Author: Shiyiyan
01: Preface
Marriage needs to be managed, because love is just a temporary impulse. But marriage is not the result of impulse, but two people supporting each other and going to the end together.
"If a person's feelings are too full, they will burst like a balloon."
Feelings are a very wonderful thing. Many times you know clearly that you are wrong, but you still have to bite the bullet and keep going.
When living together, there will inevitably be friction between husband and wife. When conflicts occur, you must learn to resolve them and learn to calm down and think about whether this problem will affect your relationship.
Everyone has their own bottom line and principles. Once some things are touched, it will easily hurt the feelings between you, but some things can solve this problem well.
Getting along between husband and wife is a science. Don't always think that the other person doesn't know anything and that means right or wrong. After a couple gets along for a long time, they will be able to understand what each other is thinking and handle these things well.
Especially for some couples who have been married for many years, they will find that many things can actually be communicated and solved.
If they can communicate with each other in time, the problem will not become so serious.
Therefore, if couples want to stay in harmony for a lifetime, they need to do the following things.
02: Husbands and wives should learn to keep a distance.
We all know that a certain distance is also needed in married life.
If husband and wife do not know how to keep a distance, it will easily lead to conflicts between each other.
As a husband, he needs a certain amount of personal space. If his wife always revolves around him, it will make him resentful over time.
So as a husband, you must learn to give your wife some space and don't always revolve around her.
As a woman, you actually have to learn to keep yourself independent.
You should understand that you and the man are two independent individuals, and in many cases, they do not need us to take care of them.
So don’t think that it’s okay to be good to yourself, but you should run the family well.
03: Between husband and wife, don’t let each other do everything.
In fact, in marriage, the most important thing for husband and wife is to support and help each other. Don’t always show your best side to each other. This will only make the other party feel uncomfortable.
And many times the reason why couples quarrel is not because each other failed to do their jobs well, but because they cannot reach an agreement on certain things.
If one party of two people always gives in, then the other party will slowly get used to this method.
If two people often have a feeling of letting each other do everything, then the contradiction will gradually become bigger and bigger.
And no matter what time it is, two people should treat each other equally.
In fact, as a man, he should place his position higher than that of women, instead of letting women be inferior to him in everything.
In fact, as a wife, you should also put men first when considering problems, so that two people can truly live a happy married life.
04: Don’t be too dominant when getting along as a couple.
As a loving couple, they should respect each other.
As a woman, she can be very strong, but as a man, he must know how to show weakness.
Only in this way can we win the respect of women.
If you are too strong and always control the other person without respecting the other person, then you will make the other person feel very uncomfortable.
Especially in some major matters, if you always don't listen to the other party's opinions, then you will be the only one to clean up the mess in the end.
As a man, if you really can't stand a woman's strength, then it's best not to interfere with her too much.
Otherwise you will only make her more and more unhappy.
05: Husband and wife must understand each other’s thoughts and feelings
In marriage, if one party always shows impatience, then the other party will definitely feel very tired, and there will also be some gaps between the two parties.
As a couple, what we have to do is understand each other's thoughts and feelings.
If two people have a good relationship, then they must tolerate each other.
For some small issues, don't take it too seriously, and learn to say "no". If two people cannot understand and consider each other, then don't force them to do these things.
As a couple, no matter how good the relationship between the two people is, they should not put themselves in a very low position to look at the problem.
In fact, there are many small things in life that can be solved and communicated together.
When one party encounters difficulties, we must provide understanding and support, and the other party also needs to be more tolerant and considerate of the other party.
Marriage is not a child's play but a lifelong matter.
Two people must learn to tolerate and respect each other when they are together. Only in this way can the relationship between each other get better and better.
06: Don’t often accuse your partner in front of outsiders.
As an adult, the last thing you want to see is your partner blaming yourself.
You will always criticize your partner in front of outsiders. For a man, this will make a woman feel that you are hypocritical and do not love her. This is a very big insult.
At the same time, your behavior will also make the other person feel that they are looked down upon, and it will also make the other person feel strongly defensive against you.
There is a strong sense of tacit understanding between husband and wife. This tacit understanding comes from each other's trust in each other.
If such problems arise, there is actually no need to think about it at all, because you have chosen to spend the rest of your life with this person instead of blaming the other person.
The most important thing in marriage is that two people understand and tolerate each other. Only in this way can the marriage become happier and happier.
07: A few words of advice
Marriage is a major event in life. It is not only related to our own happiness, but also to our future happiness.
No matter how much love exists between two people, they must learn to manage their marriage well.
If you want your marriage to last for a long time, then you must not do the above things.
You must know that any relationship needs to be carefully managed. Only if you understand and tolerate each other can your marriage be happier.
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