are closely related to the lives of ordinary people. In ancient times, farmers living at the bottom of society had difficulty in living a good life. Because of poverty and disease, many farmers' lives are more difficult to maintain. "Poor single and rich widow" is a common phenomenon in society. So what does it mean?
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Poor, single, rich, widow
Single men are generally poorer, and there are two reasons why bachelors are labeled as "poor" :
first: external reasons
family origin is relatively poor, due to parents' financial resources The conditions are poor and he is unable to create a worry-free environment for him. For many women, getting married is an opportunity to change their destiny. People also know how to seek advantages and avoid disadvantages. Faced with a man whose native family is very poor, many women are unwilling to discuss marriage with him.
Second: the internal reason
is because the bachelor is a mentality that one person eats and the whole family is not hungry, he spends a little if he has a little money, and would not think about saving money. In fact, as long as you are healthy and hardworking, your life will not be bad. If an adult man is still living a life of despair, it can only mean that he can't afford to support Adou, and women will not waste time on him. The widow
is different. She has suffered the hardships of life, lost her husband, and became a single woman. She always has a sense of crisis in her life. Women understand that their body is weak and every penny is hard to come by. Spending money knows to be frugal. For long-term plans or for children, they will plan carefully in their daily lives, so they will have some savings. In addition to his own hard work, after the death of the husband, the dowry of the natal family at the time of marriage, plus the real estate of the in-law’s family, these are naturally inherited by the widow, and it is normal for the widow to have money.
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, widows, Arita, no farming
, the second half is the point, and few people know. In the agricultural era, labor and production mainly depended on men. When the man in the family died, no one would cultivate the land. In order to avoid suspicion, it is impossible for a widow to ask others for help. After all, her reputation is sometimes more important than her life. There is another meaning in the common saying of
, referring to the lack of love between men and women in widows. When a widow loses her husband, she has to endure physical torment. She will not receive the love and care of the opposite sex during her lifetime. The mental torture is better than the physical torture.
Some dynasties required women to keep chastity and explicitly prohibited widows from remarrying. Zhu Xi's thoughts began to establish official status in the Yuan Dynasty, and his view of chastity was valued. The Yuan Dynasty once prohibited the remarriage of titled women in the court.
's most advocacy for keeping festivals is the Ming Dynasty. The "chaste" thought of "good horses don't eat back grass, good women don't marry two husbands" has gradually strengthened, thinking that widows remarry is a big rebellion. In ancient times, influenced by the customs of the time, most parents did not accept their children to marry a widow.
Concluding remarks
Folk sayings record the lives of ordinary people, and also reflect their living conditions and feelings. The saying "poor, single and rich widows, widows have fields without farming", this phenomenon deeply reflects the tragic fate of ancient widows.
(the picture comes from the Internet, invaded and deleted)
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