"I just want to be different from everyone."
I have a friend who decided not to marry. Her job is very good, and she earns enough money to spend on her own. She can also be more luxurious and buy a single apartment on her own. I have a cat and a dog, and I have prepared all the preparations for supporting myself without marriage.
However, her parents didn't think so. Her parents were of the same age as mine. They were conservative and traditional in their thinking. Facing the attitude of the only child not to marry, her eyebrows were anxious.
"If you don’t get married, no one will serve you tea or water when you are old! If you don’t have a child, no one will give you care for you in the next hundred years!"
friends face the impatient attitude of their parents, always not arrogant or impatient:" It doesn't matter, I have money, and when I get old, someone will serve me. I will become a rich old girl, more carefree than they get married and have children."
Her parents became even more reluctant to say: "You are simply It’s just a different kind and pervert. How can someone who doesn’t marry, is it a person if they don’t get married?"
But she always has the attitude of hiding needles in the cotton: "Why should I live like others in the world? Someone else gets married? Have you all lived happily? If I am different from others, will I definitely be unhappy? Z1z
will be blunt, you will not be there anymore, you don’t have to worry about these things, and you can’t worry about it, or try to have another I have to take good care of my fetus and live happily, isn’t it good? Anyway, I just want to be different from others!" The words of my friend
reminded me of the girl who bought sperm from abroad. She was also controversial. Now more and more people are beginning to understand her choice.
does not have a husband and mother-in-law, and does not need to deal with these complicated housework. It seems that women can really be much easier and happy, so there is nothing wrong with not getting married.
Not getting married is a kind of unconventional, but it has gradually become a marriage concept recognized by the public.
People who decide to get married have also begun to diversify their reasons for marriage.
People in the past married, if it was not for love, or to "be the same as everyone." Now
married for love, and many, because when the time comes, many people want to get married, but in addition, there are some Even more different concepts of marriage have gradually become mainstream.
"I got married just to change my life. Is there any problem?"
Lili is a capable person. Although she is not well-educated, she is appreciated by the boss. After all, her personality is both right and left. Among colleagues of the same age , She was promoted the fastest, but she "is not here."
Lili can be regarded as an urban beauty, but she wears exquisite makeup every day, insists on attending various social occasions, and meets more outstanding men. She is 25 years old and has been looking for an "opportunity" for herself. Ask a woman who doesn't want to find a good man to marry. I'm trying to create some choices for myself, expand the circle of exploration, and marry myself before the age of 27.
"Well, do you think I am like a fisher girl? Yes, it's nothing. I didn't steal or steal. I want to escape my patriarchal family. I want to work hard for a better life. , Hasn’t harmed anyone and interests. What’s wrong?”
Lili also has her own ideas. She only wants to leave the original family, but she also realizes that she can’t get rid of the predicament by herself alone. Work harder to make yourself better and find a partner who can help her better.
Of course, in the eyes of many people, this kind of behavior is a representative of a material woman and should be despised. But from her perspective, isn't she working hard to change her life? As long as
is not the mainstream concept of marriage, there will always be people who oppose it and some people will always agree.
But whether it’s unmarried or married for the sake of material things, it’s still a controversial topic in the issue of marriage and love. The two opposing parties can get red-faced because of this. This is what I want to say, it’s difficult to define it. The wrong contemporary marriage.
Lao Hu's son wants to marry a woman he knows on a blind date, and for the first time brings the woman home to meet with his parents. Lao Hu was originally happy, prepared a large table of good wine and food, and waited to see his future daughter-in-lawwoman.
waited for one day, Lao Hu didn’t know how long he waited. Since his son was 25 years old, Lao Hu has been waiting. His son was 30 years old and unmarried. The Lao Hu couple was discouraged and thought they would never be able to wait. Now that his son is 32 years old, he suddenly brought back a person who wanted to get married. Naturally, he was so happy that he couldn't express it in words. After the lady
arrived, she drove a luxury car and brought a bunch of expensive meeting gifts. The Lao Hu and his wife were also happy to smile, saying how embarrassed they were, and they were busy taking it over. The son of
also found a rich daughter with a good family background. This is something that old Hu Wanwan didn’t expect. Originally he thought that his son was at this age and could only pick the rest. The old Hus and his wife naturally had relatively low psychological expectations. I don’t know how to express the unexpected joy.
