I am 35 years old this year. I divorced my ex-husband five years ago. The reason for the divorce at that time was that my ex-husband had a woman outside, and I found out, and then I asked for a divorce. We had a son who was 4 years old at the time and was sentenced to our ex-husband.
Shortly after the divorce, her ex-husband married that woman.
And a year after I divorced my ex-husband, I also found a man to marry. I married a man who was three years younger than me. This man and I were married for the first time. His family was very poor, but he treated me well. But the only drawback was that after five years of marriage, I never gave birth to a child for the two of us.
It’s not that I don’t want to give birth. I have been pregnant in the past five years, but I miscarried twice due to physical reasons. The doctor said that I may not be able to have another baby in the future.
Actually, I don’t have a strong desire to have children. After all, I have given birth to a child and am a mother, so I don’t have a strong desire to have children. But my second-married husband doesn’t think so, because after all, he is married for the first time, and I can see that he really wants a child.
I am quite sorry for this result. I also want to give my husband a child. After all, he has not been a father yet.
Seeing that there was no hope for me to have a child, my husband said, "How about we adopt a child through formal procedures. We only need to be close to him since he was a child and be filial to us when he grows up."
I am very hesitant about my husband's suggestion. To be honest, if I can have a child, I would be willing to give my husband another child. But if I were asked to adopt a child and raise it from such a young age, I don't think I would have the patience at all. I don't want to raise a child who has no blood relationship with me.
When my husband saw that I was not enthusiastic, he knew that the adoption of a child was not going to happen, and he was very disappointed with me. We often quarreled over this, and after the quarrel, we were separated.
But at this time, my ex-husband suddenly sent me a message saying that he wanted to remarry.
It turned out that after the ex-husband married that woman, he also gave birth to a child, but for some reason it did not grow too long. When the child was more than 1 year old, they divorced, and the woman left holding the child she gave birth to.
My son is now ten years old. During the past few years of divorce, I rarely visited him. My ex-husband sent me messages saying that my son misses me very much. He often asks my mother when she will come home.
I felt really bad after hearing this. My ex-husband said, let’s remarry, even if it’s just for our son, who is not as pitiable as his mother.
After my ex-husband’s persuasion, I was really shaken. I was thinking that if I remarried my ex-husband, I wouldn’t have to raise a strange child.
If I don't remarry, I'm afraid I won't be able to stay with my current husband for long, because it won't work if I don't have children. Although he didn't divorce me because I couldn't have children and Qingyuan adopted one with me, I was reluctant from the bottom of my heart. Even if I really adopted one, I wouldn't be able to take care of the child with peace of mind. Wouldn't that be harming an innocent child.
If I divorce this husband, he can find another one and have a child of his own, but no matter who I marry after the divorce, I will never have another child. A woman who is infertile may have to marry a man who is much older than herself. It is better to remarry.
But after my divorce, will my ex-husband really accept me from the bottom of his heart? They say a good horse never turns back, but for the sake of my son, should I turn back?
This is the story of a divorced woman who remarries and gets divorced again. Life is so ridiculous, going around in circles and wanting to go back to the starting point.
Because this woman could no longer have children, she thought of remarrying her ex-husband. If she could have children, she would definitely not have the idea of remarrying.
And what about her ex-husband? He said that he asked to remarry his ex-wife so that his son could have a biological mother. It was nothing more than divorcing his second wife. If he didn't divorce, he wouldn't think of remarrying his ex-wife.
Now both of them keep saying that they should remarry for the sake of their son.
I really want to say that your son will not take the blame. If you two live a good life, no one will think about whether your son has a biological mother. You are obviously planning for yourself, but you still pretend to be so great.
In fact, the culprit in this story is the ex-husband. If he had not cheated, his wife would not have divorced him, and his son would not have lost maternal love. Now that he is divorced and he begs his ex-wife to come back, how much love is there? It's just a matter of settling for the next best thing.
If the two of them remarry, will they really be able to live well? Don't forget that it was this man who cheated first and betrayed the family when his son was so young. If he could have considered the child at that time, he probably wouldn't have done such a thing. Will a person's quality suddenly change for the better?
The saddest thing in this story should be that the woman's first husband spent five years in a relationship in vain. In the end, the woman still wanted to remarry her ex-husband, and he got nothing. If he had not married this woman but married another woman, I am afraid that his current children would all be spoiled.
people! Finding a partner is sometimes like a blind man trying to figure out an elephant, and I really don’t know how it will end.
Do you think this woman should divorce her first husband and then remarry her ex-husband?
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