brushed Zhihu, I saw the following question, which is in line with me, so I answered with anger.
can make girls touched or even moved, provided that your relationship is okay, at least she doesn't hate you, you already have room to approach. In addition, you also have some good feelings for her. If there is no good feeling at all, then you definitely have no intention to impress her.
Okay, this premise is enough, and the rest only needs time and thought.
Boys and girls think differently. Generally speaking, men are more rational and women are more perceptual. Therefore,
wants to move girls, so you have to think about the problem from the other side's point of view, instead of blindly starting from your own point of view, doing things that are very laborious but can only move you.
There are many things that are not valued, but touching each other is the point. In the final analysis,
only needs to do one thing: takes care of it. Below
, let me break it down.
1. Pay attention to the important information she accidentally revealed.
When it comes to giving gifts, some people tend to get big heads. The usual operation is the gifts that Laizhu or a girl likes. In fact, there is no point in this method, because everyone has their own unique preferences, and the standard answer is often not the best answer. What is the most important thing about
is that it is dedicated and unique. It is that remembers what she said unintentionally, especially the things she cares about hidden in those words.
makes her feel that you care about her very much, and especially care, so that her heart will be warmed by you.
I remember when I was in school, I once talked about postgraduate entrance exams with Er Fat. She said that she was nervous every day and wanted to eat snacks and had no time to eat. As a result, for her birthday that year, her best friend bought her a large box of snacks anonymously, and she was so excited that she couldn't sleep all night. When
talked about this, she had a light in her eyes, so I silently noted that when she waited for her birthday, I bought a large box of snacks online one day in advance, and she just received it the next day.
That day when she finally knew that the person giving the gift was me, she was very happy and asked me to come out and chat for more than two hours.
After we are together, I can earn some living expenses through writing. Sometimes when we go out to play, I will buy her some gifts intentionally or unintentionally.
One winter, we went shopping and went into a store. She saw a down jacket with a good style. She checked the price of 999 and said it was too expensive. Let's change shop. I said it's okay, try and don't need money, you try first before talking. When she put it on, I felt my eyes brightened. At that time, I waved to the clerk and said, "This dress is very good. Bring me a new one. I bought it." At the checkout, the clerk said to her, "Your boyfriend is right. You are so kind." She said, "Thank you, my boyfriend loves me very much." All of
's goodness to her, in fact, she can remember in her heart, it was a seed at the beginning, and it will gradually take root.
2. Spend time with her to do what she likes.
Men and women have different preferences. If you are willing to spend time with her to do something you don’t like, but she really likes it, it may not be a big deal, but it usually impresses her, such as shopping .
Actually, I don’t like shopping either. I usually go straight to a store to buy things, try them on, feel okay, and then pay to leave. But she is different. She can go shopping all over the mall, and then she may not buy a single item. I couldn't understand
at first. After spending so much time, how could there be no results. Later, when I look at her satisfied expression, she may be satisfied when she strolls around, or if she doesn't like it, let's talk about it next time. When
accompanies her to go shopping, I will follow her carefully, help her choose and give advice, although sometimes it is nonsense, but at least I am seriously participating, this is good, that is not good, this is suitable for you, that is not beautiful...
is so good, I have to talk about it.
Usually boys don't like shopping very much. If you can work hard on things you don't like but she likes very much, you will most likely impress her. Grasp the key points, grasp the key things, and then seriously participate, the road will be wide. The same is true for
, the same is true for nails. My goodness, the nail polish I expected to do is to put some nail polish on the nails. I didn't expect to apply it, bake it, and then apply it. It would take an hour to finish.
At this time, chat with her to pass the time, and then join in.
3, (after being together) small choice, give the answer directly, don’t ink
"What do you want to eat?" "Where do you want to go?" "Where shall we go on weekends?" "I will buy you what gifts do you like" ……Z1z
After the two people are really together, eating, drinking and playing, small choices abound. If you ask every question again, it’s really annoying. After asking, the answer you usually receive is—whatever.
you will be even more annoying.
And if you really think it is random, the result is that you are casual, and the other party is basically dissatisfied. The true meaning of
casually is: you come to pick one I like, instead of letting you improvise. After
really understands this, and then encounters various small choices, I will directly talk about my ideas first, and it seems that we have our own opinions, and we don’t have to discuss everything; secondly, there is nothing right or wrong in choosing. If you don’t feel good, just say what you think.
The fact is that to operate like this, the result is very good. The reason is simple, but I realized it only after countless failures.
used to think that everything should be discussed with the other party. This is the performance of respecting each other and loving each other. But there are too many things. Everyone has less time after work. Sometimes the stress is high and the mood is not good. A little conflict. There was a small spark, and there was a quarrel if not sure.
has been arguing about buying a house a few times, but there is no result. I simply checked a lot of information on the Internet, read the sharing of many great gods, and then told her my analysis, she said: What you said makes sense, let’s buy it as you say, you belong to our family Mainstay. After the wedding ceremony of
, my father-in-law also told me: "After marriage, you will face a lot more things. Men must be the masters of the house. You must stand up for big and small things and have your own opinions." I think this suggestion is very good. After I arrange many things, she can do it directly, which is more convenient. For example, when we are going to travel, I check out the strategy in advance, prepare things, book tickets, and we just pack up when it's time to go.
When two people are together, if you do more, the other party will be easier. In the same way, if you love the other person more, the other person will love you more. After graduating from
, I also started to learn to cook and do housework. Sometimes when I was cooking, she would take the initiative to do housework. When two people worked together, they loved each other and the relationship became better.
4. Respect each other
In today's society, everyone values personal value very much, so the first principle to love each other is to respect each other. When getting along with her, respect her character, career, choices, hobbies, etc.
She likes to watch dramas and I like to read books. When I first got together, sometimes I would suggest her to read books, thinking that two people would read books together. It was beautiful.
But the ideal is very plump and reality is very skinny. Once we were talking about this, we got into a quarrel while chatting. She said: "You can just like to read books, and don't care what I do. Do you despise me or dislike me Read less..."
coaxed him for a long time before coaxing it. That is the day I understood a truth: must respect each other and don't force each other.
Later, I will accompany her to watch dramas. It will be really fragrant after a while. To be honest, watching the drama is really relaxing and there is no pressure. It is good that two people can still chat about the plot happily. When
first got together, I wish I could be together all the time. After a long time, I discovered that I should have my own circle of friends, and she also has her circle of friends. Normal life should still exist. After getting married, this idea became more obvious. To be honest, two people stay together every day, and they tend to have conflicts over time.
The distance produces beauty, just like seeing each other after get off work, the feeling of joy will increase a little bit. At this time, two people will cook together, chat, and watch variety shows. They are very happy.
don't force it, but get freedom.
This is really important.
[Summary]
Finally, I will briefly summarize it in one sentence: When I am alone, I can manage my life very splendidly; when I am with you, I can take care of you with my heart, and then live a good life together.
Everything needs to be diligent, to feel with the heart, to compare the heart to the heart, to lower the posture to get close, and then to do things in the simplest and most direct way.
is simple, don't make it too complicated.
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