What hinders us from successfully redeeming ourselves is often not the other party's ruthless indifference, but the fact that we have become someone we are not.
Many broken relationships are mostly caused by the abnormal path of self-growth.
Think about how we fell in love in the first place? Think about why you decided to fall in love with the other person in the first place? Think about what you did to make the other person fall in love with you without hesitation?
The answer to saving a relationship is actually written at the beginning of the relationship most of the time.
Why do unwilling people always fail to restore their relationships? Because what drives them to recover is their unwillingness to be reconciled, not their inner liking for the other person, or their sincere love.
Emotions cannot last. Unwilling emotions will disappear one day as time goes by.
Without the feeling of unwillingness, there will naturally be no motivation to redeem the other party.
The emergence and existence of emotions will also make us become something other than ourselves. Think about it: when we are angry, does our anger control us and drive us to do various destructive actions in a strange way?
Emotions drive us to save relationships, and it is extremely easy for us to become someone we are not. We are abnormal in our emotional state.
What will happen if we fall into an abnormal state during recovery?
will grovel and beg the other person to come back to him; he will pester the other person over and over again until the other person completely gives up; he will continue to generate negative emotions and negative thoughts until he becomes depressed; he will continue to perform negative actions to hurt the other person until it is completely irreparable.
If these abnormal behaviors were eliminated during recovery, would it be easier for us to recover each other?
If we are not so humble, but maintain a normal personality that is neither humble nor arrogant, then will we also have a sense of value in the other person's heart?
If we don't stalk each other so hard, but adopt a consistent attitude of respect towards others, will the other party also feel the equal respect from you?
If we don't always behave so negatively, but maintain an optimistic attitude towards life as always, can we also let the other party feel your open-mindedness and cheerfulness in facing life?
If we don’t use negative behavior to threaten the other person to come back, but use the behavior of loving others and loving yourself to get along with the other person, will the other person be more willing to continue to be with you?
Yes, that's right. Neither humble nor arrogant, respecting each other, being optimistic and positive, helping each other, appreciating each other and loving each other are the normal ways we communicate with others, and the same is the normal way we get along with our lovers.
If you think you love him, if you really want to save him, then why are you unwilling to treat him in a normal interpersonal way?
recovery is not that difficult, as long as it is normal, it will be successful!
Just get along with him normally, respect each other normally, communicate and chat normally, and show yourself to him normally.
Wasn't it the same when we first met and fell in love with him?
When we met each other, didn't we respect each other, treat each other as equals, and greet each other politely?
When you fall in love, don't you also appreciate each other, think about each other, love each other and be considerate of each other?
Therefore, recovery is the same, just get along normally and love each other normally.
Don’t be controlled by your emotions anymore and make yourself no longer yourself! The process of love is a process of self-growth and self-transformation.
As long as you maintain your original intention, forge ahead, and face everyone with a healthy and normal personality, then love will accompany you throughout your life.
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