang a parasite for granted. So, after explaining to Xiao Huang, he chose to divorce. This incident of
Xiaohuang left Gong Yuan with lingering fears. He was glad that his wife was capable, and he was also glad that he had only one sister-in-law.
In fact, there are many such women around us. Even after they get married, they can't get rid of the relationship with their original family. Whether they are active or passive, they will serve their younger brother or sister all their lives. In fact, this relationship is deformed and pathological. We separated from our original family and formed a new family.
Our responsibilities have also changed. You have to be clear, in the new family, you are the hostess, you have the responsibility to contribute to this family. In the native family, you only have the responsibility and obligation to your parents to end their old age. As for the younger brothers and sisters, they should have their own life track.
If you have the ability, you can help. If you are not that capable, it is normal to do a little bit of the obligation to be a sister after marriage.
Do everything according to your ability, and don't put the cart before the horse, let your new family get into trouble, and add countless troubles to your originally happy married life.
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