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Who is Zhang Guimei?
Judging from Baidu Encyclopedia, she has a lot of names, the top ten female heroes in the country, the top ten spiritual and civilized figures in the country, the top ten national moral standards, the top ten intellectual women in the country, and the national advanced worker.
But these names are all the honor given to her by others.
Her most glorious status is a people's teacher who truly serves her students, and a high school principal who struggles with Dashan.
If these names are of great importance, then the most useful one is the "seventeenth congress representative."
Because of that meeting, her dark face and worn-out jeans attracted the attention of Xinhua News Agency reporters. Before that, she had always wanted to run a girls' high school to help the girls in the Lijiang mountainous area return to campus and get out of the mountains.
However, almost no one approves of her idea.
"How much do you think it takes to build a high school physical, chemical and biological laboratory?"
"Twenty to thirty thousand."
"How much does it cost to run a high school?"
"Five to six hundred thousand."
The original idea of "a high school" was immediately opposed by the director of education of . She didn't even know the cost of building a high school would cost tens of millions, and she wanted to build a "girls" high school, which was sensational .
After she told Xinhua reporters "I have a dream", her dream has just started. Because the report was very sensational, it received donations and policy support from all walks of life that year, and Lijiang Huaping Girls High School was built. In the same year,
also became the laughing stock of the county:
"a group of mobs coming out of the mountains";
"just let the girls mix up with a high school diploma, can they still go to college"?
However, the team she brought out slapped these people time and time again, and conducted knowledge competitions. The undergraduate rate was 94.3%, which is her best military medal.
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The concept of "girls" high school began when she was found to be seriously ill due to a change in her family, and "escaped" to Dashan.
In the mountainous area, the fate of girls is almost to receive compulsory education, and then return to the family to work in farming, and then find someone similar to marry and have children.
If you give birth to a girl, you may repeat the same mistakes again, and poverty has been passed down from generation to generation in the mountains.
The poorer the place, the more patriarchal is.
And these girls, they have no original sin!
It is not their fault that the family is poor, and it is not their fault that the younger brother cannot afford to marry a wife!
Zhang Guimei was in the mountainous area and saw a high school girl breaking a stick in the field, while her brother and younger brother were sent to school in the county.
She was anxious to tell the girl's parents that the girl is going to take the college entrance examination! What virtue do you lack! After
said, she threw down 200 yuan and left. Things like
can be seen almost every year, and quarrels with parents are also common.
She knows that if we want to put an end to the vicious circle of "unliterate girls-uneducated mothers-uneducated children" , we must "don't let go of every girl."
She often visits home, even if sometimes she can only visit two families in a whole day, because the mountain area is really too difficult and too far.
However, she must be in the girl's house, let the girl know that you are already in such an environment, and there is no way out and you must study hard.
Many parents feel that their children must be admitted to a book to have a way out.
She told her parents that you can get out of the mountains even if you pass the second exam. Even if you only take the college entrance examination, it is a very valuable experience.
is such a principal, she has become "hot" again recently.
Because in an interview, Zhang Guimei mentioned that a female graduate student came to the school to donate money. When she asked happily what the girl's job is now, the girl said that when she was a full-time wife, Zhang Guimei immediately pulled her face down and told her to get out. The donation was not accepted, so please contact when the school needs it.
"The family has been so difficult to provide you to the present, and you went back to the original starting point. Now there are too many men cheating!"As soon as
came out, it caused discussion on the Internet.
Some people say that is simply anti-marriage and anti-birth, insulting women in marriage and childbirth, having a "hatred of men", and bright pastoral feminism!
really like this?
I don't think so.
She is not against all women being full-time wives, but against her students being full-time wives.
How difficult it is for girls to come out of the mountains, with the pressure of patriarchal, many girls have never been out of the mountains in their lifetime.
Principal Zhang Guimei "snatched" these girls from her parents, from the cornfield, from the aura of her brother and younger brother. Are they qualified to be full-time wives?
They have the right to choose, but this is the least recommended way.
(home of a female student)
The female student who was scolded for "getting off" also came out to respond: Our boss is mighty! Teacher Zhang often emphasizes independence and doesn't want us to be like older generation women after reading books around her husband and children.
It is precisely because I have seen too many tragedies that I want to uproot the tragedy.
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In China, not many can be called full-time wives, and most of them can only be regarded as housewives. The illusion created by
in the TV series "My First Half of Life" and "Thirty Only" seems that full-time wives are the kind of people who can drink afternoon tea, buy designer bags, and wear shoes with pure leather soles.
In real life, a full-time wife is only the bottom of the family, and she is said to be "you don't make money" when doing all the housework.
Our traditional marriage and love background is that women marry into a male family to adapt to the rhythm of the male family.
In contrast, women have to pay more and greater costs in marriage.
By 2020, marriage only talks about love, it would be silly. There are three things that women can rely on in marriage: to support themselves, natal support, and husband’s love .
is like those students in Zhang Guimei's school. If you are a housewife, and you don't have the strength to support yourself, you can only rely on your husband for love.
husband's love, how long can it last?
fell back on the mountain, and everyone runs.
and the majority of grassroots women? Although a little better than the female students in the mountains, how much better can they be?
It is not that we disrespect housewives, but that we love them too much. If
is talking about values, someone asked me, should women with a high degree of education be full-time wives?
I will answer, is an independent and mature woman who can make herself happy no matter what she does. I have seen many women who are full-time wives. Not only do they keep their homes in order, but they are also famous for making private kitchens and private cakes. They earn a lot of money, and their lives are just what they call life.
But if you ask me, your daughter, or your relatives, would you suggest that they be full-time wives?
I will answer: I will break her leg!
Respect is a kind of value, and it is distressed not to suggest.
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I have a classmate whose family conditions are really not good. I didn't see her buying new clothes very often during college, and occasionally they were kind of cheap and cheap.
She has never heard of Western food and KTV about the things we usually talk about. When
was about to graduate, she fell in love, and then she suddenly announced her marriage.
When she got married, we went to her home to find out that their home is really too poor. The roof of a rural bungalow does not even have a ceiling. When I looked up, I could only see the yellow smoked beams, and some rattan sticks that I could not name, forming a roof. A girl like
uses a phrase on the Internet to say, "It takes me 20 years to sit and drink coffee with you."
But she didn't. She was married by Fengzi, gave birth to a child shortly after the marriage, and became a housewife ever since. The second child was born when the eldest was over a year old.
in the circle of friends, often see herNegative news, her mother-in-law embarrassed her, she was married to another country unaccompanied, and her husband was Ma Baonan...
She walked out of the abject poverty, but fell into another mud pit.
The society calls on people to respect full-time wives, but where is the way out for girls like this?
In developed countries, there are many semi-finished products in the selection area of supermarkets. Mothers can take them home and "ding" them in the microwave for a meal. Half of
's husband’s salary is paid to the full-time wife’s account. Their contribution to the family supports their husband’s work, so they are entitled to a salary. The social security husband of
full-time wife is responsible for the payment, even after divorce, it cannot stop.
If we also have these protection systems, whoever wants a gift, who will disrespect the full-time wife! Z1z
girls, unless your husband respects you and your wallet respects you, don't push yourself down that way.
The man who asked you to sacrifice for the family, you should also ask him what he sacrificed for the family.
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