Mr. Zhou Guoping once said:
"In addition to eating and sleeping, there is nothing more than doing things and interacting with people. They constitute the main content of life."
This is indeed the case. No one in this world can truly live on an island. We will always meet some people and we will always communicate with some people.
It's just that sometimes language can become a weapon that hurts a person, and language can become explosives buried on the road of life.
There are too many unnecessary troubles in this world that start from talking without hesitation. We always think that it is just like this, but we don’t know that the speaker has no intention and the listener has the intention, and ultimately makes ourselves suffer in vain.
If a person never knows how to restrain himself when speaking and talks to everyone, he will easily offend others in the long run and will get himself into unnecessary trouble.
When getting along with others, you know how to hide some words in your stomach instead of saying them to everyone.
01: Talking bad about people behind their backs
A senior sister once gave me this advice: Speak the truth in front of others and speak well behind others.
I didn’t feel deeply about it at the time, and it wasn’t until I had more experiences that I felt deeply about it. You may be lucky enough not to be caught by the person involved when you say bad things about someone behind their back, but when you say bad words, those who are discussing with you have already silently distanced themselves from you in their hearts.
On the contrary, if a person is used to saying good things about others behind their backs, in addition to avoiding unnecessary troubles, you can also establish a good image and make more people willing to interact with you.
When getting along with others, know how to hide those bad words that slander others.
Perhaps you think that one or two bad words do not have much destructive power, but in fact, over a long period of accumulation, those bad words will not only destroy your credibility, but also cause a fatal blow to the person involved.
Han Feizi once said:
"A gentleman does not hide the beauty of others, and does not talk about the inferiority of others."
Learn to look at the world with appreciation, and you will find that everything will become beautiful.
02: The pain in my heart
Lu Xun's Xianglin's wife is a typical "resentful woman".
Xianglin's wife married Wei Xianglin, who was more than ten years younger than herself, but her husband died not long after. In order not to be sold by her mother-in-law, Xianglin's wife fled to Lu Town and worked as a servant in Lu Si's grandfather's house.
But the good times did not last long, and her mother-in-law found her anyway and sold her to He Laoliu, who lived in the mountains. A few years later, He Laoliu died of illness, leaving behind his wife Xianglin and a son.
Even though she worked hard to live, life did not let her go, and her son eventually died tragically. In desperation, she returned to Grandpa Lu Si's house as a servant.
The series of hardships Xianglin's Wife encountered made her accustomed to complaining.
She would tell her tragic experience to everyone she met. At first, people around her sympathized with her and were more tolerant and kind to her. But over time, everyone got tired of hearing her complaints and no longer paid attention to her, let alone showing any sympathy.
In the end, she was kicked out of Grandpa Lu Si's house, became a beggar, and died in the snowstorm.
Living in this world, whoever has no suffering in his heart will have a smooth life, so don’t always regard yourself as the most miserable person in the world.
If you talk about the suffering you have suffered all day long and talk about it to everyone, you will not only make yourself miserable again and again, but you will also become a joke in the eyes of more people.
03: The unknown secret
There is a saying on the Internet that is very good:
"There is no airtight wall in the world, and there is no one who can definitely keep your secrets."
When we are young and ignorant, we always take trust too lightly, so that we can't wait to tell others our secrets after we meet in a hurry.
At that time, I would always naively think that the other party would keep secrets for me. After all, I had told the other party those unknown secrets, but countless facts were slapping me in the face.
When you get along with others, don't complain that your sincerity will eventually lead to deception and hurt again and again, because the reality is so cruel, and you were just deceiving yourself and others before.
So, don’t overestimate human nature. Keep those unknown secrets to yourself and don’t tell anyone.
Even people you think you trust may not really be worthy of your trust. Maybe when you tell your secrets seriously and nervously, others just think they are hearing a joke.
When getting along with others, I hope you can clearly understand at any time that some words can be said, but some words need to be hidden in the stomach.
I am Aya, a writer of heart-warming emotions. How lucky I am to meet you in this life! Please give us a follow and let’s learn together!
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