Why the longer you stay with boys, the less chance you are together?

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"I know the feeling of trying my best to fight for a person and ultimately failing:

did everything that I should do, but in the end I still face the result of powerlessness. In fact It’s something that most people can’t bear.”

By Chen Miaobing

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received a consultation case two days ago. The main situation is that a girl and a boy have been entangled for several years. Most of the time when they get along, men give women one Illusion:

"he likes her";

"he might be with her";

but until the girl has done all that should be done, I understand from the men’s very tactful and topic-changing statements, In fact, he refused.

I told the girl directly:

"I suggest you stop investing extra time and energy on him. The main reason is: first, you have done everything you can do; second, he doesn’t understand. In fact, he has already expressed his opinion. In this case, it is almost zero to want to change the idea that a man does not want to be with you for the time being."

So today I want to talk to you about the friendship zone between men and women in an ambiguous stage. Under what circumstances, the longer you get along with a boy, the less likely you are to be together?

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(1) You ask him more frequently than he asks you; the situation of

actually clearly shows that this boy is not interested in you. Of course, many boys even if they don't like a girl, but if a girl takes the initiative to make an appointment, they will still go out. So this attitude that he doesn't take the initiative to invite an appointment, but goes to the appointment, is actually very easy to cause misunderstandings among girls and make her think that she still has a chance.

(2) The chat between you is always your starting topic;

At the beginning, when a boy is interested in a girl, they will be willing to take the initiative to approach that girl, and let that girl know themselves as much as possible. As they become more aware of how they feel about this girl, boys will subconsciously choose to withdraw or keep their distance.

(3) Whenever you want to go one step further, he will always pretend not to understand;

Many times, girls will have the following misunderstandings about boys, always thinking:

"He has this attitude towards me now, yes Isn't it because he is too hesitant or shy?"

"Is it that I did too much to scare him?"

So out of this idea, many girls will give up again and again. The bottom line and principles, even the last little bit of reservedness. However, what I want to say is, girl, you acted so hard, but that person just pretended not to understand.

Any boy who has the same idea as you and likes you more is reluctant to leave all the pursuits to you alone.

If you find out that you have established a relationship with a boy, most of the time you play the role of an "executor", I can only say that he doesn't know what to do, maybe he just doesn't want to do this to you do.

(4) Even if two people are in a private space, they will not have any physical contact;

If you get along with a boy for more than half a year, he will not even take the initiative to hold your hand once. This does not mean that he does not like girls. Or he is too reserved. This high probability means:

or he is hesitant to have further development with you, and he is afraid that if he advances the relationship, he will hurt you or everyone will not be friends;

or he thinks you have a certain aspect or something These aspects do not meet the requirements of his partner, and your sexual attraction to him is not enough for him to have any idea of ​​an advanced relationship.

Especially if the man himself has a certain life experience or emotional experience, then he will be more cautious and restrained when taking actions.

Most of the time, no action means that you don't want to have more in-depth contacts for the time being.

(5) He doesn't want to satisfy your small request;

has a law in psychology called the "Franklin effect", which means that the more a person is willing to help you, the greater the probability of success when you ask him for help. And if a person is unwilling to satisfy even the most basic petitions when you first interact with each other, there is a high probability that the probability that he is willing to pay for you will be relatively small.

Even if your relationship can continue, in most cases you will pay more than him. This does not completely mean that he is a man who is unwilling to pay, but that he is not willing to pay extra for your relationship.

I am Miao Bing, I wish you happiness.

"Man's attitude towards you is beginning to be cold, how can you reverse it? 》Z1z