However, not all marriages will have beautiful results. Even if some marriages have a prelude to the end of the world, after entering the marriage life of daily necessities, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea, they will encounter the seven-year itch or other sudden events.

■ Author: Uncle Nanshan

■ Original work, plagiarism will be investigated

01, preface.

Marriage is a beautiful thing for most people. However, not all marriages will have a happy outcome. Even some marriages have a prelude to the end of the world. After entering the married life of daily necessities, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea, they will encounter the seven-year itch or other sudden events. In the end, the once beautiful marriage had to choose to dissolve. Maybe this is the frustration of marriage. Many people don't know how to deal with their relationship with their ex-wife after divorce. In fact, whether this matter is big or small, as long as you have a reasonable sense of proportion, you will be able to handle these problems.

is the ex-husband or ex-wife, someone who has no emotional connection with me at this time. It's not a big deal for a person to get divorced. After all, no one wants to suffer in a depressing marriage for a lifetime. If you have not remarried, then how to handle the relationship with your ex-husband or ex-wife is your own business. However, if you have remarried, you need to be very careful in handling the relationship with each other. If it is not handled well, it will not only involve you. Especially a man must know how to correctly handle his relationship with his ex-wife, because if he does not handle it well, it may bring new crises and hidden dangers to his newly formed family. , such as Wang Haoyu below, encountered such a problem. Does anyone know how he handled it? Welcome to read on.

02, when I was thirty years old, I married Li Wenli from Jiangcheng City.

Dear friends, my name is Wang Haoyu. Because I am usually a bit arrogant, and I have a stubborn temper that I will not give up until I achieve success. I worked hard for my career, so until I was approaching my thirties, I still had my own family. It wasn't until my career was successful and I could earn a fixed net income of 20,000 to 30,000 yuan a year that I was suddenly shocked: Why am I already an older young man? Why don't I have a girlfriend of my own?

At this time, one of my close friends warned me: No matter how successful a man is, if he does not have his own family or children, it is still a failure! After hearing my friend's warning, I think it makes perfect sense. So, I started making plans for my marriage. Later, through the introduction of a relative and friend of mine, I met Li Wenli who worked in a hospital in Jiangcheng City. After meeting several times, we developed a liking for each other. After more than half a year of contact, we finally entered the palace of marriage. It’s just that at this time, I am already thirty.

03, got married happily and gave birth to a child a year later.

In fact, it is not too late for a man to get married at the age of thirty. After Li Wenli and I got married, our life was quite sweet. In particular, Li Wenli is a doctor, and my mother has some chronic diseases. Under Wenli's care, her illness gradually recovered. My mother was very happy. Everyone told everyone that I had married a good wife. As for me, I am naturally very grateful to Li Wenli. After all, she has brought joy and benefits to our family.

However, what makes us even more happy is that a year later, Wen Li gave birth to a baby girl for me. Although our child is a girl, I prefer it because daughters are the caring little cotton-padded jackets of their parents. The arrival of children has really brought us a lot of joy. Our family is enjoying themselves and living a happy and warm life.

04, my wife cheated on her during marriage, and she and I finally chose to divorce.

Originally, I had my own business and the income was good. My wife works in a hospital and has a fixed income every month. This kind of life is the envy of many people. However, as my children grew up, I found that Li Wenli's feelings for me gradually faded away. When our children entered kindergarten, a major change occurred in our relationship. I discovered that Li Wenli had an affair during marriage. That day, I walked onto the street and suddenly saw Li Wenli walking past a supermarket with a man laughing and joking.As they walked, the man even held Li Wenli's hand.

Now, I was surprised and angry. However, I immediately suppressed my anger and decided to find out the truth of the matter. After several follow-ups, I determined that Li Wenli had an improper extramarital relationship with one of her old classmates. One time while Li Wenli was taking a shower, I used Wenli's power-on password that I had secretly discovered to open her phone. I found evidence of her chats and videos with her old classmates, and sent them to my phone. I showed the evidence to Li Wenli. Li Wenli was stunned for a long time. Finally, she admitted that she had cheated on her and was willing to leave the house. Just like that, after three days of painful thinking, she and I finally chose to divorce.

05, one year after the divorce, I met the beautiful Jiang Xiuli.

Li Wenli and I divorced, and my mother was very angry. She always said that Wenli was very good and asked me not to worry about her cheating. I know that my mother's chronic illness was cured by Wen Li, and she liked Li Wenli very much. After all, Li Wenli was very good at life and work, and was very polite and filial to my mother. Now that she is gone, she naturally feels very lost. However, feelings are often things that cannot tolerate a grain of sand, let alone one's partner's cheating.

One year after the divorce, through the introduction of others, I met a woman named Jiang Xiuli. Jiang Xiuli is a primary school teacher who is also divorced, but she has never given birth, and she had to choose to divorce because her husband cheated on her after one year of marriage. After we got to know each other, we both felt that we were the same fallen people in the world, so we naturally felt sympathy for each other. After a period of contact, we both felt that the other party was trustworthy, so we formally established the relationship and became lovers.

