(The pictures on the Internet have nothing to do with the text content) What does marriage bring to women? Firewood, rice, oil and salt, chicken feathers all over the ground, covered with trivial things. When I got married to my ex-husband, I wanted to be a career woman, but I go

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What does marriage bring to women? Firewood, rice, oil and salt, chicken feathers all over the ground, covered with trivial things.

When I got married to my ex-husband, I wanted to be a career woman, but within a year after we got married, I got pregnant. 26 years old seems to be the best age to be a mother, but I am also on the rise in my career, and the company is preparing to promote me.

I hesitated for a long time and struggled repeatedly. I even regretted it when I reached the operating room. In the end, I decided to keep the child. I thought that as long as I worked harder, I thought that as long as the pregnancy did not affect my work, I could keep my job. However, not all companies will tolerate a pregnant woman, especially private companies. They are unwilling to give maternity leave to pregnant women, and they are unwilling to delay the company's operations because of a pregnant woman. Even if the labor contract states that maternity leave is provided, they will find ways to make you voluntarily resign.

When I was five months pregnant, the company began to ignore me, and in the name of caring about me, it visited me three times a day, just to get me to leave my job. I'm not a thick-skinned person, so I followed the company's instructions and filled out the resignation application form.

I thought that as long as the child is born, as long as the child is half a year old, I can return to the workplace, and everything will still be done in time. But my father-in-law and mother-in-law said that this child had nothing to do with them. They said that they had already raised their son and did not want to raise a grandson. They said that I gave birth to a child and raised it by myself. They even refused to take care of me during my confinement period. I have no choice but to be a stay-at-home mom with my palms up.

As a new mother, you have to figure out everything on your own. I don’t even understand why my child cries day and night. When I am most embarrassed, when the child cries, I cry too. My ex-husband accused me, saying that I couldn’t be a mother, that I couldn’t take care of a child, that he worked hard enough, and that I couldn’t take care of the child and prevent him from sleeping peacefully. During that time, a fierce quarrel broke out between me and him, and our relationship as husband and wife fell to a freezing point, and I didn’t even know who to blame and who to resent? It seems that none of them are wrong, the only one who is wrong is me.

When my child was two and a half years old, I sent him to kindergarten and stumbled back to work. But it was not that easy to balance career and family. We are a small place, and most companies require you to work overtime, but your children need to be picked up and dropped off. Not only does he need to be picked up and dropped off, but he also has a lot of life. My ex-husband is busy at work and can't take leave. I can, but after I took too much leave, my boss didn't want to. I could only find jobs again and again, and was forced to resign again and again.

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My ex-husband still doesn’t understand me. He thinks it’s because I didn’t take care of my children, because I can’t do my job well, because I’m lazy, because I use my children as an excuse to not want to work. I don’t understand a man’s thinking. It’s normal for him to be unable to take care of his children because of work, but it’s because I’m incompetent for me to be unable to take care of my children because of work. I tried to communicate with him, tried to let him understand me from my perspective, but he only said one word: "You are stupid, how can others take care of both, and why can't you take care of both."

Other people's parents-in-law can provide support, but your parents can't?

Later, I asked my parents to help me take care of my children, and we finally lived a stable life for two years.

We bought a car, bought a house, and entered a well-off life in the eyes of others. The child needs to go to elementary school, and my parents can no longer help me take care of the child. I discussed with my ex-husband and asked my parents-in-law to come over to help pick up the child, or even just pick up the child, not drop him off. My parents-in-law still said that the child has nothing to do with them and we should take care of it ourselves. My ex-husband said that my salary and career development were not as good as his, so he told me to just take good care of my children.

I also want to take care of both. I even thought about hiring a nanny, but the cost of hiring a nanny is about the same as my monthly salary. I just had to leave my job again. Without my share of income, the pressure on my ex-husband doubled. He felt that it was all my fault and that I was dragging him down. Then he cheated on me openly and confidently with a female colleague in their unit.

I thought about getting back together, but his attitude was obviously to keep the red flag at home and the colorful flags flying outside. I couldn't tolerate this kind of humiliation. I argued with him for a long time before he agreed to divorce.The marriage was divorced, but there was no way to heal the hurt caused by his cheating on me during the marriage. I was depressed for a long time, and even felt that the efforts I had made in the past ten years were not worth it. It took me nearly two years to get over this recurring emotion.

In order to support myself and my children, I worked hard and only slept five or six hours a day. In order to let my children eat well, I worked extra hard to learn cooking skills. I try to take him out to play as much as possible, not wanting him to be affected by my divorce from my ex-husband.

Now, I have finally survived. Although my income is not high, it is enough to support my life and that of my children. Things were not going well with my ex-husband. He is in debt and may not be able to repay it for the rest of his life, and the person who put him in debt is the mistress. He and his mistress are not married, they are still in a fooling around relationship. It is impossible for a mistress to marry a man who has no house, no car and is heavily in debt, and it is also impossible for him to marry a woman who is flirtatious. Yes, he found out that his mistress was hooking up with other men behind his back.

His parents are old and need him to take care of them, but he is so depressed that he can't even support himself. Because of his downfall, he was often criticized and complained by his parents. His life was not only a mess, but also fell into an irreversible trough.

I don’t know if he regrets it later, but I don’t regret it. I finally struggled out of that marriage that made me feel tired and painful.

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Summary : People often say that wives are other people's good things, and children are all their own good things. Why are other people’s wives good? Because you only see the good side of other people's wives. A beautiful face requires money to maintain, and beautiful hands do not know how to wash clothes and cook. A stable mood is because she has someone who loves her, and she does not have to face all the bad things in marriage.

what about you? If you don’t have money to buy cosmetics or high-quality clothes for your wife, why do you think she’s a yellow-faced woman? Forget it if you don’t have money, you still don’t contribute, you don’t worry at all about things at home and outside the home, so why do you accuse her of not being able to manage a family? You don’t care about the child’s eating, drinking, and urination, and you don’t care about the child’s education. Why do you say she can’t raise a child well? You leave all the messy things to her, and you still expect her to have a stable mood. Do you think your wife is a god?

Don’t just see the goodness of other people’s wives, but also see the goodness of other people’s husbands. If you can’t be one-tenth as good as someone else’s husband, you won’t be able to have a wife as good as someone else’s. Some people bought flowers from the same nursery, but they grew them well, others died, and others left them half dead. Is it a problem with the flowers? It's clearly a problem with the flower grower. For example, it is not appropriate, but this is the principle.

Men all think that true love is outside of marriage. They feel that the woman outside marriage knows them best and is the best, but they forget that it is his wife who has given birth to his children, and it is his wife who is with him and who accompanies him. A wife can replace a lover, but a lover may not make a good wife.