In life, it is normal for relatives and friends to give each other gifts. However, you have to know that everyone has their own good points. Many times what you think is good may not be so good in the eyes of the other person, and may even be disgusting.
In the workplace, flattering is a skill. If you flatter in the wrong place or way, not only will you not be able to make things happen, but you will get twice the result with half the effort, or even lead to consequences that cannot be ended. It's like, if the other person is a vegetarian, no matter how good you give him the best meat, will he appreciate your friendship, or will he think you are sick?
Therefore, it is better not to send some things than to send them to the wrong person, at the wrong time, or to the wrong place. If you don’t send it, at least you won’t go wrong.
In fact, even if you are brothers and sisters, don’t give these things as they will turn against each other if you are not careful.
1. Don’t give away things you have used
People actually care about face. Even if you are your brothers and sisters, their income may not be as good as yours, and their living conditions may not be as good as yours, but in terms of personality, you are still equal.
In other words, if you want to give them something, either give it a brand new one or not give it at all.
Even if you have only worn it once or twice, brand new things without even cutting off the tags, in the eyes of the other party, it will only become a charity from you, something you have worn and think can be thrown into the trash, but you give it to them to wear and use.
Even if you don’t think so, you simply feel that you can’t wear it anymore, or it would be a pity to throw it away. But in the eyes of the other party, it may become "I only deserve to wear the clothes you have worn and use the things you have used", which will turn your good intentions into the source of resentment against you.
Therefore, unless your brothers and sisters take a fancy to your idle things and take the initiative to ask for them, otherwise, never give these second-hand things that you have used, otherwise, you may accidentally turn against them.
2. Don’t give things that far exceed the other person’s financial conditions.
Even if you are brothers or sisters, when you have a family, unless there is a major change in your relationship, you will just be better than good friends. And anyone who has self-respect and knows the rules will naturally understand the principle of reciprocity.
For example, you know that they like to drink, so you give them a box of Maotai. However, for ordinary working-class people, a box of Maotai may be their salary for more than half a year. You say, how can he repay such an expensive gift?
Even though you may have never thought about what kind of gift you need from them, in the other person's heart, if there is no special reason, they naturally don't want to owe you this favor.
Therefore, if you want to give something away, give something that is comparable to each other’s financial conditions. Otherwise, it is likely to cause a burden on the other party, and it is also easy for the other party to have a abnormal mentality. When you give him something cheaper next time, he will think that you look down on him and will hate you instead.
As the saying goes, fighting for favor and enmity for rice, turning against each other and becoming enemies, may be where the seed was planted.
3. Don’t give too cheap things
When it comes to giving gifts, the most important thing for brothers and sisters is friendship, not the value of these gifts.
In other words, if you give some local chickens and eggs that you raise at home, it only costs a hundred or ten yuan, but to the other party, this is the best gift because you are thoughtful.
However, if you not only have no intention, but also choose a gift whose value does not match your identity and the other person's conditions, then it is really better not to give it at all. Even if you can do it, the other party may not like it at all, and they may not need it.
In other words, if you usually drink hundreds or thousands of dollars worth of wine, and you go to your brother's house and carry around ten or dozens of dollars worth of wine, everyone is not a fool, and the other person will naturally sense your contempt. He will feel that you are laughing at him and do not regard him as his brother or sister at all. Instead, he will turn against you.
In this case, it is better to go empty-handed. At most, the other party will only say that you are ungrateful and stingy, but they will never think that you look down on them.
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