06, we hit it off, and we got married six months later.

Jiang Xiuli is actually a very beautiful woman. Her beauty is not only reflected in her appearance, I think Jiang Xiuli's beauty is reflected in her intellectual and elegant temperament. Some people say that an elegant woman is a woman among women. She is the best among the best. She has a certain cultural background, level of cultivation, and life experience. Moreover, Jiang Xiuli’s intellectual, beautiful and generous dress makes her appear capable, sober and healthy.

Jiang Xiuli teaches in a primary school in the city. Her daily life is very simple. She is either going to work or going home. Jiang Xiuli likes to read books and listen to music. For this reason, I often follow her to the library to read books and to music bars to listen to music. I think Jiang Xiuli is a very cultured woman, and I feel lucky to know such a woman. Every time I walk with Jiang Xiuli, I feel special. Just like this, after half a year of love, we finally entered the palace of marriage again and lived a married life of husband and wife.

07, my ex-wife often comes to see the children, and my mother keeps them for food.

We are both married for the second time, and we have all experienced the hurt of marriage. For this reason, we especially cherish this marriage. We carefully guarded each other's emotional wounds and didn't let our past marriage get in the way of our new one. I said to Jiang Xiuli: "Xiuli, I am really lucky to meet you again in this life. I will definitely cherish the relationship between us and I will help you grow old together." After listening to my words, Jiang Xiuli leaned happily in my arms. However, since Li Wenli and I divorced, Li Wenli came to see the children.

Although Li Wenli and her colleague had an emotional entanglement for a period of time after she divorced me, she still failed to achieve success in the end. Now Li Xiuli is still living alone. However, she often came to see the child. My mother was very happy when she saw Li Xiuli coming to see the child. Every time she came, she enthusiastically held Wen Li's hand, asked her questions, and kept her room and board. I know that my mother is good to Li Wenli, and the child also needs her mother's company. Sometimes it is inconvenient for me to say anything, but every time Wenli comes, Jiang Xiuli is always unhappy. However, Jiang Xiuli is a well-educated person. She holds back every time, but I can see this.

08, for the tenth time I finally got angry: Mom, do you want me to divorce again?

Just like that, every time Li Wenli came to see her children, my mother would enthusiastically hold Wenli's hand, chat with her, and chatter non-stop. And she seemed to have forgotten Jiang Xiuli. She seemed to have forgotten that her current daughter-in-law was Jiang Xiuli. I saw it in my eyes and felt angry in my heart. Every time my ex-wife comes, I secretly comfort Jiang Xiuli. I always feel a little sorry for her. I feel that I can't go on like this anymore. For the tenth time, my ex-wife came to see the kids again. This time, my mother wanted Li Wenli to stay.

Now, I finally got angry. While the child and Li Wenli were not at home, I got mad at them: "Li Wenli, every time you come to see the child, I won't allow you to eat or sleep in our house anymore! You have divorced me, and according to the law, we no longer have any relatives. It doesn’t matter! Also, Mom, let me tell you, you keep Li Wenli for food and accommodation every time you come. You know your current wife is Jiang Xiuli, not Li Wenli. Do you still want me to divorce you for the second time?” When saw me getting angry, Li Wenli left angrily, and my mother also entered the house unhappy.

09, conclusion.

Friends, every time my ex-wife comes to see the children, my mother keeps her room and board. Is this right for her? ? Later, I got mad and refused to let my ex-wife stay at my house for food and accommodation. I even got angry at my mother. Do you think I did the right thing? In fact, I think that when a man divorces a woman, he must know how to keep these bottom lines to avoid changes in his new family:

First of all, we can regard our ex-wife as our friend. After divorce, it is not something that is unforgivable. It is actually acceptable to treat your ex-wife as an ordinary friend, let her come and see the children, or give her a little help if she has any difficulties. There is no need to treat the other party as your enemy. Secondly, we must respect our ex-wife’s choice. After the divorce, the ex-wife may have a new emotional life. No matter who she chooses, we should not interfere. It is best if we respect each other's choices and stay safe with each other. Third, do not have close contact with your ex-wife. I think this is very important. No matter what, because we are divorced, if we are still too close to our ex-wife, it will be disrespectful to our current family. Only in this way can we properly protect the newly established family. Everyone said, is this so? Everyone is welcome to leave a message and discuss in the comment area. Thank you all.

[About the author of ]: Uncle Nanshan focuses on writing original emotional stories, folk tales and emotional beautiful articles, and has published 6 books on emotions, beautiful articles and stories. All major self-media platforms have originally added V authors. Each major platform has accumulated millions of fan authors, and the cumulative clicks on each major platform have exceeded 600 million times. Uncle Nanshan aims to give you more positive stories through simple words, tell you some principles of life, and realize some beautiful little blessings in life.