Not to mention that the woman is very generous and decent. She also made it clear that she would not ask Lao Hu's family to pay a penny as a gift. When Lao Hu and his wife heard about it, the idea at the time was that such a daughter-in-law would have nowhere to look for it with a lantern. After the wife of
left, Lao Hu and his wife learned about the woman from their son for the first time. They were happy, and Hu began to worry again.
"I don't want anything, is it really true? It's not you who coaxed us! Or this girl must have something tricky."
From the son, the old Hus learned the fact that the woman is 37, no I have been married, but I am getting older and I am anxious to get married. Besides, the woman is a small boss who does her own business. There is no shortage of money. This is why we don’t want to be simple. Not only that, she will also bring money to get married. Give it to my son, let alone nothing, it's just sticking to the old Hu's house in vain.
may have been happy before, but Lao Hu calmed down instead.
"She is 37 years old, can she still have a baby? What's the use of having money, not having a baby and marrying a daughter-in-law is like marrying for nothing! And I don’t think it will work, there must be a problem, maybe it just can’t give birth, I don’t Agree!"
's son comforted: "She is in good health. We have all gone to the hospital for medical examinations before, and there are no problems, so please don't worry about it." Z1z
Lao Hu and his wife are old and can't fuck too much. My son’s heart is determined. Although Lao Hu and his wife are anxious, they can only agree.
It’s one thing for a daughter-in-law to be old. What they always worry about most is that the daughter-in-law has problems. Whether it is a physical problem or other problems, they always feel that there is no good thing in the sky.
"My son is only of average ability, I know my son, we will ask him in this life to be safe and down-to-earth, even after thinking about these things, the more I think about it, the more I feel that it is not very reliable, I am afraid of him Deceived!"
's marriage date is approaching, and Lao Hu and his wife can't make up their minds.
On the day of his son’s wedding, Lao Hu offered to go back to his hometown for a night, and his daughter-in-law also agreed. That night, Lao Hu and his wife eavesdropped on their son’s daughter-in-law’s speech through the door, and they heard something shocking that they had never expected. secret.
"Your parents are getting older, can they really accept that I can't have children? I know my own body. The doctor says that the probability of me wanting a child in this life will not be higher than 1%."
just Hearing this, the old Hus and his wife were thunderous and yelled that they were fooled. Regardless of the situation at the time, they rushed in and called for a stop:
"Son, this daughter-in-law can't marry! She can't have children. What will you do if you marry? I would rather you not get married, and there will be a chance in the future. If you marry her, you won’t have time to regret it!” Although the son of
was astonished, he finally calmed down and resolutely said to the old Hu couple:
“Mom and dad, you have also seen me, I I knew this a long time ago. She didn’t lie to me or lie to you. I kept it from you. I don’t want you to worry about it. Z1z
she can’t give birth. I don’t mind. Now medicine is so advanced. If you don’t say anything, there’s still something to do. Even if there’s no way, what’s wrong with adopting a child.”
“How can this be the same, you will inherit the incense of Lao Hu’s family! You are not allowed to marry!”
"Parents, you are really enough! I have such a condition, if I could marry a daughter-in-law, I would have married a long time ago. If I can meet her, she is my husband and wife. She can help me, and she will not dislike me. Why should I dislike me? She? You have to bachelor me until forty, and find a woman to give birthA child, and then be poor for a lifetime?
If this is the case, I would rather have no children and save the next generation for life! The marriage is over anyway, so stop talking about it, it's all set! "Z1z
Lao Hu and his wife were very dissatisfied with their son's marriage. They even let out words to deny the daughter-in-law and not let the son go home. They couldn't understand their son's thoughts and felt too embarrassed. Everyone felt that Lao Hu's son was wrong. Is it? Or is the old Hu wrong? Z1z
Whether it is not married or not, for what reason is married, or not married, in fact, I think there is no need to go into too much, maybe be tolerant, just It is the simplest solution to these see-saw puzzles.
You are right, but it is indeed deviant. You are wrong, but why do you interfere with everyone’s lifestyle?
Whether it is the future or whether it is happy or not, no one can say , How can one define it. Sometimes instead of arguing about right and wrong, it is better to let go of the opposing precautions and treat these issues with a peaceful attitude. As long as
marriage does not involve moral issues, it does not involve legal and regulatory issues, there is no obvious The dividing line between right and wrong is a personal choice as to whether the result is good or bad.
Of course, I am not advocating or calling for a non-mainstream marriage attitude. What you need to know is that you have the freedom to choose your lifestyle and marriage model. , But the final result is good or bad, it is also your personal choice, but also the consequences you need to bear.
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