Each of us is an independent individual with his own personality, but when you encounter problems or troubles, there will always be someone to help you. When this person is your relative or friend, or even a stranger, everyone should respect each other.
After all, the people we travel the most in this life are relatives. In the eyes of many people, if there is no blood relationship, then we are considered relatives. And if we talk about strangers, it may be more of a "passer-by" status. None of us should shut out the people we love most. When we encounter difficulties, we always have the person closest to us who can help us solve the difficulties. Although there are certain differences between these two situations, they cannot be said to be completely unrelated situations.
Zhang Hua (pseudonym) is 70 years old this year. Although he is retired now, this does not hinder his life at all. After retiring, Zhang Hua chose to go to his daughter's home for retirement. Because her daughter is his only daughter, she must have a companion in her old age so that she can live more comfortably.
Zhang Hua lives with his daughter and son-in-law. Because his home is large and can be moved around at will, he basically does not need to go to his daughter's home for retirement. Before Zhang Hua, there were two daughters in the family who were very filial to their parents. But because they have already married and started a business, they don’t have much financial burden now. Not long after Zhang Hua retired, she went to her daughter's home to take care of herself, mainly because she was afraid that no one would take care of her when she got old.
When my daughter and I asked to go, her son refused. The reason is very simple, that is, I feel that it is not safe for my parents to run around outside when they are old. Moreover, he also said that his parents are older and they would feel distressed if something happened to them. After all, their children still have work obligations.
But the daughter is different. She feels that she has arranged everything for her father. Now I have a job and a family with two children to take care of, and I can still go see their family. When I asked to go, her son rejected me directly and said that he was just here to visit his parents. I feel like an outsider in my daughter’s mind.
In life, my daughter has always taken good care of me, cooking for me every day and taking care of my daily life. But what I didn't expect was that he was very indifferent to me for a period of time after my daughter got married? Maybe it's because after having a daughter, I felt that I had not fulfilled my responsibilities as a father.
It was precisely because of this incident that I had some changes in my opinion of him. Sometimes in our lives we cannot equate the people closest to us with strangers, but it is also because of this that we can understand them better. And when a stranger helps you and takes care of you, you should know how to be grateful.
I spent the living expenses my daughter gave me on myself. Later, I gave my daughter some money to stop buying things for myself. But now I find that my daughter doesn’t want to spend money on herself at all. I also understood why my daughter didn’t live with me, and she still felt comfortable being with me.
But I didn’t expect that when I went to my daughter’s house this time, I was severely taught a lesson. It also made me understand a truth, that is, we must pay attention to the sense of boundaries when getting along with others. We cannot blindly ask for others, we must also know how to respect others, so as to make life more harmonious. Do you think the 70-year-old Sister Wang did the right thing in taking care of her daughter’s family? Everyone is welcome to express their opinions.
Half a month later, I saw the first truth clearly. It turned out that my son-in-law’s family was not as good as outsiders said, and my daughter’s family would only treat their own family as a “free nanny”. Many elderly people attribute the reason why they cannot take good care of themselves to their unfilial children. In fact, this is not unreasonable.
If you can't do something yourself, don't force others to do it. If you want to take care of yourself, you should start with yourself.So no matter what problems you encounter in the future, you should think carefully about what kind of situation caused it? Only in this way can we solve the problem better.
We all know that children are the heart and soul of their parents. For parents, children are like the apple of their eye. No matter when, the elderly still hope that they have a child to accompany them, but they cannot blindly place their hopes on their children.
Elderly care still requires the support of sons and daughters-in-law, although many people now say that caring for the elderly still requires the support of children. But now most families may still have only one child, so it may save some trouble for the elderly if they have a son and daughter-in-law to help take care of the children.
When the elderly are not sure whether they are their biological children, try not to place their hopes on others. Otherwise, it will easily lead to disappointment and a sense of gap, and the children will feel like outsiders when they grow up, so the elderly will have even less sense of existence. If possible, you might as well bring your child to live with you for a while.
If you can't solve the problem yourself, don't bother others. After all, the elderly are a vulnerable group. Many times they will feel embarrassed because of your "help", so it is best to provide them with more conveniences.
Don't interfere in their affairs. After all, some things should not be done by others. If a person keeps meddling in other people's affairs, he is likely to be regarded as a white-eyed wolf by others. This will cause many good things to be buried.
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