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and his wife separated for six months, and even mother recently have begun to doubt our feelings are not what's wrong. I quickly explained that there was no problem, but because of the epidemic, there was no way to separate.
Actually, I don’t even know whether it’s really a problem with my wife.
Due to the epidemic this year, in the first half of the year, my wife took the child back to her natal home, and I took her back after eleven. She voluntarily asked to stay at home for a few days instead of going back to Beijing with me. I readily agree to this. After all, grandparents have not seen their grandchildren for a long time, and it takes time to cultivate relationships. Before
, my wife was very clingy to me. When I asked her to go home, she would dislike me if I didn't love her anymore. Now, she actively asked to stay at home for more time, how could I refuse.
just didn’t expect that this stay would be another month. I asked her if she would come to Beijing. She always said that she was actually pretty good at home and stayed with her children. Occasionally, her grandparents showed her children. Easy and happy.
She said: is with you, life is different, my child and I quarrel with you, it is necessary to quarrel, so good, you are outside to earn money to support the family, I will take care of the baby at home full-time.
sounds like nothing wrong. The wife is also thinking about our relationship, but if you think about it carefully, can you really avoid quarrels if you don’t see each other?
There is a colleague in our company when he first joined the company Talking about a girlfriend, the two are in the same city and in different places. Although they are in the same city, they are one north and one south. In a big city like Beijing, the distance between one north and south is no different from that in different places.
At that time, our company was on a single day off. He was able to set aside one day every week or every two weeks to see his girlfriend. At the beginning, the two people had a good relationship and got along very well.
only later, they met less and less frequently, from once half a month before to once every two months.
Once we had a meal together. I saw how he sighed and asked him why. He told me that he broke up with his girlfriend. The reason for
's breakup is very strange. The girlfriend blamed him for not caring about her and not going to see her; but he said that every time she went to see her, he would always quarrel inexplicably. It was fine once or twice, but every time I went there was no Happy and scattered, over time, he didn't want to go.
At the time, he felt that although two people did not meet, they would not be separated if the relationship was still there; but for a girl, she wanted more than just not quarreling, she wanted a real person who could Give her some care and care by her side.
In fact, the same is true between husband and wife. It seems that two people living apart can avoid conflicts, but over time, there will always be someone who can't bear loneliness first and chooses another way.
Can you still call love if you are not together?
I have always had a deep and deep question. If the husband and wife abandon sex, will there still be love? If the husband and wife don’t live together, they just rely on lip service. , Then is this relationship really unbreakable? Z2z
maybe someone can, but obviously most people can’t.
Two people are not really living together, so how can it be said that this is love. Just relying on spiritual love may not be called love at all.
I remember when I was in high school, my parents had no choice but to separate in order to make money. My mom went to work in a city far away. My dad could not speak Mandarin, so he could only do small business at home.
went like this for a year, and then my mother quit her job and returned home. At that time, I felt it was a pity, but later I learned that my dad and my mom had a big temper.
Although my dad and my mom discussed this matter at the time, my dad had no choice but to agree, but obviously, my dad overestimated his tolerance limit. During the year he was separated from my mom, he even had a meal problem.
remember that one night, my dad suddenly fell ill and got out of bed to take medicine. He suddenly fell to the floor and couldn't get up. No one could hear him even calling someone. After
,My dad began to resolutely let my mom go home. My dad understood at that time. Without my mom, it doesn't look like a home at all.
What is home? In my opinion, two or more people are called home, and one person can only be called a nest.
family should be warm, lively, with smoke and fire, alone and deserted, can you call home?
together, in fact, it is more like a group to keep warm, after all, for most married families, Everyone is for a better life, and no one is better than anyone. Only when the family is harmonious can everything flourish.
Only when they are together can a husband and wife share adversity. When they are separated, their feelings are like an hourglass, and there will always be a day when they run out.
Trust is always a hurdle that needs to be crossed in the past.
Separated couples, the most important hurdle is trust, no matter how loving a couple, once it comes to things that they care about, they will become selfish and suspicious. This is due to human nature. .
During the separation of husband and wife, if you don’t contact for three or five days, one of you may be guessing. Just like my wife and I, we basically communicate at least once a day. If we don’t contact for more than two days, then we must make a decision. Fan explained.
Many people say that people who are insecure will not be confident in their relationship, but in a marriage, especially a separated couple, even if they feel secure, they cannot fully trust each other.
On the contrary, many times, because of the distance problem, conflicts are more likely to occur between husbands and wives, unless they really do not contact, but since they are husbands and wives, how can they stay out of contact?
remember that in the first year of my relationship with my wife, she went home during the Chinese New Year and stayed at home for a long time. During that time, I was suffering and urged her to come back almost every few days.
For this reason, every time we communicate about this matter, we always quarrel. Either I speak with a very strong tone, or I can't hear the other person's heart at all, and can't give back in time, so every time we break up unhappy.
Later, my wife told me that she was about to collapse when she was urged by me. I really wanted to let it go and not return to Beijing.
But fortunately she still came back, and the time has passed for five years. But the troubles caused by long-term separation have not been solved. We have been separated for a long time, and we will always quarrel inexplicably. One sentence is wrong, one look is wrong, even if it is a habitual sigh, it may become one. The fuse of a quarrel.
And if we are together, there will be fewer contradictions, and there will hardly be quarrels over these trivial matters.
Perhaps, separation should not only solve the problem of trust, but also emotional bondage and comfort.
Trust is always a wall between husband and wife.
Separation is the beginning of a vicious circle
There are many marital problems caused by separation, and there is nothing to say due to the reduction of time together; asexual marriage after inability to get in close contact; even the appearance of a third party in the marriage, etc. It is very easy to happen during the separation of husband and wife.
And this is a vicious circle. The more the separates, the easier it is to have problems, and the more problems appear, the more the couples want to separate. If things go on like this, either marriage will survive in name, or the fate will die.
But no matter what kind of result, it is not what we want to see most.
I wrote a few days ago that “Separated Couples: Sex and Love with Nowhere to Place” aroused heated discussion among fans. It mentioned the emotional lack of couples caused by separation and the estrangement of future marriages.
Although in most cases, the separation of husband and wife is forced by helplessness, but under all conditions, the editor does not recommend everyone to live separately. All family difficulties require two people to face and solve together, and the conflicts between husband and wife must also find a balance in the constant running-in of the two people.
In fact, no matter how loving a couple they are, they must return to life in the end.
What is life? Life is a piece of cake and a place,It is firewood, rice, oil, salt and pots and pans.
husband and wife are two angular people who report to the group for warmth. If we want to make each other closer together, we will inevitably smooth the edges and corners of our bodies in the process, so as not to pierce each other, nor Injured by the opponent. Z24z
concludes:
Obviously, separation is not the best way to resolve conflicts between husband and wife. We must constantly "injure each other" in this process, and then let each other find the best way to get along.
has an inspirational saying: How can you see a rainbow without experiencing wind and rain. Its practicality is also applicable to couples' emotions.
Only when the husband and wife find the most comfortable position for each other, the marriage can last longer!
Muzi Cocoa said: An ordinary person who has been playing hard for 30 years, tells his emotions in words, with your company, I Every day of is more exciting!
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