Introduction: As people get older, some old people choose to sleep in separate beds with their wives for various reasons. This is incomprehensible to some people. If we sleep in separate beds, are we still husband and wife, or are we still partners? They cannot understand this ki

Introduction

As people get older, some elderly people choose to sleep in separate beds with their wives for various reasons. This is incomprehensible to some people. If we sleep in separate beds, are we still husband and wife, or are we still partners?

They can't understand this kind of behavior. Husband and wife should sleep together, otherwise it will affect their relationship too much, and two people like this won't last long.

However, if you really want to say why the elderly choose to sleep in separate beds, there are reasons. They are so that each other can have a good rest, and some are due to external forces...

A year after the 52-year-old Aunt Zhang started dating, she proposed to sleep in separate beds with her partner. This was originally a natural and simple thing, but she did not expect that her partner was very unhappy after hearing her request and started making trouble every day to break up.

Why is the other party unwilling? Why did Aunt Zhang propose sleeping in separate beds? Let’s take a look.

Confidant: 52-year-old Aunt Zhang

I am Aunt Zhang, I am 52 years old this year. My ex-husband and I did not have a good relationship. After our children got married, we chose to divorce. After the divorce, I have been living alone. Because of the misfortune of my marriage, I have no idea of ​​looking for another person.

I have also thought about the future. When my children have children, I will help them. When they no longer need my help, I will live alone.

However, my children are married and they are not anxious about the children, so I put this idea aside for the time being.

Living alone, sometimes it is inevitable that you will feel that something is missing and something is wrong with you. Later, when my good sisters saw that my life was so dull, they asked me to introduce a companion to me.

The other party’s surname is Zhao, and he is 5 years older than me. I usually call him Lao Zhao. Lao Zhao had retired early due to some family matters, but his pension was still pretty good, 6,800 a month.

's conditions are relatively good. In addition, he also has a house where he can collect rent, which adds a lot of impression points to him.

The reason why I am willing to go on a blind date with him is partly due to financial reasons. Since he has good conditions, I don’t have to worry about him coveting my money.

Speaking of which, Lao Zhao and I are also destined to each other. We fell in love with each other at first sight. I think Lao Zhao is quite capable of doing things. Life becomes less boring after being with him.

And when Lao Zhao fell in love with me, I had to be virtuous and able to talk to him. Unlike some people, he said for a long time that others couldn't understand what he said.

We have been together for about three months. Regarding the question of whether to remarry or get married, we both chose to get together. First, remarriage is too troublesome, and second, there are many problems involved, and I hate trouble.

After living together, Lao Zhao treated me as gently and patiently as he did when we were in love. There were basically no quarrels between us, and Lao Zhao would let me go every time.

And I will treat him twice as well and take good care of him because he is good to me. When I encounter a problem, I may be angry at the time, but when I calm down, I will sit down with him to discuss and communicate our ideas.

Another thing that makes me happy is that Lao Zhao will help me cook, or cook for me occasionally. He said: Men can also cook well and make delicious food. Cooking for their lover is full of happiness.

His thoughtfulness drove away my uncertainty and fear about partnering up. I had a failed marriage, and I was worried about whether I would be able to live well together.

Lao Zhao used his actions to warm my heart, make me feel happy, and gradually let go of my hanging heart.

Because we are very happy together and live a happy life. Although there is occasional friction, it is normal. If there is no friction, I will feel a little fake.

However, there was also a relatively big conflict between us. Lao Zhao also asked me to break up because of this conflict. This made me secretly ask myself, did I do something wrong?

The thing is very simple. I am a relatively light sleeper. I wake up easily if there is a little noise at night, and then it is more difficult to fall asleep.

As for Lao Zhao, due to physical reasons, he needs to get up late at night and go to the toilet several times. Every time he goes to the toilet, he makes a little loud noise and coughs from time to time.

I was often woken up by his movements, and then couldn't fall asleep for a long time, resulting in severe sleep deprivation and discomfort. I can make up for it once or twice, but doing it every day is torture to me.

I believe that people who have poor sleep quality and have difficulty falling asleep understand that I am in pain.

In the past, when I was alone, I would close the windows tightly and sleep. If I was alone and quiet, I would be fine.

After getting together with Lao Zhao, he was not like this at the beginning. He was like this during this period, which really made me collapse. Every time I finally fell asleep, Lao Zhao made some noise, and I couldn't enter a deep sleep.

I couldn’t rest well, and my body gradually became unable to bear it, and I felt extremely haggard. In order to solve this problem, I bought myself a sleep earplug , but found that it still didn't work that well.

In order to let myself sleep peacefully, I thought about going to the doctor with Lao Zhao. He was not like this before. If he was sick, he would see a doctor. If he was not sick, he would just buy peace of mind.

Unexpectedly, as soon as he brought it up, Lao Zhao became extremely angry and was not willing to go. He even kept saying that he was not sick and did not need to see a doctor.

I don’t quite understand. I’m just taking a look. It’s not about anything. Why is he so resistant? Moreover, I will accompany him.

Lao Zhao didn't want to, and I couldn't force him to go. He accepted death and thought that he was not sick and didn't need to see a doctor. Instead, he said that I had too many things to do.

There was nothing I could do. In order to allow myself to sleep better and to avoid causing quarrels, I asked Lao Zhao to sleep in separate beds. This is better for both of us, we can both sleep peacefully, and he doesn't have to go to the doctor.

But when I suggested sleeping in separate beds, Lao Zhao got angry at me. He said, "It's not a big problem for me to wake up at night. Are you making such a fuss? I used to be so good to you, but you are not willing to tolerate me even for such a small thing. Husband and wife should sleep in the same bed. What do you mean by suggesting sleeping in separate beds?"

Dislike me? I don't accept this kind of partnership between neighbors during the day and night. If you insist on sleeping in separate beds, then let's break up. "

I was confused at the time. How could Lao Zhao propose to break up? Although we have only been together for a short time, we have been living happily.

I really hope that we can go on for a long time. How could he propose to break up the partnership? Besides, I suggested sleeping in separate beds for our mutual benefit.

What Lao Zhao said made me feel very uncomfortable and sad. It turns out that we can break up at any time, and I have no place in his heart at all.

Feeling sad, I moved out of the original room and went to sleep in another room. Neither of us left the other, and we started a cold war cold war .

A week passed, and when Lao Zhao saw that I had not moved back, he started to get angry again. He found reasons to quarrel with me every day, blaming me for not being considerate of him.

As a result, cracks appeared in the relationship between the two of us. Our originally happy life slowly turned a corner and became full of contradictions and anger.

I don't know what I did wrong? But let me give up on him. I’m a little reluctant to let him go. But when I moved back, I couldn’t rest well. I felt haggard every day and my body couldn’t bear it. It was really a dilemma.

Sometimes, I not only think, can Lao Zhao stop being selfish and think more about me? Isn’t it just for the two of us that I propose to sleep in separate beds? Why is he so stubborn? What should I do?

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If sleeping in separate beds is good for both of you, this is also a good choice. When you get older, you want to be with you, and everything else is secondary.

Sometimes, only by taking a step back and thinking more about each other can we go a long way. The happiness in life comes from you giving me a share, and I giving you a share.

Being strong will only slowly dissolve the original happiness and eventually lead to separation.

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