Domestic violence is the difference between zero and countless times!

Domestic violence is abbreviated as “domestic violence”, which refers to behaviors that occur between family members, in which family members are physically, mentally, and sexually injured and tortured by beating, binding, confinement, mutilation or other means. Parental violence against their children or their own siblings is also domestic violence.

On October 15th, Mohan Roxana, the wife of sprinter Zhang Peimeng, posted a long post on Weibo accusing her of her husband’s domestic violence, and claimed that Zhang Peimeng not only cheated in marriage, but also after she filed for divorce, the group took away the child and Assaulted his mother and fourth aunt.

domestic violence was brought to the table again.

In domestic violence, most of us feel that only women are harmed, but in fact, the proportion of elderly, children and men has also increased. Talk show actor Wang Zijian is one of the members who was domestically abused by his wife. According to data released by the All-China Women’s Federation and the National Bureau of Statistics in 2018, 22.9% of women and 19.9% ​​of men have suffered domestic violence. There is also an even more amazing number. About 1/4 of families have domestic violence. On average, a woman is beaten by her husband every 7.4 seconds. About 20% to 30% of women are physically assaulted by their current or former boyfriend. Abuse. Domestic violence is the most common cause of serious injuries to women, accounting for about 40% of women’s deaths.

So why is domestic violence so common?

Misunderstanding 1: There is no domestic violence phenomenon, even if it exists, it is still very few.

Misunderstanding 2: Domestic violence is a private matter, 57.51% of the 4128 survey respondents believe that domestic violence is a domestic matter. And most people think that the ugliness of the family cannot be publicized, so most people will choose to hide it for the perpetrator after being abused.

But do you know how harmful domestic violence is to members of a family?

In some families, fathers will be violent to their mothers, and the harm to their children is beyond imagination. What is even more frightening is that some mothers even let their children conceal this with her. Children who grow up in this kind of family will often end up in two ways, either they will become the next generation of perpetrators, or they will become a person who never abuses. But no matter what kind of person they will become, domestic violence will undoubtedly leave a huge shadow on their weak hearts and even fear marriage.

Sometimes, those mothers who let the child hide with her are not necessarily how much she loves the man who abused her. They think that a child should be given a complete home, but in fact the answer is just the opposite. Children who grow up in a domestic violence environment will feel inferior, become weak, become more and more stubborn, and so on. What you think of as a complete home is no longer a safe haven for children, but the source of their nightmares, the shadow of their childhood, and they may spend their entire lives to heal their childhood.

There is another kind of man who reveals his nature after drinking. After waking up, he apologizes to you again and again, and promises that he will not next time, but will he really not next time? Some women think about their children and how many years of relationship they have been with him under their seemingly sincere requests time and time again. They will compromise again. They just forget that many things are only zero-order. Countless differences.

If you are a perpetrator, please stop your abusive behavior. I believe you will not want your family to disperse one day, and you will not want your children to say to you in the future, I blame you, I hate you.

If you are the victim of violence, please don’t panic, seek protection from the law, and don’t feel that you will pass for the sake of your child. This is what you think is moved. Ask your child if he wants to be with you. Live with violent people and stop your self-righteousness.

Please trust your country and its laws, and bravely say no to domestic violence!